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Love: Truth vs. Fiction
So, lately the topic of love has been a trending subject for me. I have always been mesmerized by the idea of falling for someone else, for that awe inspiring, all consuming feeling that makes people's knees buckle. But recently I have been shown what it truly means to love someone and that there is a difference between loving someone and BEING in love.
For instance, you love your family, you love your dog, you love friends and attempt to show love to total strangers with kindness, humility, and forgiveness. That's great! It's what God calls us to do--to love one another. However, it's important to note that these are choices. You could just as easily choose not to show affection for these people (or pets). But there is another kind of love. One that is so overpowering it can bring grown men to tears.
In the bible, specifically the Song of Solomon, there is an incredible love story portrayed. It is that all consuming, weak in the knees, kind of love. And what makes this story so much better than a Nicholas Sparks novel or the heart felt passions of Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennett in Jane Austen's Pride & Prejudice? IT'S REAL!
Though we ultimately choose whether or not to pursue those little butterflies dancing around in our tummies, the main difference between loving someone and being in love is that one will literally break you down without it. When your soul finds that one person that it longs for, and you try to ignore your heart's desire, you are going to go through emotional and physical pain. If you wake up next to someone you know you could probably live without, that's your sign that that person is not the best one to spend your life with.
Let me give you guys an example:
I am still single. I have had a few boyfriends, a handful of would-be's, and a few affairs I would rather leave forgotten. There was one would-be and one boyfriend that I thought I was madly in love with. But all of these potential love interests had one thing in common that has always stood out to me...I felt numb when I was with them. With the exception of the one would-be boyfriend that I never had any physical contact with, all of the other guys that I kissed or held me, I didn't feel any weak in the knees kind of magic. Sure, I enjoyed their warmth or swopping spit (insert huge winking, laughing smiley face here), but I didn't feel real heart throbbing passion that I know is out there. THAT'S what my soul longs for. And I know that there are many of you out there who want exactly the same thing.
Don't settle for someone if deep down you know that there is something more out there for you. Obviously, there are some people out there who are ok with the idea of marrying or being with someone and learning to love them. And if that's your preference, if that makes you happy and God isn't telling you to do something else, that's amazing and may many blessings fall upon you both. But one of the most heart breaking things someone like me could do is settle for someone, hoping that the passionate love they long for will grow , and that spark doesn't ever come when their lips meet. To me, it would probably be like a small piece of me dying.
To all you guys and gals out there, don't give up because people tell you you're too attractive to be single, or that you're too picky, or have been waiting years with no sign of that love your soul longs for. God has someone in mind for you. Someone who is just as right for you as you are for them. Don't give your love away too early. You will regret it. Think of all the people out there who cheat on one another. Who run off with someone else because they aren't satisfied with the one they married. Think of how such predicaments could have probably been prevented if they had just kept praying, waiting, and looking instead of jumping on the first person they loved but didn't really fall in love with.
Remember: Love is not about TAKING. It's about GIVING all you have. That's why God sent his son to die for us on the cross. He GAVE Jesus so that we may receive his unconditional love and forgiveness.
Faith in the Lord will lead us to unimaginable places. His love is the best of all creations. A relationship with Jesus will complete you. But even Adam needed Eve. It's ok to love, and there's someone out there just for you. Keep your head up and your heart pure.
Song of Songs 2:2
"Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the maidens."
1 Peter 4:8
"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins."