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Reminder Of Love: A Commitment Letter From A Husband

Updated on January 22, 2018
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Annette Sharp holds a BAAS in Behavioral Science from Texas A&M. She is a counselor and motivator with an empathetic heart.

Found A love Letter in a Drawer...

Rummaging through a drawer recently, I found a letter written by a man several years ago at the very beginning of his courtship to his girlfriend. They were both in the doubting phase, yet couldn't deny what was happening. It sparks a memory of newfound love, excitement and exploration. In a flash, all the feelings came bouncing off the page and hit me square in the face.


After reading this letter several times, I recognized a soundness that inspired the urgency to bear both the good and the bad until there is nothing left to give. If ever there was time for renewal, it's now. Everyone knows that marriage is difficult, tedious and sometimes boring. It takes work to sustain a relationship over the years. It's the hardest job you'll ever have! A marriage can withstand anything as long as it has a good foundation. The honesty and commitment are the two main structures for remaining harmonious. I'm no marriage counselor, for sure. But I do know this fact: Marriage isn't about lovey dovey feelings and sex. It's a partnership between two people who have pledged a promise to each other to build a life together. Sometimes it doesn't last. Or maybe the two shouldn't have joined together in the first place. Whatever the outcome, working together to maintain unity is the key to a successful life together. Without both partners contributing, the marriage could be in danger of collapsing. I pray that sharing this letter may inspire and motivate someone who may have been having doubts about their marriage to re-examine why you joined together in the first place.

It read,

Hi, hope this letter finds you in a happy time in every way. I just wanted to write you and tell you how wonderful a Lady you are to me. I sure did enjoy this weekend with you and look forward to our next opportunity to be together again. I want to make you see how very special and precious you are to me. I feel so lacking when it comes to telling you how I feel. I am so attracted to you that I want to do as much as I can to make you know I see a very beautiful woman every time I look at you, even if you aren’t feeling very beautiful at that particular time. You have beauty that everyone cannot see, particularly inside as well as outside. I find myself daydreaming about you constantly and thinking I really feel like you are the woman I have been searching for. I know I was a fool not to see that from the very beginning.

Please don’t doubt me when I say I love you because I am completely content to be with you any time you and our schedules permit. You will have to forgive my inability to express myself with you. I can see that you have the same problem and both of us will have to overcome our doubts which haunt us because of our past experiences. I hope you will allow me to grow closer and more intimate in every part of your life. My fears are the same as yours in a lot of ways. I don’t want to fall in love and then be cast aside as if I were just a used up toy. That is why I hesitate to tell you I love you.

I have been let down by people who say they love me one day and ignore me the next. I can’t help but think that because you have experienced the same thing you will appreciate me and realize I am sincere in this relationship and have high hopes of a lasting (lifelong) romance that will never stagnate. Please believe me when I say

I love you.

Love and xxx’s


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    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      5 years ago from Northeast Texas

      I still love you.....yes, I do. Even though you left me far before I moved out. I think about you every day and still long for your touch. Thank you for the love you were able to share. I am sad that you were not able to sustain the love in your heart. It was difficult, I never wanted it to end. It takes two to agree that help is needed, but when one does not want the help, what do you do?

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      Annette Thomas 

      9 years ago from Northeast Texas

      Thanks Heremia1

    • Heremia profile image


      9 years ago from New Zealand

      Thanks for sharing this experience. It was heartwarming to read such a beautiful letter written by a man.

    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      Sweetsusieg: Thank you very much. Glad to also know that Hubpages is high in google searches!

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      10 years ago from Michigan

      What a lovely treasure to find! BTW, I found this on the first page in a google search! Voted Up!!

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      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      joinme: Thanks!

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      10 years ago

      It's very wonderful

      I wish you happiness


    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      susanlang: thanks!!

      nadp: glad you enjoyed it.

      Harvey Stelman: Dude, you are too cool. Thanks! Yeah, you got me beat. We've been together 12 yrs. I try to remind him daily how lucky he is. Sometimes he forgets. But then, sometimes I forget also.

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      Harvey Stelman 

      10 years ago from Illinois

      Annette, You are prettier than ever! That guy next to you is a lucky man, don't let him forget that. I'm married 32 years, I'll bet I have you beat!

    • nadp profile image


      10 years ago from WEST PALM BEACH, FLORIDA

      What you say about marriage is very true. Thanks for sharing those thoughts.

    • susanlang profile image


      10 years ago

      I can not wait to read your book!

