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Long Distance Relationships in the Internet Age
In the age of the internet, long distance relationships are given a new leash with the all the available channels for unhampered communication. Commitment and communication are two important elements to make it work. Communication technologies such as smartphones also aid to shorten the distance between two people.
Temptations are stronger when a person is lonely.This and other challenges continue to pose a threat to any long distance relationship. However, there are practical ways to help you tide out the loneliness and longing for that ultimate reunion with your significant other. Here are some of the ways to help you make any long distance relationship work.
1. Maintain constant and regular communication but learn how not to overdo it.
Make sure to have a regular updates and communication with each other. It can be on a daily or weekly basis depending on what works for both of you. It is possible that you want to talk to the other person everyday but the latter's schedule does not permit it. Find a balance in scheduling calls or video calls and make room for giving space so that each will somehow 'miss' the other. It is not always good to talk every day otherwise, both may run out of topics to talk about or could lead to boredom.
2. Save on long distance call costs by using Voip and Smartphone applications.
There are countless ways to make calls abroad without causing a dent in your pocket. Viber offers free calls and SMS as long as you are connected online. Tango is another application which integrates calls, text or chat, plus the convenience of a video at almost zero cost. Both are available for Android and IOS phone users. Voip services are available at minimum charges.
3. Avoid thinking of negative thoughts or it will eat you up.
Long distance relationships require harsh sacrifices on both sides and negative thoughts should be avoided at all cost. It is more practical this way for two reasons. One, it is hard to have a long distance lovers' quarrel. Two, it will cause you much hurt when you think about negative possibilities and you have no way of confirming them.
4. Trust each other.
Trust will go a long way and be your ally in any long distance relationship. As long as the other person commits to see through it and is determined to be with you in the end, the distance will only be a minor derailment. Trusting the other person will also give you a peace of mind.
5. Stay fabulous and make the other person you care a lot despite the distance.
Make every conversation as if it is a meeting that is something to look forward to. If you opt for video-calling, make sure to be presentable when you do. Take the time to look good somehow and show that enthusiasm. Continue to encourage and support each other even when you only get to talk over the phone or through video calls or chats. Don't forget to surprise him every so often by sending him special emails, or text or images about significant events in your daily life. This way, the communication is not just verbal and you still connect on all levels possible.
You may also send the other person small tokens or gifts every now and then. Online stores are popular and there seems to be nothing that you won't be able to buy online. Small gifts that tell you keep the other person in your thoughts are recommended.
In conclusion, maintaining a long distance relationship takes work, but it is all the more worth it knowing that you have exerted effort to make it successful. Take advantage of the tools within your disposal. In this age, physical distance can no longer be an obstacle to making your relationship work.