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Life lessons - that change your life

Updated on April 10, 2012

Life lesson 1 - Money isn't everything

Money, all of us work hard for that stuff, but money isn't everything, your attitude is. We sometimes work so hard that we forget the world around us, sometimes the world around us becomes an annoyance. We just want to be done with it to get back to work. Money has often become the wedge between people in a family. Money, money, money is all I hear everyday! I wanted to break the routine and fixed a day among other things to spend time with a lonely person, to get on a long chat with a person who cannot get out of her room due to a debilitating disease.

Though it meant that I would lag behind in my schedules I decide to do that, I must confess that this was a practice that had been hit badly because of my preoccupation with Hubpages.


Life lesson 2 - Your attitude is all that matters

The next day when I checked my Hub Page account hardly anyone had read what I had written, just a little bit of traffic from Google and my hubbber score dropped by three points. I felt cheated and upset. I decided that I will not let this feeling overwhelm me… I just took a piece of paper (couldn’t stand working on the computer anymore) and started some retrospection about my day.

I should confess, a pleasurable feeling hit me as I thought of my day with my friend. We had spent a rather pleasant time together, she insisted on making me feel comfortable, I was left admiring her attitude, instead of me doing all those things for her, which was the purpose of my visit, I protested at first but realised that it nade her feel useful. The food was wonderful and I complimented her on her cooking skills, she bloomed with each compliment, she was radiant and satisfied. Our relationship has bloomed with our attitudes.

Learning life lessons

Life is about sharing and gratitude

We had spent time laughing and talking about the things that her children and grand children do not want to hear about anymore. She could be herself with me and I was an attentive listener. I hardly got a chance to speak. I realized that she needed to .. she had barely anyone visiting her and listening to her, even her maid did not! We spent the afternoon painting and letting her teach me a few tricks. It made her happy and she felt that she had something to offer to people, much younger..

She had a wealth of information on cooking, natural remedies, and importantly life. All the while I was there I noticed that she never said anything negative , she had a wonderful word to say about each person.

She shared with me how she had dealt with the death of her husband. They were a loving couple married for 50 years, he became very ill on the last year of their lives together, she watched him suffer, each breath he took was so painful, she held his hands told him she loved him but was happy to let him go if he wanted to, within a few hours he passed away. She says “I count my blessings everyday, I think what a wonderful life I have had, and that is enough to take me through another day”


It takes so little to make someone happy in life -Make a difference

The Other person I chatted with was bitter and angry with how life turned out, I just listened to her most of the time just summarizing what she said once in a while, but at the end of the chat she finished off on a high note. Thanked me profusely. I wondered what I had done do deserve it, I realized I had made two people happy and cheerful. I had made their day!

20 Life Lessons – that can change your life

It just takes very little to make someone happy.

Just a little attention is what most people need, listen.

Positive affirmation or encouraging word can make a persons day!

It is better to do now, what you can do today!

I have a huge regret, I could not spare time for one person and continue to feel bad to this day that even though I wanted to, I cant - he passed away! I was too busy with me and myself.

It is okay to be different, may be people may not think you are smart, it is okay to put love, people, before everything else. Your values can make a difference.

Money is not everything; in fact money has nothing to do with happiness. (If people tell you that it is, it is because they don’t know much about life)

Your Happiness is in your positive attitude

Success is not measured by money; real success is the legacy that you leave behind in the minds of others.

Nothing or no one is unimportant!

The Joy of giving far exceeds all other emotions.

We need to stop cribbing and look at people us and be grateful for everything.

I realized that you need not even spend a lot of time or take a day off, you could just call or set aside ten minutes a day for one person who really needs some attention. Not a big ask, I guess, yet you will have made another person feel valued.

There is so much you can learn from some one, if only you could open your mind to it.

Every person is like a packaged gift, you just have to open it to realize their true value.

Neglected people need not be bitter, just give them some attention..

You don’t need money to make some one happy, just spare them your time.

Time well spent is worth than all the money in the world.

You can earn money, but life is precious, I’d rather spend time making someone feel valued.. I went back to write my heart out, I went to bed that night happier than I had been, much happier than I had been on my busy days.

I am now learning to keep a gratitude journal!!


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      sofs 6 years ago

      Thank you Beth you make me blush, yes it is the simplest things we do that makes this world a better place.

      Ha, you are an inspiration too!!

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      Beth100 6 years ago from Canada

      You're an inspiration Sofs. If only more people could only experience what you have, the world would be a better place. A smile...a hello...a good day -- all these quick little comments bring a bit of happiness into everyone's day. And, best of all, it's free. :)

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      sofs 7 years ago

      How well you do sum it up, am I glad to find people who respond to such sentiments, you bet. Yes it is an exhilarating and uplifting feeling, that all the money in the world cannot buy. You know, I value your insightful comments and they do mean a lot to me. Thank you Timorous and may God richly bless you!

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      timorous 7 years ago from Me to You

      You're absolutely right sofs. People are living, breathing, thinking human beings first and foremost. Many of us forget what an uplifting, exhilarating feeling we get from being kind to someone, or making them feel better about something. It works both ways, and as you say it's worth more than all the money you could make. Take care my dear.

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      sofs 7 years ago

      Charlie, you are a wonderful person despite the shyt and muck you kick up. You have your heart in the right place Charlie. Yup, just listen!! that is all you do and need to do!!

      God bless your wonderful heart!!

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      ralwus 7 years ago

      Good on you. What you did was far, far better than being here with us mundane folk. Those scores we get so not mean a thing to me. I rely on the many followers comments to gauge what I do here, nothing else really matters. Those elderly need someone just to listen to them, and that OK. If they want to complain, they have earned it. You are a shining light. Bless you. Charlie

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      sofs 7 years ago

      I know people do not have time for such sentiments, it is wonderful to know that you think and believe in the same things that I do, thank you for stopping by and letting me know. If only we could do this what a wonderful place this world would be!!

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      Gypsy48 7 years ago

      Excellent hub! I agree with "Just a little attention is what most people need, just listen." Those words are so true. Giving people some of your time is a priceless gift.