    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      Thanks wordscribe. You see, it was necessary to acknowledge the love at this particular time even though I wasn't feeling it. It's important to do all we can do to rekindle the romance that was in the beginning.

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      10 years ago

      Wow, this hub touched me, donotfear. On so many levels. I have spent some time examining what brought us so close together in the beginning. I'll keep on truckin'. Thanks for the great hub.

    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      Thanks you guys. The important thing here is this: one may not FEEL the love, one may not THINK the love but in so declaring it, the ACTION validates it. So many levels to love....hmmmm.

    • JOE BARNETT profile image


      10 years ago

      warm and sincere! you are lucky!

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      Alfreta Sailor 

      10 years ago from Southern California

      That letter was so touching. He said he was lacking in his ability to tell you how he felt, I beg to differ, he told you very well. Thank you for sharing something so beautiful and personal, donotfear.

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      10 years ago

      I am so glad you had a chance to find that letter and reread it. I have always questioned renewing vows as if couples need the plumage to revive the spark. But maybe it's just a beautiful acknowledgment that somehow a couple has survived. Thanks for your post.

    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      In order to make it work, we must continue to proclaim it as 'working'. We may not 'feel' it inside all the time, may not 'feel' the love continually; yet to continue in the commitment of marriage, it's necessary. I don't always think my husband is a wonderful man, nor does he always like me (I get on his nerves sometimes). But the fact remains, that's what committed love is about.

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      James A Watkins 

      10 years ago from Chicago

      That is a wonderful, heartfelt letter. You are lucky lady to have such a fine husband. God Bless You!

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      Art 4 Life 

      10 years ago from in the middle of nowhere....

      The letter from your husband was very romantic and are lucky to have such a wonderful man. There are so many men out there, that are users, just out to fulfill their own needs, and when their needs are met, they toss the woman's refreshing to see a true loving relationship...congrats on your marriage, it sounds like a good strong one. A true rarity, and a precious gem...

    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      I'm glad to know my hub was encouraging to everyone. It certainly paints a rosy picture, doesn't it? Well, sometimes we have to paint it as 'rosy' in order for it to finally 'feel rosy', ya know what I mean?

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      create a page 

      10 years ago from Maryland, USA

      Your hub is very encouraging donotfear. You and your husband make a beautiful couple. You complement each other. Thanks for sharing.

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      Micky Dee 

      10 years ago


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      10 years ago

      What a beautiful letter. You have a relationship worth nurturing, no matter how many times you have to re-invent yourselves as a couple.

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      Laurel Rogers 

      10 years ago from Grizzly Flats, Ca

      What a lovely memento to have! It sounds like you are extremely happy, and in fact, found the man of your dreams.

    • donotfear profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Thomas 

      10 years ago from Northeast Texas

      Thanks for the comments, guys! Hope it inspires somebody who's been ready to give up.

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      Veronica Allen 

      10 years ago from Georgia

      This was so beautiful donotfear. Thank you for sharing this with us. It's a great reminder to all of us in long-term committed relationships to always remember what drew us together in the first place. If we forget that, than all can easily be lost in this shuffle of this topsy, turvy, upside down world.

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      Hello, hello, 

      10 years ago from London, UK

      You are really lucky to have found such genuine person. I am so glad. I also say it to be on both sides and therfore I am sure you deserve such lovely marriage. All the best wishes

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      10 years ago

      Wonderful hub thanks so much for sharing...and I agree, and I feel its the hardships that make a marriage stronger. I don’t believe a marriage is 50/50...its 100%! of each other. I believe at times if either partner is unable to give the 100% necessary to make it, we need to give the extra to cover the gap that helps keep the relationship working..My wife and I have been together almost sixteen years. God Bless you both.

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      10 years ago

      I seperated in 2008 after a long marriage despite trying my hardest, I am pleased yours worked out ok, nice letter !

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      Hannah Ministries 

      10 years ago

      I love your hub, what a letter! I'm married 12 year and still going strong. I really need to say that i never think that marriage is the hardest thing ever done. As soon i found the Lord Jesus and summit myself to his guidance for MY part in this marriage it went smooth. Man are and will be for always aliens of course, smile, (hope no man read this comment) but by receiving my marriage as a mission field, ministring to my husband, loving him, praying him trough life and just plain don't understand him-but-not make-a-point-of-it I was able to truly make it work. Love you for sharing and i want to compliment you on this nice hub.Blessing


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