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Lessons Achieved in an Adoptive Country

Updated on November 4, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Croatia is a beautiful country, with peace and freedom

Lessons learned in Croatia!

Years have gone by, and I still share my lessons learned from my adoptive country, with my readers about Croatia. Writing about such experiences gives me a better perspective of my lifestyle.

Lessons are learned daily, by everyone it is how you grasp those lessons, and it is what matters to you and me. In everything, I experienced I learned a lesson.
Everything I first experienced has been a lesson to me.

I am courageous, confident, and happy in my new discoveries in my adoptive country, Croatia. It was tough and I had many setbacks, and failures before I got to a steady platform.

The rough climb taught me about life indeed! Time healed wounds but did not clear the scars. It is such scars that remind me of how I lived in my past life and of how I improved a different lifestyle.

The many changes and plans allowed for progress in this life.
I couldn't let go for a while of what my life was in the past. Nobody understood that part of my life. The memories live on and I treasure that.

The ability to accept the situation, I realized how courageous I have been and of what I learned along the way to feel this way. An experience allowed me to let go of my anger, and bitterness I had when the change affected me in a foreign country.

Happiness comes from within, and as long as I have my happiness everything else will slowly come to me. I am responsible for my happiness, and no one can or will make me happy, that part is up to me, to be happy and free from the negativity around the community.

A walk in the countryside, or a treat, a simple conversation with friends, and family is how I feel happy. Overall, I am a happy person. That is what I call true happiness from within and not from other people.

What offers you happiness?

The point is, I appreciate what I have and if any extras that is a bonus. If any person doesn’t appreciate what they have, they won’t appreciate anything else for a much longer period.

How could they appreciate the fancy things if they don't first appreciate the little things?

People who do this has an emptiness that is not being filled from within, and this emptiness can't be filled from the outside. A lesson learned, I shouldn't hold on to anger.

The best is to let go of that anger to move on, and to forgive each other for the little or the big squabbles. I don't keep anger it would destroy me and would have made me feel like, I don't have any good qualities.

Good qualities over ride the bad qualities in people. Anger makes people perform actions they are likely to regret later. The best is to move away from that emotion quickly. To let go of hurt you live better, and allow yourself to experience more happiness than sadness.

Skills developed is based on what you conquer daily. The reality is you can't forget anything that happened to you but you can try to make peace with yourself. Whether you are living in your birth country, or in an adoptive country, life is what you make of it.

Acceptance is key to a new life and a new beginning in your chapter of stories. In life, you need the basics, and the extras are part of what you spoil yourself with.You need to communicate, to be with good people. Those you can count on at all times.

The experience allowed a part of me to receive, to accept, and to interpret, and to gain the knowledge of what is around me. A purpose I couldn't ignore, I needed that in my life.

A whole new understanding of a different culture, was required of me to gain the knowledge of this culture, the language, the people, the new surroundings, and the approach was sudden. I opened my self to an unknown lifestyle, and figured out the secrets of life here, had to know how to move forward effectively.

Physically, emotionally, spiritually, and with an openness on knowing how to live a life in a different country. An overwhelming experience it has been and facing up to my challenges showed the greater purpose of life.

The willingness to learn a foreign language wasn't in me at first. Without having to be willing I couldn't do it from day one. Being unwilling to speak the Croatian language allowed for a lengthier time to speak the foreign language.

To overcome the behaviors of other people accepting me or to those who don't accept me didn't affect me in any way. I am unique and realize in a small community like I live in, there is no doubt their curious minds are wondering about me.

It often occurred to me that if I have something to say to someone it had to be in the right place, and at the right time. To deal with issues I needed to know how and when to do it.

Lessons learned are lessons you shouldn’t forget in your every day life actions, or communications.

The great challenges have shown me how to understand people and a new culture with an open mind. Expressions come in different methods make the most of that. I had taken to gardening, and enjoy this pass time. New experiences have made life feel better in Croatia.

A simple life can get complicated if you make it complicated!

What is important?

Knowledge and wisdom!

