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Love Sees No Color: How I See Interracial Relationships

Updated on February 15, 2011

It's love that counts, nothing else matters

I was recently at a bus stop, waiting to catch a bus home, when I saw this young couple that was there.

Standing behind the bus bench, they were like any other teenage couple, kissing and squeezing each other, the hormones doing their thing.

The thing that appealed to me about them was that she was a Latina and he was an African American. It gave me a good feeling that relationships in which the people involved are of a different race/ethnic group/culture are more accepted today.

Unfortunately, there are still people that feel that different races and cultures should not mix romantically, which includes Asians, Latinos, Indians, Pacific Islanders, people from the Middle Eastern countries and Jewish folks as well as blacks and whites.

Indeed, some groups frown upon, discourage, and flat-out forbid any romantic relationships in which the people involved are not of the same skin color or ethnic or religious background. I once had a crush on a Persian girl when I was in high school, and when I tried to call her one evening, her mother angrily told me, "Don't call anymore!" without making any kind of an attempt to see what kind of person I was.

Later on I learned that in the Persian community in general, and in many other ethnic communities, it is part of their culture and their custom for their children to only be with their own; that's how quite a few communities, of all colors, see relationships, as they firmly believe that birds of a feather need to flock together.

However, I see that mindset as racism and bigotry, because one is rejected for something beyond his or her control, whether it be skin color, or where they are from, or how they worship.

Another example of this involves someone who I dearly love - my mother.

Being African American, she has always had a low view of black men dating and/or marrying outside of the black race, particularly white women, because it leaves black women feeling worthless and weakens the concept of strong African American families according to her.

She has often badmouthed black celebrities for having white wives and girlfriends, and that has always bothered me; while I don't think she's a racist, I do think that we will always have a difference of opinion when it comes to this issue.

As for me, being a black man I have always been attracted to females of all races and ethnic groups; the kind of people they are has far more importance in my book than the color of their skin and which god they worship. Judging "by the content of their character" is an essential part of Martin Luther King's message that I have always taken to heart, and though there are many beautiful black women of African descent out there, to limit my dating options strictly to "my own kind", so to speak, would be submitting myself to segregation. It would be akin to living in the Jim Crow Era South to me.

In other words, when it comes to love, a mate should be chosen based on one's heart and soul rather than skin pigmentation, or the language they speak, or the area they are from. They say that you can't help who you fall for, and I strongly believe that anything between two individuals that is loving and affectionate should be appreciated.

That's the way I see it, and that was why it warmed my heart to see that young couple at the bus stop. It's good to see that race, ethnicity, and culture in dating is far less of an issue for Generation Y Millennials than for previous generations.

To sum it all up, here's a suggestion to all those interracial and intercultural pairings out there:

If someone gives you a weird or dirty look when you are out and about, or voices their disapproval of you two being together because your skin pigmentation (or whatever) is not the same, simply tell them:

"Love sees no color, because there is only one race - the human race."




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    • Dhart profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Culver City, CA

      I agree with you - hope you and your boyfriend are happy! And don't pay attention to any negativity :)

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      6 years ago

      Hi,my name is Madeline,I am African-American and I am 15 years old, I have been going out with someone of a different skin colour (He is from Italy) and I started to wonder why there is no interrical couples viewed online. I think that sends a message to others telling them that if you're not with someone of your own kind it's wrong.

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      7 years ago

      I really needed to hear this tonight. This is an inspiring read what I was looking for tonight.

      Thank you! ;)

      I'm American-Mexican female and my partner is from Nepal. We both met in Australia while I was traveling and the rest was history.

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      Reynold Jay 

      8 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

      I enjoyed this immensely. Very useful... up one and useful. Yes we are all humans... sad for anyone who sees it differently. RJ


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