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Love Is Like A Flower

Updated on September 21, 2015
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Dallas W Thompson was born in Bakersfield, California to "Grapes of Wrath" descendants. First born son of three siblings of a preacher

Love Is Like A Flower

Love is like a flower - you fertilize and water it - a process
Love is like a flower - you fertilize and water it - a process
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Love is a constant companion

Love is a constant companion

My mother is 83 years young. She has made two hole-in-ones playing golf, dances 8-10 times a week. She drives an 80 mile trip once per week to dance at a Veterans Hall to "entertain the old people." She is an overgrown puppy who enjoys and thrives giving and receiving friendship. A good friend of hers who was 94 years old who I had danced with last week at a great resort, Madonna Inn -- in San Luis Obispo, California (mid-coast near beach) called my mom to tell her "goodbye." At first my mother did not understand what goodbye meant. The last time I danced with her friend last week, she explained why her arm was in a sling. She had fell and "pulled a muscle." We danced and had a great time. She reminisced while dancing about the time my mother gave a party with a live band two years back and I had performed a "fake" strip-tease dance with red silk pajamas underneath my suit... She ran up as I stopped at my silk pajamas and made a scene (92 years old then). People laughed and took pictures. She put her picture of me on her refrigerator. She wanted to paper her bathroom with multiple copies...

Back to the phone call my mother received from her dear friend. She thanked mom for her friendship and the wonderful dance with Dallas (me). Mom said, "no, you are OK." She replied hospice was already there and she was OK with it. She was calm and straight forward with the acceptance of her impending death. She said it was time. Mom called me upset...

My mother who is the queen of ADD, always busy, sat down and wrote this poem because of the death of her friend and a recent spate she had with her 10 year relationship with her "man." I quote man because she is so active, it takes a "man" to keep up. Love developed another facet on her brilliant "diamond" of life. My mother's soul-searching, wrapping her head around her friend dying and her feelings with her significant other created a fertile environment for her to reflect. This is her open letter:

Love Is Like A Flower

"Love is like a flower -- you fertilize, trim and water it -- when it gets all this attention, a beautiful blossom comes forth. People will come by and see this happy, beautiful plant and ask you, "How do you do it?" You smile and say, "Lots of love and attention. You don't think of yourself only. You are thinking, "I'm going to do my best to make this plant flourish and develop to its potential. I want it to flourish."

Love is like a house. A house is just a house. It can easily fall into disrepair, if you don't take care of the small things before they become big, major problems. When you take of these small things with love, caring and pride changing this "house" into a home. Your attitude will change from resentment and being passive to cover the hurt to wanting to help. You want to do everything possible to make this "plant" flourish, bloom and be healthy. The "house of love" is the same thing in the transformation of becoming a "home." Home is where the heart is.

What counts is a relationship (happy one) is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with that compatibility.

The cure for all "ills," and wrongs, the tears, and all the spiteful things we say to each other is one word: love. How can you go wrong with that? Love can take care of everything.

I like only to be loved. I need to be told I am loved. Silence will last forever beyond the grave. Love is a constant companion. There is comfort in love. It is the eternal companion."

I could write hundreds of books about her life. I was raised by her initially in a two room-house with no electricity. As a child she was driven from Arkansas to Oklahoma in a car her father had traded a cow for. Her brother sat on the finder at night in the rain holding the lantern so they could see... The books will come to pass in due time.

My mother's friend, Lester White who inspired mom, AKA Glenda Rucks to Write Love is Like a Flower, has just died. She shared over 10 years of her life with him. May he RIP... She is an incredible woman having outlived two husbands and a 10 years relationship.

My Mother's 600 Mile Ocean Adventure in My Cabin Cruiser:

http://dallas93444.hubpages.com/hub/cabin-cruiser-ocean-odyssey

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      Thanks! My has outlived two husbands and a 10 year relationship. He has just died. RIP... Mom has not slowed down! I have made available on my website www.eyeswideshutanenigma dot com (not suppose to link to our websites - hence the spelled dot for simple .) a link to a free eBook about my mother

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      GAGANPREET SINGH BHATIA 

      5 years ago from Kanpur, India

      Great hub. Voted up awesome.

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      6 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      tillsontitan,

      Thanks! Luck is recognizing the opportunity and having the capacity to act upon it! I enjoy my mother. Life is a process and we learn...

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      Mary Craig 

      6 years ago from New York

      How lucky are you and your mother? A beautiful mother-son relationship that has not only lasted through the years but grown. This is a true tribute to a great lady by her great son!

      Voted up and beautiful.

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      7 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      KoffeeKlatch Gals,

      I do..

      I am meeting her at Madonnas tonight to dance!

      Appreciate your comments.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      dallas, your mom sounds like quite a woman. Great hub, treasure and enjoy your loved ones while you can.

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      eilander1542011, Thanks! Your comments reflects intuitive reflections and a macro point-of-view...

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      eilander1542011 

      8 years ago from Everywhere

      Beautiful! Life and Death are one, and your mother's realization gave me chills. Thank you for sharing.

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      valeriebelew, I learn from her...! Thanks for your comment.

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      valeriebelew 

      8 years ago from Metro Atlanta, GA, USA

      Hello dallas, your mom must be quite a lady. You can always tell a good person, because those who admire them the most also know them the best. (:v

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      CMHypno, Thanks. She has not only "survived," but thrived...

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      CMHypno 

      8 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

      What a heart wrenching hub dallas. We should treasure our loved ones and friends more, as in truth we never know how long we have together. Your Mum sounds like a very special person

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      kaltopsyd, You are welcome!