Wise and older teaches you to be more thoughtful in your decisions as I have learned in time. People do make the same mistakes twice, though I prefer to learn from my mistakes the first time round.

I grew wiser and am able to share my experiences with others. The knowledge gained in this experience through being educated about a foreign country, has shown the way of life and resolved problems.

When you look at a problem and know how to solve that, it tells you of your wisdom and knowledge you have for that problem.

You recognize, explain, and embrace others in society, and to be able to accept one another, and get to know one another is a reality. I felt this way and found my new self in this life.

There are harmful situations and you need to show your kindness throughout those moments, Value what you have and understand why you have that. First, think of what you want in your life before you judge others in their lifestyles.

I learned through others and who gave me the chance to achieve my new lifestyle here. A lifestyle unknown to me but just what I need for myself. Time spent communicating with the local people got me wiser in our small neighborhood.

I trust that my views on lessons learned and wisdom has enlightened you about humanity and its experiences. Various problems affected my daily lifestyle, and through that I saw my new culture.

Anyone can live in foreign country but this is only if one can adapt to such lifestyle changes. A life for you to start over and to feel safe and happy in your environment. Be strong and believe in yourself to move on to another chapter in your life.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      2 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Vivian Sudhir, thank you for comments on my hub. My experience living in a foreign country has made me stronger, smarter, and more positive about my different lifestyle. I live in the most southern part of Croatia and have had many obstacles to live my life as I wished. I am pleased to say that I created my life and it is behind me. I appreciate your time to stop by.

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      Vivian Sudhir 

      2 months ago from Madurai, India

      Hello Devika,

      It is a wonderful write up and I quite enjoyed the video about Croatia especially the visit to the islands. It is heartening to hear about your experience to learn a new language, hopefully, it is behind you now.

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      Devika Primić 

      7 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron E Shenko it has been most difficult and sometimes it feels like these tough moments will never go away. Thank you verymuch for stopping by.

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      7 months ago from Texas

      Devika, thank you for sharing your life experiences with your readers and followers. I know it would be very hard for me to live in a new country, I am so glad you are making the best of it.

      Blessings my dear friend.

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      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Linda Crampton, thank you very much for comments. My experience has been a roller coaster ride and the ride feels smoother after fifteen years.

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      Linda Crampton 

      9 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I very much agree with the idea that we need to appreciate the little things in life before we consider the big things. Congratulations on your progress in Croatia, Devika. Your experience must have been difficult.

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      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Chittangada, thank you for your comment. The challenging lifestyle has taught me many lessons. Appreciate your comments.

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      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Dora so kind of you to share your lovely comment here. My positive attitude has made many friends and allowed for greater challenges and with lessons to continue learning in my adoptive country. Thank you.

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      Dora Weithers 

      9 months ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, you have a positive attitude that helps you to make progress wherever you are. Treasure the friends you have and learn from each other. Thanks for sharing.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      9 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Moving to another country can be so challenging. Your experience can prove helpful to many. I have come to know a lot about Croatia, through your hubs. It seems to be a beautiful place.

      Nice and interesting article. Thanks for sharing!

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      Bill Holland 

      9 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Great lessons no matter where you live and under any circumstances...thank you for sharing with us.

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      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      John Hansen thank you for a lovely comment life is what i is, Challenging, risky and adventurous if you make it that way. I have done just that.

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      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you for comments. It is sometimes difficult for me missing family, etc. I am just happy to have freedom.

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      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eric Dierker thank you for the kind comment, Challenges made me stronger with a daily prayer.

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      John Hansen 

      9 months ago from Queensland Australia

      I applaud you, Devika, in how you have handled the move to a new country and your shared insights into how to make it work. I have never lived in another country but imagine it is difficult to adapt.

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      9 months ago from USA

      I can’t imagine being separated from family by such distance for so long. I’ve lived in other states hours away from them, and that was difficult. However, living in a completely different country is something else. You have a lot of tolerance.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well done, both the hub and in your life. It is a challenge to move and live in a different land/culture.


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