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Love: Where Has the Common Sense Gone?

Updated on June 26, 2018
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Kenneth is a rural citizen of Hamilton, Ala., and has begun to observe life and certain things and people helping him to write about them.

One Thing That I'm not

is a Love Expert. I have envied those enlightened areas of the heart for years, but when you get past the 12th grade, that says a lot about how less a person does know.

Then I can speak volumes about my dad and my daddy-in-law about how easily they could load up their tools and in an hour or so, they would have so much firewood (for the upcoming winter) that they would almost leave me sweating and heaving to just get one tree to the ground. I would say something about how these two and those of their generation grew up with an axe in their hand and a cross-cut saw in the the other and the hard work just grew with them.

What do you see in this photo? One couple who have talked, eaten, and laughed all night long. To me, the couple have already fell in love or on their way.
What do you see in this photo? One couple who have talked, eaten, and laughed all night long. To me, the couple have already fell in love or on their way. | Source

Love and The Train That it Came

up on, has more sides than any geomatric design, and each one is more lovable than the first one. Love's like that. Just when you have "love" figured out, someone pulls the switch and things get mixed up and broken sending people like me in a dangerous spiral.

With love, as we all have been taught, we are a society of givers and if one is so be successful in love, they must learn to be able to be gracious in receiving the gifts those who have love for us and just love to give something to us. That in itself is a very complicated season of affairs.

But as Years and Time

sped up it just growing faster and faster until we of the human race simply fell off of the Love Train and started walking or just holding on for dear life and hoping that something good would come our way.

Then it happened. Dating and socializing both came to see just how fast that they could run and before we knew it, we grew depressed and cried all the way home, but we couldn't blame anyone but ourselves--because "we" were the ones with the fast lines and quick get-away's on the morning after a loving night. It was us and now we are paying the price.

Please Allow This Simple List

to show you that we, the "Speedy Society of America," have allowed the ones that we are trying to make friends and hopefully have a more enriched relationship as time goes by, but we can never have a deep, satisfying relationship with anyone unless we slow down a bit.

Read on Now and See if I am Right or Just Running my Jaws . . .
If You and Your Loved One -- are sitting in a posh restaurant and while you are dining, your eyes meet the eyes of that pretty girl, but as the eyes meet, her's dart quickly away sending quivers of fear through your body. I mean, you have taken this girl out for three years, but with little signals such as darting eyes, there must be something going on.

When Your Regular -- Saturday night romantic date is listening to you regale her about a big client whom you signed that morning, but she just looks past you and yawns. Boredom? Not so. You have already established that she is a creature of habit--she gets home around 4 p.m. and in bed by 7 p.m., so no wild parties to keep her awake, so facts are facts. Maybe you two need a break from each other.

Cell Phones Can be a Relationship Killer -- because in today's society, where people should be sitting and enjoying themselves, these people have taken to texting and chatting on the phone with co-workers and most of these loving couples are bound to not see each other maybe in the next week. Sad, huh?

Forgetting your Girlfriend's Name -- is natural. Men get nervous, but if this is a common occurrence, buddy, you have a problem. Before you let this relationship go to pieces, consult a doctor.

As Names Being Forgotten -- in the top tip, if your girlfriend is divorced and has one son, "Luke," and you keep forgetting his name, you need to see a doctor. Look at the facts: One child, one name. You can recall those simple numbers.

If You and Your Date Always Fight -- because you, the man part of the relationship, want to see a good movie as opposed to going with your girlfriend to see the ballet, this relationship is "on the skids," an occasional tiff about a movie is one thing, but every weekend?

These are the main Relationship Tips to check to see if you and your significant other are talking about these things, weed-out those poisonous seed that might come up in the "garden of your love" and preventing you from having a happy relationship.

Monday, June 25, 2018_______________________________

Now look. Had you rather have a relationship like this or one that is always with tension and sress?
Now look. Had you rather have a relationship like this or one that is always with tension and sress? | Source


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    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Mr. Happy -- as per your question of why you haven't me me sooner --- well, truthfully, I am somewhat devious. Then again, maybe I'm not.

      Yep. Scorpio is fully of life's energies and is able to write a best-selling book and I say that to you too.

      So you quit your job? Or . . .did the job quit you? (Sorry. I was just being corny).

      Yes. Do send me a bundle of your best thoughts.

      And when I send you my bundle, it won't take you but around 10 minutes. Truth.

      Or maybe not.

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      Mr. Happy 

      2 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I just checked to see how long You've been around here and wow ... seven years, how come I didn;t meet You sooner?

      And about the Scorpio friend, I recall reading his thoughts years ago. I also remember agreeing with him on other issues.

      If I find a treasure, I'll send You a bundle. For now, I just quit my job a few weeks ago so ... lol : )

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Mr. Happy -- you too? Are you and dashingscorrpio working together? You make great sense like the thinking from dashing! If you two haven't met, let me introduce you then suggest that you two get the license (graduate, I mean) and open your own marriage counseling clinic.

      I mean, just look at the broken-hearted people we have in the USA. You two could be rich--and speaking of money, I would love for you two to send me a bundle.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      dashingscorpio -- my friend, you are a true genius. I mean it. Are you sure that you are not a marriage counselor? All I mean is everything that you said makes a world of sense.


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      2 years ago from Chicago

      There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does not want what you want. Compatibility trumps compromise.

      Very few people are walking around with one hand raised in the air screaming: "I'm looking for someone to change me!"

      Most people want to be loved and appreciated for who they are. Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine!

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      The choice is up to us. Choose wisely!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

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      Mr. Happy 

      2 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Well, I am going to keep it short here. After-all, I have been practicing celibacy and abstinence for over fifteen years. So, I don't care to talk about relationships that much. Or, lovy-dovy relationships lol

      The one thing I will mention though, is that I do not look for love in Humans. Humans are picky with their love. SOme will love You for your courage, some will love You for your looks, some will love You for your witt, or intelligence, or who knows what. With that in mind, when You stop being witty, or You stop being trendy, or You do something the other person does not aprove of, poof - the love is gone.

      I learned about love from dogs. I spent many years working with dogs, training dogs, living with dogs ... I love dogs! And they teach unconditional love. No matter how upset You are at a dog, or how upset they are at You, they will still be ready to give their life for You. Dogs are special like that. They don't hold grudges, they woun't lie to You and they know what unconditional love is, unlike many other humans.

      Alrighty, I'm done and out. Off to Dokis First Nations tomorrow for their annual Pow-wow this weekend. You have a marvellous week! : )


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