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Looking For A Long Lost Friend

Updated on June 17, 2012
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Everybody is looking for something. The idealists among us would look for love, or God, or a soulmate, or happiness, and they actually hope and truly believe that they will find what they are looking for. Opinions would differ as to whether the idealists are being delusional, but most would agree that a difficult road lies ahead for the idealist.

A friend approached me just the other day with something, or rather someone, that she is looking for. She is looking for a long lost friend that she had lost contact with 40 years ago. She knows that the friend probably left for the States, and intended to continue on to Canada. She knows the name of the friend’s son and the university that the son attended. And....not much else. And she wanted me to help her track down her friend based on just that.

This friend of mine has never struck me as an idealist but this mission that she is on puts her, in my opinion, as an idealist of the first order. A lifetime would have happened in 40 years, and it is practically impossible to know where and how to find this friend of hers, and yet, she acted as if a reunion is the inevitable outcome of her search.

But, optimist that I am, I put on my never-say-die attitude and decided to give it a try. We tried a search on the web for her son’s school, hoping to get some contact details for her son. But it turned out that the school is no longer in operation, having gone under due to lack of funds some years back.

A search for her name and her son’s name on the web and on various websites yielded no promising results. That wasn’t too surprising as her friend was probably not too tech savvy, and would take to the Internet like a fish out of water...but that was a lifetime ago.

While we are still persuing other ideas, I hit upon an idea that could just turn the tide. As the saying goes, slightly adapted, “If Muhammad can’t find the mountain, perhaps the mountain can find Muhammad.” The idea is that my friend’s friend could also be looking for her, and we could set up a simple webpage with the relevant keywords so that the page will stick out like a sore thumb should anybody search with the relevant keywords.

So, I have set up a simple webpage here: Lena Poh’s Search For A Long Lost Friend


A Short Note For Those Thinking Of Doing The Same

Simply putting up a webpage on the Internet would not be enough. Google will have no idea that your page exists, and anybody searching on Google will not find your page. After putting up your page, you will need to get Google to notice it.

It is not as difficult as it seems and I would recommend one of the following techniques:

  • Put up another page on a more popular site, and link to your page from it. This is actually what I’m doing here.
  • Put up your page using a blogging software like Wordpress or a blogging site like Blogger. I tried this once and got indexed by Google in 15 minutes flat!
  • Submitting your webpage to Google would probably also work, but the general consensus is that your page would take months to get indexed.


A special message from Lena (the girl looking for her friend) to Mun (the friend that she's looking for):

Mun, thank you for the beautiful memories shared with me during your Hong Kong years. I agree memories are wonderful but one cannot "catch" them. Remember the photo of you perched on the roof-top.? It is still my favourite. I do not wish to be tagged as an "unforgivable". Thus I hereby declare that I remember.......REMEMBER.........

I am fine, enjoying a simple but peaceful lifestyle and hope that things are fine with you too. You should be a grandpa by now!!. We are both in our autumn years and I would like to say "Hello!!" once again before the imminent "Good-bye." You left Asia to chase your American dream and, in a heartbeat, forty years have passed. Mun, do you not miss us??

I wrote to your KL hometown on 19/4/11 and Edgewood Street on 2/6/11. Both letters were returned as unclaimed. On 3/6/11, I appealed to the American Embassy but due to privacy issues, they were unable to conduct a search. Again, on 3/6/11, I also appealed to the property agent who closed the deal at the Edgerwood site and am still waiting for a reply.

It is only in 2006 that I was able to have the luxury to entertain thoughts or worries about old friendships. My sincere apologies.

Best regards,
3 Aug 2011


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      David Lim 5 years ago from Singapore

      ChaChanged - Thanks for the info but I don't think that it can help my friend as they lost contact before the time of the Internet. :(

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      ChaChanged 5 years ago

      A new site is coming soon: that will allow you to search people using old obsolete data.

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      David Lim 6 years ago from Singapore

      CloudExplorer - Thanks! Surprisingly, this page is well ranked on Google, so we are just hoping that her friend will simply type in her name on Google and find her.

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      Mike Pugh 6 years ago from New York City

      This story was really cool indeed, thanks for sharing Wandererh, I also had the same issue when i first started with web design, getting on Google isn't so obvious at first.

      I would like to add also, that you can add your website to be searched on Google as well, that might help a tad bit, but not as effective as back links, and promoting it elsewhere on the web.

      Nice! hub voted up.

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      David Lim 6 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Tina,

      I'm really flattered from your interest. I would just like to say that in love, just like in all other things in life, looks does not matter to me. So, there is no need to send me your photo.

      You have me at a disadvantage as you know something about me from my profile but I know nothing about you. So, I hope you can tell me a little bit more about yourself.


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      dontinababy 6 years ago

      Hello Dear,

      My name is Tina i saw you profile today and became intrested in you and i want you to contact me back through my private email(

      here so that i can give you my photo for you to know whom i am,and remember that distance or colour doesn't matter anything but love matters allot in life,am waiting for your reply.



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      David Lim 6 years ago from Singapore

      L.L. Woodard - Thanks! And I must remember to ask my friend what took her so long - 40 years IS a long time.

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      L.L. Woodard 6 years ago from Oklahoma City

      I wish you and your friend the best in making contact with her long last pal. She is fortunate to have a friend such as yourself to help her along the way.

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      David Lim 6 years ago from Singapore

      It is a bit of a long shot but it doesn't hurt to give it a try. And it will make a great story if we really did manage to find her. :)

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      anglnwu 6 years ago

      Tall order, finding a lost friend from years ago. But you never know, with such technological advances, you may have some luck. Good luck to you and her.