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Loneliness -The Curse
“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved” - Mother Theresa
The room is filled with persons chattering all around you. Some may even try to engage you in conversation and you reluctantly take part. You laugh at a joke or two and pretend that you are okay, yet you feel as if you are alone on a deserted island. Or, it is nighttime, you are tired after a long day’s work. You want to go to bed, but you are afraid to, as you fear going into that big empty bed alone, because you know it will be as usual - just another long and lonely night, no one to hold or make love to you. Sigh!
Loneliness is a feeling that a lot of us have experienced at some point in time. We have friends and family members around us, but there is that empty feeling that only a special person can fill. It is like a deep searing ache deep down inside that at times causes some to people to cry, get depressed or sadly, seek solace in alcohol, drugs or commit suicide.
So really, what is loneliness? Is it a feeling? A condition?
Loneliness is an overwhelming unbearable feeling of emptiness and separateness. It is an emotional discomfort or distress which makes a person sad. It makes us feel isolated and deprived of love. According to the psychologists, when one is lonely and his need for social relationships is not met, he falls apart mentally and even physically.
Is there a cure for loneliness?
The psychologists will tell you that to cure your loneliness you will need to:
· Improve your social skills, as loneliness is primarily the result of lacking of the interpersonal skills required to create and maintain relationships.
· Increase opportunities for social interaction i.e. go out and meet people
· Keep busy by getting up and going out somewhere where there are a lot of people. Or join a club, volunteer at a non-profit organization, or take up a hobby that requires mental concentration.
Do you agree with the psychologists? I do agree that one should go out a meet people, with the hope of finding someone. I believe that the best cure for loneliness is to find love, that is, someone who you love and who loves you back. Someone who will be there with and for you. As I said before, being around one million people, or having three jobs will not cure that ache – loneliness!
So, what are you going to do about your loneliness? Sit there feeling sorry for yourself? Or take action? If you refuse to act, there is the danger of prolonging your loneliness and you will feel trapped and helpless and there is a chance that you may slip into depression. So get up, go out and find yourself someone to help rid you of your loneliness. Be careful though, you do not want to just pick up any available person, but choose carefully, become friends first , get to know the person before taking “that big step.”
Loneliness is darkness
A never-ending night.
Even though the black won't go away,
You'll never fall asleep.
Because loneliness sparks a fear
And unlike other nightmares
Awakening will not vanish it;
For the darkness is too strong
To allow any rest.
It makes memories into ghosts
And dreams into spirits.
Too vague to remember
Too important to forget.