Little While Liars
I consider myself a pretty easy going person. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, get to know them based on their own merits and not what I've heard from others. Making my own decisions is important to me because I've become good friends with others due to that philosophy. Try as I might however there is one pet peeve that I have absolutely no patience for which involves little white lies, exaggerating the truth especially if it makes another person look bad or causes trouble.
There have been situations I've been involved in where someone would relate a story to me that I would later find out wasn't true. The sad part is, the person who related the information is known for changing a word here or there to get their point across. This makes it hard to believe what they say and at times I don't know what to believe. It reminds me of the boy who cried wolf. If I keep catching someone not being honest about a situation it makes me wonder if they are trustworthy. Why do they find the need to make themselves look good, someone else look bad or get another person in trouble?
Are they that insecure or jealous? Do they realize that people have caught onto the dishonesty? What about the example they set for either younger siblings or their own children? Are they aware that their behavior reflects on others? That they've caused their children's friends to be afraid of what they will say? I even wonder if they are aware of their actions? It seems to come so easily, the little white lies and untruths about other children and adults.
That type of behavior is hard enough to handle when it's between family or friends yet I've experienced this is the business world. I was completely floored when witnessed a co worker relate a " story " to a product manager in relations to a sale rep that almost cost the man his job because of those little white lies she choose to tell. Fortunately I was able to put the fire out and explain there was a misunderstanding. Then this same co worker overhead part of a conversation about someone's vacation and choose to repeat the " story " and since she hadn't heard the entire conversation she added her two cents and a person's reputation was smeared because of those little white lies.
Have you ever wondered if you are a victim of those little white lies?