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      kaltopsyd 

      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Dallas! :-)

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      kaltopsyd, Thanks! Again, as I had noted on another hub in response to your comment, your "children centric" perspective will serve you well. You have the drive and desire to be outstanding! Life is a process. Enjoy the - between the date you are born and the date you die... on your headstone! I am sure you will make a difference!

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      kaltopsyd 

      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      What a beautiful Hub! I really enjoyed reading this. You mother sounds lovely! A fun person to be around. I really enjoyed reading her letter. Thank you so much for sharing that with us.

      Best regards to her and you as well.

      Thanks again for a good read!

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      dawnM, Thanks for sharing. Stay tuned....

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      Dawn Michael 

      8 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      wow waht a wonderful article, your mom sounds amazing and reminds me so much of how my father had lived his life. Love is the answer and with out what is the point. thank you for sharing your love!!

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      lorlie6, I invited mom to "come and see what the world says about you!" She is embarrassed...

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      Laurel Rogers 

      8 years ago from Bishop, Ca

      A little twist on my favorite Lennon quote!! Love it. Have a ball and tell mom "Hi."

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      lorlie6, I live in Pismo Beach. I dance every week at the Madonna Inn. It has a great dance floor and a live band! Mom dances there too. She is like The Pied Piper of Hamelin and creates excitement. She whoops and hollers and dances like know one is watching. I have gotten her on the dance floor and we start out doing jumping jacks and segue into the Charleston.. People clap, stand and enjoy themselves while we enjoy ourselves... Life is what you do while you make plans!

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      Laurel Rogers 

      8 years ago from Bishop, Ca

      Dallas...man or woman, you rock!!! I love this 'mini-story' and will stay tuned.

      What caught my attention, I must admit, was the Madonna Inn. My mother and I used to travel up and down the coast and always stopped in for a soda and a club sandwich. Never could afford those exotic rooms-but we'd gawk at the Caveman Room, etc!

      Thanks for such a lovely portrait of your mom!

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      MartieCoetser, Thanks! Mom's R US! I am proud of my mother.

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      Martie Coetser 

      8 years ago from South Africa

      Dallas, this is so touching – the love of a son for his mother. I think your mother is an example to all of us, being so active at her age. I’m so proud of mine too – she is unique with many self-enforced duties, caring for the poor and the elderly who can’t take care of themselves anymore. May you mother be blessed with health and strength for many more years. I’m also in the fortunate position to have a son who is always bragging about me. We have a strange, telepathic connection, living 3 hours away from each other, though “know” when the other one is ill or in need of encouragement. PS: I’m going to read your "Eyes Wide Shut: An enigma” a.s.a.p.

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      Nellieanna, Talking to my mother prompted the "Nostalgia" hub. Upon reflecting and a hubbers comments that I should write about the "Grapes of Wrath" era from someone who was there and lived the life of the "Joads" and "uncle John" in the exact area where Steinbeck wrote about...

      The more things change, the more things stay the same. There are new "frontier people" everywhere being created. The situations change, but the resilience, purposeful lifestyles in their differences create a synergy and hope for the future.

      Hugs to you too. I'll leave the light on for you...

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      Nellieanna Hay 

      8 years ago from TEXAS

      Ohmygoodness, Dallas!! This is just wonderful. Your precious mother reminds me in many ways of my own! Fun, fiesty, unique, independent, loving, and almost "bigger than life"! What a great son you are to honor her and the book(s) about her will be precious.

      I know that I must write more about my little mother too. When in Del Rio last weekend & taking inventory in my storage place, to again see the "carry-cooker" she used to cook out on the range to feed her family, including three young tots (my older siblings) as she went with Dad across the West Texas desert when he had struck out to make their living drilling water wells, only reminded me of the many facets of her beauty and courage.

      One wonders if they make women like those we knew as mothers any more! But of course, - they do - many, I'm sure, with different challenges and no less courage facing them.

      Thanks for this, my friend, - and for directing me to it. I'm so far behind in my hubbing from being away 4 days, it's pitiful!! Hugs.

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      Dallas Franklin, glad to "see" you active... Did I get all "hyper!?" I believe what she meant was SHE was thinking of HER daughter and how SHE would feel to hear HER daughter say, "She wants to be like her mother when she "grows-up!" There, I am going to bed, it is 2:19 AM... Did you receive the beautiful slides?

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      Dallas Franklin 

      8 years ago

      I loved this one too, Sallad. It touched my heart.

      It was ironic to see someone think you were a female, I usually get taken for a male. LOL Oh these unisex names eh!

      Keep on writing!

      Love *& Blessings.

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      eshaw, Thanks for stopping bye, I'll leave the light on for you!

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      eshaw 

      8 years ago from Huntsville

      nice

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      Dallas W Thompson 

      8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      vocalcoach, I am a "guy, man, a father!" I appreciate your input. I know it must be the same for a mother to hear her son say the same thing! Mothers are like that! Thanks for sharing.

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      Audrey Hunt 

      8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      How beautiful and touching this is. Your mother sounds like an amazing woman. I think the greatest sound a mother can hear is that her daughter wants to be just like her. That is the highest tribute paid to a mother.

      I have saved this in my fav's to refer to from time to time. What a lovely daughter you are. You are both so blessed. And guess what? I have been to the Madonna Inn several times. My brother lives in Santa Maria. I used to go clam digging at Pismo Beach. Thank you and I love all your hubs.

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