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Let Love Define Your Actions

Updated on March 18, 2018

How to Define Yourself

What does it mean to define yourself or other people that you may know? This question has been asked many times. This question has the same meaning for every person, but the answer is always different. To define yourself and other people means being understood correctly. The first meaning is that you are addressing a person's actions, which defines a person in many different ways like positively and negatively. The second meaning is a person's thought process and attitude, which can also be positive or negative. This meaning includes personality traits, flaws, and even habits that a person carries daily.

The two meanings, when intertwined, become one existing definition that defines a person to themselves and to other people, like how they usually are and act. The overall definition of a person includes their likes and dislikes, actions (which most can usually be altered these days), and habits. The definition of a person is important because many people are judged based on their definition. This particular topic is really the answer to the most asked, deepest, and most profound question of all time 'Who am I?'

What Defines You?

A person's actions and attitude are about 95% of what defines a person. A person's actions are a way for that person to learn. A person's actions should always be thought about before being acted upon because the consequences or reaction to those actions chosen may be serious.

A person's attitude is what the world sees when they are making their judgment and also feeding off it. The attitude any person carries can have either a positive or a negative effect on their life and upon the lives of the other people around them. A person's attitude can define them more than their likes and dislikes can. The attitude a person carries is the first thing another person notices about someone else, besides their actions. Negativity and being down all of the time is toxic and contaminating to any person's life, which enhances the need for others to avoid them. When answering the question of what defines you and or other people around you, always notice actions and attitude first, which can best describe the remaining traits of a person for a full picture.

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Let Love Define Your Actions

When acting, sometimes people don't think first. This includes people who drink, but then drive or people who love someone but then hurt them. When thinking about your actions and the actions that define you, do any of them include positiveness and happiness? What about smiling and even compassion? Actions of love should always be a part of what defines a person because this is also the memory that is left with other people when that person passes away. A good definition of that person, with their name and specific dates, is sometimes imprinted on a person's tombstone for remembrance. How would you want the world to remember you and your definition, including what you stood for?

This hub is about letting love define your actions because a person's actions are always what defines them. A person's actions can vary from intention to meaning, but should always include love for a more uplifting way of life, which can lead to positive changes. When love defines a person more than material things and money, this is a more fulfilling and satisfying feeling that will last much longer.


Respect is treating people in a positive manner that acknowledges them for who they are and or what they are doing. Being treated or treating an individual in a dignified manner. Respect is earned and is never just given away. BUT, respect must be given away to receive respect. Treating an individual with dignity and in a respectful manner demonstrates personal character as a person. And the respect will be reciprocated usually. Always behave in a respectful manner because this reflects on your self, character, integrity, and values of who you are as a person.This means understanding a person's different opinions, views, and even beliefs while still showing compassion. This means staying positive when another person does not agree and has a different opinion. Also not interfering with or trying to change that person's opinion. Discrimination is the opposite of respect, which is showing hatred for other people's opinions and differences. Respect is the number one way of letting love define your actions, and you as a person.


Consideration is kindness and thoughtful regard for other people or performing an act of thoughtfulness. Treating others as you would have them treat you (the Golden Rule) is one example of having consideration. Also letting the elderly have your seat is another example of having consideration. Consideration of others is a way of showing thoughtfulness and compassion, which is influenced by love defining a person's actions instead of rudeness. This is a way to demonstrate how respected a person really is. A great example is talking while someone else is talking, which is an example of being inconsiderate, along with disrespectful. Consideration is also best when given away so that others are also considerate in return.

Patience is a Virtue

Having patience is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.This involves contently waiting, no matter what the situation is and or how frustrating it may be. Patience is known also a virtue, which is moral excellence. Letting love define your actions in this way will be a higher way of life while increasing patience that is also returned. When patience is shown by other people for other people, patience will be shown back. It is often said that good things come to those who wait, so maybe this is loving action is so very true.


Kindness is defined as the act of being friendly, generous, and considerate to other humans, animals, or anything. Synonyms include humanity, graciousness, and decency. This is an act or a state of being that includes good behavior, with a pleasant disposition and sincere concern for others. Random acts of kindness are a great way for a person's soul to express having compassion and thought for other people. Natural feelings of contentment, relaxation, and even satisfaction are gained through acts of kindness, and this will also be returned when given away.

The Kindness Paradigm

Do Not Judge

Unfortunately, judgment happens every day in this world, with everyone. To judge is simply to give an authoritative opinion, whether asked to or not. This happens within social groups, personal life, and even within certain communities. Judging a person is not a loving action, which instead is understanding that no one is perfect. Judgment is a very negative action that is hurtful and can be serious. This definition of a person, that they are judgmental, will encourage others to avoid their presence because it is not loving and happy to be around. Instead of judging other people, try to practice these ways on this list to let love define your actions, instead of judgment and negativity.


Forgiveness is the purposeful and completely voluntary process in which a victim of a wrong-doing finally has a change in their feelings and their attitude about that past offense. Finally, they can let go of negative emotions such as bitterness with the ability to wish the offender well. This is a very hard aspect for most people to learn because forgiving is always difficult to do. When people have been hurt by other people, they often do not want to forgive them and wish bad things upon them. Now, respect is always supposed to be given, so forgiving them should also be included. This is difficult, but only time alone can take care of this one. Forgiveness is the foundation to a more secure and happy life along with a loving definition that many people can learn from and be positively influenced by.

© 2012 Cristale Adams


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      Cristale Adams 5 weeks ago from Los Angeles

      Thanks for reading and commenting. Your idea is greatly appreciated.

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      Jay C OBrien 5 weeks ago from Houston, TX USA

      Good article. Here I offer an idea, We are a Soul. The part of the Soul which enters and animates our physical bodies is called our personality. The personality is only a small part of the Soul and remembers very little of its greater self. The idea is for the Personality to better connect with our Soul while still alive. See:

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      Cristale Adams 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      Thank you for reading!

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      manatita44 5 years ago from london

      A strong and loving article. Well-written. You need more readers.