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Let Me Advise... 05/31/10 by Merwin
SUBMIT? All of Me?
This is such volatile touchy subject that it must be handled correctly or you lose the ones your attempting to reach.
The volatility is on both sides of this gender issue and stemming from an inaccurate estimation for what the word submit means. So let us first take a step away from the gender, "powder keg" and re-introduce this topic from a more neutral view.
1Pe 5:5 ¶ Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all [of you] be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.
Most of us don't have the same problem with this as we do with the Husband and Wife submit thing.
The reasons we are more okay with this, has the surface explanation of "well it is simply general respect for your elders" and it does encompass that, but it is really less offensive, because it is not as "in your face", as the other and therefore does not intervene in your existence like the, "Wives submit to your Husbands as unto the Lord" does.
Let us take the fuse out of the powder keg and pour Living Water in through the hole.
In first Peter the description is not only, not in your face... it is moderated by explanation. "Yea all of you be subject one to another..." sets the tone and puts all of it into perspective, even the wives with the husbands verse in Ephesians.
How is this so?
Well, let us look again in first Peter and pick up where we left off, "...and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble." I wanted this to preface the answer to "How is this so?" to moderate my answer.
This is so because...
1) In that, "all" of us being "subject to one another" we are submitting ourselves and subjecting ourselves to the Jesus that is in each of us... as equals. This, while still recognizing the "Elder" in ourselves and in the other as Jesus.
2) Jesus himself, humbly subjected Himself as a servant to His disciples and encouraged them to be the servant of one another, "...would you be great? Then serve your brother. He who is greatest is the servant of all."
3) He was in constant submission to His Father's will. "I do nothing, except that what my Father in heaven has shown me."
4) Though Jesus being "the Greatest" of all Servants, He never hesitated to say the needful thing in his relationships with all those he encountered. And by doing so He maintained His subjection to His Father and His service to those He was sent to serve.
5) In doing this He submitted all of Himself to those He came to serve.
So... in submitting yourself one to another you submit all of yourself. Your values, your character, your thoughts, your strong opinions... all of you... with respect toward your Father, His Son, and the Holy Spirit... that is not only to the person you are submitting to, but that is also in and to yourself.
"So wives submit yourselves to your husbands as unto the Lord", knowing that your submission is all of you, the whole package, including your honest opinions.
Husbands stop looking for a "servant" and become one to the Jesus that is in you and your wife.
You both, can enjoy the powerful strength of being
in agreement with one another and God.