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Looking for Romance? - Top Dating Sites

Updated on April 26, 2020
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Singles Dating Sites

Top dating sites on the Internet has multiplied, with the annual income in the U.S. of $1,049 Billion. There are 109 million single people over 18 in the United Sites and 40 million have tried online dating at least once. There are an estimated 1,500 dating sites available. Dating sites exist around the world in many countries.

A few more interesting facts include; the average time from meeting on a dating website until marriage is 18.5 months, while the average length of courtship for singles that met offline is 42 months.

Personality Profile - Big Five Personality Assessment

There are websites do their personality assessment using the Big Five Personality Assessment. Personality researches developed this test, as they believe there are 5-dimensional aspects of every personality. This theory has evolved over the past fifty years.

The five traits include the following characteristics:

  1. Extraversion - Some of the specific traits are being energetic, talkative and assertive.
  2. Agreeableness – This encompasses trust, kindness, sympathy, and affection.
  3. Conscientiousness – This trait concerns organization, thoroughness and careful planning.
  4. Neuroticism – The traits reflects emotional instability, anxiety, and moodiness.
  5. Openness – These traits include imagination, insight, and a broad range of interests


Types of Online Dating Sites

There are obviously numerous types of dating websites, with new ones appearing daily. General dating sites corner the bulk of the market place, and they offer immediately full access to their databases, such as, and

Other sites are geared for those adults looking for a more serious relationship, such as, and These sites typically require a completed in-depth profile of your personality which can take 60-90 minutes to complete.

Some people try to meet people on Social Network sites, which are the best free dating sites, such as MySpace, Friendster, Lavalife and Orkut.

Niche dating sites are the newcomers, but more are appearing daily. Such sites as are an online dating site for those interested Star trek and Sci-Fi. Another new site is for pet lovers.

There are also Christian and Catholic, gay and lesbian sites, plus sites geared for seniors.

Choosing a Top Dating Site

Top dating sites are more likely to have some safety checks in place, but there are virtually no laws that govern singles dating. Some sites require dating website run a background check on their members. Instant is frequently used.

How do Online Dating Websites Work?

Safety in Online Dating

There is a certain amount of danger when you post your information on a dating website. First, you want to use a reputable site, and it is safer to not give your home address and phone number until you have met this person face to face.

There are scammers, thieves, sexual predators, and men who drug and rape women out there, so extreme caution is important. Men must also use caution, as sometimes they fall prey to immigrant women who are trying to become a U. S. citizen by marrying one.

ABC’s Good Morning American did a show with some women that were victimized from dating websites. For instance, a woman reported meeting a man on a Christian dating website, who was dating 60 women for 25 different websites. This man pretended to be everything from a country music manager to a Pentagon consultant. He stole thousands of dollars from his victims.

According to, these are the lamest profile clichés:

  • “I enjoy long walks on the beach,” and your profile shows you live in Oklahoma; no beach there.
  • “I’m looking for my best friend.” Best friends are those we call after the date to tell them all the details.
  • “I’m comfortable in jeans and a T-shirt, or an evening gown/tuxedo.” Describe your versatility is a way that is not about clothing.
  • “I can go fishing in the morning and to the opera at night.’
  • “I’m brutally honest.” This might be translated as “I confuse honesty with a complete lack of tact or compassion.”
  • “Not into games or drama.” This could mean I got hurt the last time around.
  • “My kids come first.” Share something that is not common among 99.9% of parents.
  • “Dance like no one is watching.”
  • “I’m a free spirit.” Is this saying I can’t be bothered with personality responsibility or accountability?
  • “I have eclectic taste.” The fairly often refers to a person who is a pretentious snob, who attempts to set themselves apart in a transparent way.

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Guidelines When Choosing a Dating Site

  1. Carefully choose a legitimate dating website that has been in business for a few years.
  2. Always meet for the first time in a very public place.
  3. Certainly, it is always important to trust your instincts, as they rarely steer us wrong.
  4. Without most personal information until you get to know the person, such as where you work and anything related to money.

No site can guarantee that each person’s profile is 100% legitimate. It is estimated that 81% of the members lie about their height, weight or age in their profiles. There are some dating websites, such as that uses a video profile, which sounds like a very good idea.

Viewing a video provides an opportunity to assess the member's education by the way sentences are phrased, their sense of humor or lack of, what the individual considers most important in their lives and it also provides an opportunity to observe their non-verbal communication.

More Interesting Facts

There are 86 single men to 100 single women, which gives men a slight advantage. Flattery is the best one to attract someone according to 51% of the people. On the dating websites, profiles with pictures get twice as many responses.

Men and women are different in the time it takes for them to make a first impression. If you are a woman, you only have 15 minutes, but men have a little more time, as women typically take an hour to decide if they will have a second date.

Email is the way 48% of breakups occur, which certainly speaks to today’s world. Just so men know, only 2% of men find a good relationship from a bar stool.

Lady Gaga Bad Romance Look


Obviously, internet dating sites are growing daily. When you are single, it is not always easy to meet someone that shares your beliefs and goals in life. On the dating sites, there is a chance to view profiles and to find an individual that share some of your same interests.

Life is certainly different now than it was 25 years ago, but if you are single using a legitimate dating site you might just meet the partner of your dreams.

