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Love That Sees Around Corners

Updated on August 18, 2012

"Wedded bliss" the oxymoron of the year?

Lots of years of marriage (40+) and finding out how to make it work.
Lots of years of marriage (40+) and finding out how to make it work. | Source

Treat her as a queen, and remember she is always right."


Can you remember all (or any) of the advice you heard given by friends and family just before a wedding?

From a groom's standpoint, the advice to "Treat her as a Queen, and remember she is always right" is a 2 for 1 not likely to lead to Wedded Bliss. The first half of that equation is good advice. The second half is nonsensical. No one is "always right" though some people like to think they are.

A better piece of advice would be "Communicate, communicate, communicate."

Neither the groom, nor the bride will always be right, and sometimes they will even both be wrong! What communication does is also a 2 for 1. If the groom and bride of a few or many years share in each final decision, they can both enjoy the thrill of victory or the agony of defeat, but they share equally. There is no blame to go around and stop at him or at her.

If, however, there is no agreement on a particular decision, it means that something is missing; the decision is not yet clear enough.

In those cases don't let impulse take over. Keep communicating, discussing, and thinking toward "a eureka moment" when the mutual decision can be agreed upon. The chances of making the right decision are greatly improved in your mutual favor.

This advice works for almost any future decisions unless one partner is incapacitated. But, if there has been good communication and problem solving in the past, the incapacitated partner can be more confident that the other partner will search for the best decision in light of their past decision making process and come up with a good answer to the new concern.

Love is just around the corner because future problems are just around the corner and out of sight, but a loving couple can foresee some of them, anticipate others, and have a winning strategy for handling anything else that comes their way.

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© 2012 Demas W. Jasper All rights reserved.

What does wedded happiness look like?

1968 to 2012+++
1968 to 2012+++ | Source

Wedding bells ring, but the bliss is up to you.

Only the beginning, but a good stop along the way.
Only the beginning, but a good stop along the way. | Source

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      sweethearts2 5 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      My contribution of wisdom on marriage (from The Prophet)to add to your wisdom of the importance of communication. Good advice.

      “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.”

      ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

      Love the picture of wedded happiness ♥

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      Kate McBride 5 years ago from Donegal Ireland

      This is the kind of writing I want to learn to do so I will be reading more of your hubs-very creative and original.I shared it on facebook

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      As they say love is a two way street. A lot of give and take but if you find a formula that works stick to it. We have done just that and even if there are days that are busy and we hardly say a word to each other a passing smile says more than any words can.

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      Demas W Jasper 5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Work takes effort, usually 8 hours each day 5-7 days a week. Sleep takes up another 6-8 hours each day 7 days a week. What you do with the other hours, especially your "marriage hours" will have a greater impact on your life's happiness than either of the other two 8-hour daily segments, and it doesn't just fall into your lap because someone puts on a ring. You are right Curiad, truer words were never spoken: "It is not always easy... ."

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      This is great information and well said. It is not always easy, but good advice.

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