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Love Me Unconditionally

Updated on April 12, 2016

Do you have unconditional love for YOUR partner?

Nothing in life is permanent. Things change, more often than you'd think. One day you have you life together, then five hours later your heart is smashed into a million pieces. As theory would suggest, change happens very quickly. True love is not something that changes quickly. It's an interesting thing, LOVE , it's something that requires attention, desire, and the right person.

Love is more than a feeling, it's a way of being with somebody, it shows how you care, shows how your lover is important to you. Love is unconditional. You don't love someone at certain times of the day, certain days of the week, certain days of the year. There is no horrid event that could make your significant other not love you anymore in that instant...and if they do, well you know that they don't love you as much as you may have thought.

Love takes effort, love takes time, love takes sacrifice. If you play your cards right you might find someone who is worth all of those things and more. Isn't that who we all desire to have? With the right person, that effort seems effortless, because you WANT them. Truly loving someone is to be able connect to them on a deeper level than sex, be able to sit in a room quietly with them with that silence feeling comfortable, and being able to talk about almost ANYTHING to them without fear of judgement.

A great relationship has great communication, something that I seemed to lack in my last relationship and something that many, many people lack in their relationships. That is something that we as a generation need to learn how to do, communicate effectively. We do things based on how other people "like" us or "see" us, NO. DO things, FEEL things because that's what we're supposed to do. When you love someone, TELL THEM! When they're being a huge pain in the ass, TELL THEM! When you need them to help you in any way, shape or form, TELL THEM! Sometimes we need to be blunt, silly mind games and hoping that they other person magically knows what you're thinking isn't the way to go about getting what you need from your partner. If they love you the way they say they do, they'll be there for you, for whatever you need. That is unconditional love.

The right person can make all the difference. I believe that there is someone for everyone, and when you find that person, your life will never be the same. Love is timeless. If you truly love someone, and it's meant to be, it will be. Love never dies if it's real.

Never settle for less than what you need and deserve. Who you thought was right could be so wrong. Go with your heart, it knows best. Never change yourself for someone. Someone will love you for you, unconditionally.

(Sidenote: I edited this from a post i made on VSCO, Just posting it on another platform)

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    • Sarahmbeaver profile image
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      Sarah 20 months ago from Vancouver

      That's a very good point. I don't think that you need to take everything your partner does and expect to love them, but working out your issues and figuring out how to make things right when fighting is because you DO love them. I do feel like if you choose your partner and wisely, you will be able to love them for everything, their flaws, their goods, and them in general. If that means letting go for them to pursue other things because of change, then that's okay! But that doesn't mean that you love them any less right?

      I think that unconditional is a very strong word, and it may have come off as that you have to love your partner no matter what they say or do...I meant that in a healthy relationship your love for your partner should not be in question, and being able to communicate and work things out and being able to have that healthy relationship is love IN MY EYES.

      Everyone's perception of love is different, like you mentioned. We all have different wants and needs and that's okay!

      And I see your point with the "heart knows best" comment, I understand obviously the mind has to help with decisions like that, but overthinking what could be red flags or ignoring something that could be great and is right in front of you. And heartache sucks, yes, but it's inevitable in life.

      Everyone is different, and love is a very interesting and doesn't really have a concrete system. Things just happen and we don't really know what lies ahead in our love lives.

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      dashingscorpio 20 months ago

      In all honesty there is no such thing as "unconditional love" if one is healthy. The reason being is if you have self-love/self-esteem you are going to have some "deal breakers" and "boundaries".

      It's also unrealistic to think your mate is going to love you no matter what you say, do, or how you treat them!

      When we change our circumstances change.

      Having said that there are those people who are doormats for their mates. They may even accept emotional, physical, and sexual abuse without having a single thought of ever leaving because they're "in love" or exchanged vows. At least that is what they tell themselves.

      The reality is they simply lack the (courage) to walk away.

      “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” — unknown

      The "Go with your heart, it knows best." philosophy often leads to heartache especially during our youth. Don't ignore "red flags".

      Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      Take the time to figure out want it is you want and need in a mate before pursuing a relationship. Become a "better shopper".

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Choose wisely!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde