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Little Things Mean A lot
I remember back when I was sixteen, I asked my father to take me to see a new movie that had come out, “Sergeant Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band” with Peter Frampton and the Bee Gees. I had been reading about this movie all summer and I couldn’t wait to see it. My father agreed to take me to see it on the opening weekend and I was very excited, but it turned out my father was feeling tired that day and tried to get out of taking my brother and me. I got very upset and started to cry. He then reluctantly agreed and took us to the show.
After the movie I had a talk with my father and told him that he promised and that was why I made such a fuss. He then replied why is this such a big deal, it was just a little thing. I never forgot my answer. I told him “Little things mean a lot.”
It is those small details that men often forget that can make all the difference in the world to that special woman in his life. This subject is even the title of a song. In 1954 Kitty Kallen was the voice for the song “Little Things Mean A lot” the lyrics for this song are as follow:
Blow me a kiss from across the room
Say I look nice when I'm not
Touch my hair as you pass my chair
Little things mean a lot
Give me your arm as we cross the street
Call me at six on the dot
A line a day when you're far away
Little things mean a lot
Don't have to buy me diamonds or pearls
Champagne, sables, and such
I never cared much for diamonds and pearls
'cause honestly, honey, they just cost money
Give me a hand when I've lost the way
Give me your shoulder to cry on
Whether the day is bright or gray
Give me your heart to rely on
Send me the warmth of a secret smile
To show me you haven't forgot
For now and forever, that's always and ever
Honey, little things mean a lot
If most men only realized that it doesn’t always take a mansion to dazzle a girl, that maybe he might get a great response with just a phone call to tell her, he remembers her. In the Man of Steel and Velvet, Aubrey Andelin states the following: “It is indispensable for a woman to know that her husband is aware of her as a person. His thoughtful attention to her comfort is a visible demonstration of his love. It provides a unifying bond between them, for as he shows his thoughtful concern for her, she blossoms as a flower in the sun.” He also goes on to state “Noticing a woman helps her come alive. She will have a new excitement in getting up in the morning and making herself beautiful, for there is someone who makes it worthwhile. She has a new incentive – someone to please, someone to look nice for. She will enjoy making a new dress, shopping, or standing in front of a mirror wondering how to wear her hair. She is like a little girl who anticipates a birthday party full of surprises, wondering just how he will react.”
Even though this book was written back in the early seventies and some of this might come across as a bit corny, women have not changed that much in the last 40 years. If a woman feels that the man she cares about notices her and complements her on her clothes or anything else worth mentioning, she will want to put in that extra effort in anticipation of what will be his next reaction. Times may have changed, but women are pretty much the same at heart.
I remember dating this guy back when I was nineteen and I told him that one of things I wanted to do the most was to go to the Troubadour Nightclub. I had read about how many of rock and roll’s most legendary artists got their start at this venue and I just had to visit this amazing place. He took me a week later and I had a great time. It has been twenty eight years since that night and I still remember it like it was yesterday. To many people it might have just amounted to just a little thing, but boy did going to the Troubadour that night mean a lot. Of all the things I remember about this guy, it is his thoughtfulness in taking me there that I think of the most.
It is this kind of thoughtfulness that truly stirs up feelings in a woman. Aubrey Andelin explains it this way in the following“An attentive man has an educated heart. He is observant, knows his wife’s favorite flower, color, and favorite perfume.” He then goes on to state “The movie, The Unsinkable Molly Brown, illustrated this point. In early marriage Molly expressed a desire for three items: a red silk dress, cups and saucers that match, and big brass bed. They had little money at the time, but her remarkable husband kept these childlike whims in mind and later when they became rich, the first things he bought her were a red silk dress, cups and saucers that match, and a big brass bed. Molly was overwhelmed. She had not imagined he would remember, especially after such a long time.’
Sometimes other matters scream for a man’s attention, but a man must never forget that if he really wants to keep the romance alive, then yes, little things do mean a lot!