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Lies cheating men tell their mistresses
Cheaters and Lies
The one thing every cheater is good at is lying. They can lie their way out of anything and often if you don't find proof you could find yourself clueless. A cheater will lie to cover up his cheating, to start cheating and to excuse cheating.
Lies cheating men tell their mistresses:
Some mistresses are down right nasty - they know that you're married or have a family but are satisfied with being the "side dish" or "chic on the side". There are, however, some that are also lied to and 'played' by the married individual. Here are some lies often told to the mistresses to keep them as the form of entertainment on the side:
1. I love you
'I love you" is the easiset thing to say and yet the hardest to mean. Unfortunately once you know that your husband has been throwing the phrase around to get other people into bed it also becomes the hardest thing to believe ever again.
Many are too trusting of the phrase and it's understandable due to the fact that those who use it (cheating husbands included) are often highly believable when they do.
2. I'm going to leave her for you
Mistresses are often fooled into believing that a married man will leave their wives for them. Maybe it happens once in a blue moon / rarely but more often than not - IT"S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. There will always be another excuse, another date, another postponement of the deed while you keep entertaining this married man.
A married man is often content with the woman he married and satisfied as having her as his wife (keeping her known to his family, having his surname ., etc) while you play the role of the sideline entertainment. Chances are that isn't going to change. If he was really going to leave his wife for you he wouldn't be keeping you a secret but rather end things with his wife and start a proper relationship with you. If he doesn't value you enough to do that then he doesn't value you at all.
3. My wife and I are separated
Technically if a husband and wife are "separated" they are still married so this would still constitute having an affair with a married man and wouldn't be a justified lie told by him. If you're faced with this lie explain the fact that he is still married and that you'd rather not involve yourself unless you were sure they were divorced.
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4. My wife and I aren't romantically involved
Similarly as above, if the marriage is as bad as he makes it out to be wouldn't it be a whole lot simpler to just get a divorce?
5. My wife is cheating on me
Two wrongs don't make a right. If he feels that he can justify the fact that she's cheating on him by cheating on her then even if this were true, it clearly would mean that he's just using you to get back at his wife or even out the playing ground. This is a bad space to be in regardless.
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