Experience with Online Dating Sites

What type of experience did you have using an online dating site?

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


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  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    6 months ago from Sunny Florida

    Hi Peggy,

    I guess these sites would work for some but I would also be very leary. I apprecite your comments.

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    Peggy Woods 

    6 months ago from Houston, Texas

    It is lovely for those who use such sites and end up with fulfilling relationships. I would tend to be very wary of them, personally. One hears so many bad stories.

  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    16 months ago from Sunny Florida

    Hi Kalle, I think that is good advice. I have never dated using a dating site, but I have heard other people talk about the fake profiles. I have one son who tried them briefly, and the woman who showed up would be 40 pounds heavier than her picture, or look totally different, etc. I appreciate your comments.

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    Kalle Kula 

    16 months ago from Stockholm, Sweden

    My experience with online dating is that it is infested with fake-profiles and stolen pictures. 8 or 10 profiles, women or men are fake. They "fictious" are usually employeed by the dating service scammers working around the clock from fake dating call centers.

    So, be aware. If your date doesn't want to meet soon. Don't waste your time anymore. Sooner or later you will find a real women or man.

  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    8 years ago from Sunny Florida

    Terrye, At least it all worked out for you/ My middle son married someone he met at a dating site and they have been happily together for 6 or 7 years now. Thanks for your comments.

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    Terrye Toombs 

    8 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

    That is some fascinating information, Pamela! I tried the dating sites when I was single and didn't like the local selection. :) Alaskan men are just plain odd. I did meet and end up marrying a guy in Alaska, but he was from Idaho. :) Voted up and shared. :)

  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    8 years ago from Sunny Florida

    KKGals, I wish your friend the best. It sounds like she is playing it safe. I appreciate your comments.

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    Susan Hazelton 

    8 years ago from Sunny Florida

    Pamela, a friend of mine recently met someone on one of the dating services you mentioned. She has been taking it very slow - he has no idea where she lives yet and they spend a lot of time getting to know each other on the phone. I am sharing your marvelous article with her. Up and awesome.

  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    8 years ago from Sunny Florida

    acetnna, I agree with your your sentiments. Thanks for your comments.

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    8 years ago from Guildford

    Great work but I am so pleased that my husband and I are in this for the long haul!!

  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    8 years ago from Sunny Florida

    drbj. I think your comment would definitely allow you to meet a most interesting man. :) Thanks for your comments.

    Dusty, They took the recipe down and I am trying to get it back up as it was not a DUPLICATE! So annoying. I'll send it to you anyway. Thanks so much for your comments and I believe is just fine to live alone without being married anyway. Glad you enjoyed the hub.

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    50 Caliber 

    8 years ago from Arizona

    Pamela, Dropping by to read as I've been remiss in seeing what you have done, I missed your rotisserie recipe for pork loin, feel free to mail me as I like new recipes.

    Now this I found some humor in but on line dating match ups on the serious side, would seem to make better sense than most places people I know and I did myself twice picked from the few pickings of real life social sites.

    I considered those in hindsight as limited as well as slim pickings, bars, churches, bowling alleys and what ever I could think up, all limited. The "no quit" line of thought and 50 year marriages are few and rare these days. I have 1 divorce and am happily widowed and left it there. I'm the 100 percent that voted thus far as the last option.

    You did an absolutely great job laying out this article. I did enjoy the laugh on the beach, I use that line as I have beach everywhere just no ocean, if California will just fall off the shelf into the ocean I might get some waves LOL.

    Thanks for an educational read,



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    drbj and sherry 

    8 years ago from south Florida

    Caveat emptor never made more sense that it does for those looking for romance on a dating site. Let the buyer beware. Thanks for this extensive and interesting info, Pamela.

    If I were in the market my come-on line would be: "I am a brutally honest free spirit with eclectic tastes who enjoys long walks . . . in the ocean!

  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    8 years ago from Sunny Florida

    brake, Thank you for your comments. I have been trying to make my hubs look neat and easy to understand. I love researching and finding interesting trivia.

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    Audrey Selig 

    8 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

    This hub is full of great info on dating sites. You sure did your research and came up with interesting numbers. The sites are so numerous now, and a great place to meet people as long as you are careful. Your hub is broken up nicely into the boxes. I wish I had done that on some of mine. It makes the hub very organized. Your writing continues its nice even tone. Keep up the good work.

  • Pamela99 profile imageAUTHOR

    Pamela Oglesby 

    8 years ago from Sunny Florida

    fpherj, I imagine your husband wouldn't be pleased. I do know of someone who met on one of these and has been happily married for 6 years. I'm glad you enjoyed the hub and I appreciate your comments.

    anginwu, Yes,it certainly must be done cautiously. I appreciate your comments.

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    8 years ago

    Good information and guidelines on how to navigate online dating. It can be quite daunting putting out your personal information out there. Thanks for sharing.

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    8 years ago from Carson City

    Pamela.....This is GREAT! Not looking for a dating site or even a date, believe me....(I doubt my husband would be too happy with that,lol) but I have some lonely and desperate female friends who "talk" about these sites all the time. I honestly don't know if any of them have actually given them a try. (secretly, I hope not)

    The "Lamest Ads are hysterical" them Yes, long walks on the beach in Oklahoma are really the rage!! lol!! Funny and interesting..UP


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