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Why so Many People are Living Single
The Statistics and Reasons for Single Living
When a man or a woman keeps searching for someone, he/she could cohabits with, but unfortunately, is unable to find that ideal partner, he/she is considered a victim of circumstance. However, when a person has no problem finding a mate but prefers to live on his/her own as opposed to living with a partner, that's a matter of a personal choice!
Living single is not always circumstantial, sometimes it's just a matter of personal choice. Based on statistics, in 2005 -- 51 percent of women have reported that they were living single -- two percent more than the 49 percent reported in 2000. As the number of people living single continue to grow, it would be helpful if we try to explore some of the liable circumstances along with the misconceptions of singles ladies or single men.
There are a number of married people who have held (and still hold) various stereotypes of singles -- swingers and losers, for example. They see single men and women as Swingers who lived wild, exciting lives with few restraints. They are also thought to be Losers -- physically unattractive people who have little or no social life. They also believe that these men and women would like to get married, but cannot find anyone who will date them. Or perhaps they are too immature to give up their sheltered lives(their parents' home). However, fluent but insincere stereotypes like these are nothing but misrepresentation of the full range of single lifestyles.
Some authors believe the choice of a single lifestyle could possibly be the result of a carefully balanced decision --- a balance between freedom and constraint, or between self-sufficiency and interdependence. Some critiques on the subject of single living often question the trend towards fewer marriages and more divorces. Now, It has become a matter of question as to whether or not we have become a society too beguiled with freedom and autonomy at the expense of interpersonal obligations?
Many people are also concerned about our individualistic lifestyles and the emphasis we have placed on freedom of choice at perhaps the expense of transgenerational ties and interdependent roles.
In an effort to avoid problems of bad marriages, it is believed that a large percentage of singles choose the single life as a way of enjoying intimate relationships, especially when they are successful. They also want to avoid the feeling of being trapped by a male who stands in the way of their own personal development.
Other reasons are that they don't want to feel bored, unhappy, angry, sexually frustrated, or lonely with a person whom they have long since outgrown. After witnessing marriage failures of friends and family, they have come to the conclusion that single life is by far, the better choice.
Some single men and single women sometimes set the bar a bit too high; They refuse to compromised, kept looking for a "total person", or it could be that they have become victims of the Pygmalion's effect(trying to live up to the expectations of friends or relatives). It's also possible that they have been holding on to some lost lovers(who have long moved on), hoping that one day these individuals will return. With this high hope of reuniting with their ex-lovers, they literally removed themselves from the market ( as legible bachelors or spinsters), just to make sure they will be available, should these old lovers decide to give them another chance.
On the contrary, some women and men are single simply because they have become victims of circumstances. For example, in a few cases, living single could be a temporary situation, such as -- The spouses may have been working or living abroad or out of town. In other cases the significant others could have been away in the military or it could be that they are either institutionalized or incarcerated. There are others who also kept looking for a mate, but somehow continue to be unsuccessful.
The reason some people are single is not necessarily due to the stereotypical views held by some married couples. Based on all the information provided above, it is clear that living single could be the result of one's personal choice or it could very well be a matter of circumstances.
(C)Copyright : I.McFarlane 2012