Love – Who cares about Age Difference?

I feel the same way as any other woman do with heartbreak before i met a Dr. my mail is angel_2spiicy@yahoo.com. My issue is with his co workers he always text them even after I told him how I feel about it. He will stop for while and then start all over. He always tells me how fat and old these woman are but I did know that he uses that as a deterrent for me not to think negatively about him having dates with them. Today I have now found out he is setting up lunch dates with one of them. I no longer can take it. Why did he just leave? I do not understand why he keeps doing this to me. He even comes home late after work now and he finally went away and broke up with me, well i been at psychic for help but all the same. what should I do? until my friend introduced me to a someone that assisted to reunite her husband. get the him with Getyourexbackcharm@gmail.com you can contact him.

i found this page very interesting as it gonna be very helpful for me because i am going to kick my life off with a one i am crazy about and she is double of my age, she is in her late 40s but she looks like a teen girl... the story of nancy Niche made me so sad for her.. if i were there in Canada i would salute u so warmly coz i love the ones who doest matter age difference.. age is only a number and it should not be a barrier. if u love each other just go for it..LOVIE

Oh okey:)

Very interesting and informative hub .Thanks for sharing it.It is true that age doesn't matter as long as there is love and mutual respect.If an old man in the sixtieth gets a girl of 20 years,that would be a crime .I think the natural age gap is 15 years ,other than that is something else,Sorry if I offended anyone here.It could be acceptable of the woman over 40 and man in the sixtieth.

ps:If Ashton Kutcher was born in 1978,he would be 34 not 32:)He is older than me by 9 months haha

My husband and I have 32 years difference. We've been happily married for 17 years. Age does not matter as long as both are happy together.

You are right. Love seems to have no bounds when it shows up. Good hub to be loved by love birds. Voted up

Thanks for the caring comment regarding the happiest moments of my life. You are such a "Good Soul" and I consider you a friend even thought we have only communicated through this media. I enjoy your writings and knew that you would appreciate this loving experience. Maybe one day we will get to enjoy each other’s company over a cup of coffee and chat for hours; I would love that…

I am going to share a couple of very special moments. One evening, we went to dinner at a fashionable restaurant. After finishing our meal he excused his self for a moment to talk with the bandleader; I thought it was a friend of his. Shortly after, the band started playing "Time After Time," and we went out to dance. As we danced, he sang the words of the song to me and with a beautiful voice. He was always full of surprises.

He would call me at work and tell me to leave my car window open a tiny bit. When I left work, there, lying on the seat would be an envelope with a beautiful card inside telling me how much he loved me. Our separation was so painful for both of us and little did I know that he continued to follow my life through a family member. I discovered this during the phone call to tell me of his passing.

Be Happy xxxxx

http://youtu.be/_I6s1J9ZSNw Frank Sinatra “Time After Time”

"Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving." ~Kahlil Gibran

"To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness." ~Robert Brault

What a wonderful article and one that I could really relate too. The love of my life was 15 years older than I. A family member (who worked with him) introduced us. In that moment, the energy between us was obvious. This was it --- my first love! The love of my life, the man who would forever have a permanent lock on my heart. Unfortunately, others came between us by unrelenting remarks concerning his “age” and that I would leave him someday for a younger man (he was in his 40’s and I in my late 20, s).

We both eventually married but when our paths crossed, that love was as strong as ever. He remarked one time that since we didn’t make it in this lifetime, maybe in the next we will be together again in marriage; god, I hope so. He passed away a few months ago and the family member who gave us the most problems over our relationship called to tell me he was gone. He also admitted that it was wrong to come between us because neither of us had been as happy since. That relative came to realize how deeply we really loved one another. You see, that family member and he were best friends.

There is emptiness within me now and the wound of his loss will be with me forever. I am thankful to have known such a love and the happiness it brought. I'm blessed because many “never” know that kind of love…So never, never let age be the barrier that robs you of something very special. Grab onto it, treasure it, and keep the naysayers at bay!

all these quotes makes me know and feel good about the relationship i am in now with my boyfriend...i am 16 and my boyfriend is 28 only 12 years apart i love this man till i die the love i have for him is just crazy age to me in love can affect the way you feel about each other age is just a number love is not just a word its a feeling a very deep feeling that grows inside of you..makes you do crazy things when your in love

Hi there,

Just came across this & loved it! I've dated guys & girls alike, and find myself with both attracted to older people. My first girlfriend was 2 years my senior, after that my first boyfriend was 3 years older. The next woman (girl doesn't suffice anymore) was 36 and I was 22. She had kids, was divorced & it was complex, but it worked so well! To this day her parents regard me their son, and her kids accepted me as a second father - a role I easily stepped into at such a young age! After that I dated a guy 14 years senior, and now recently for the first time in my life I'm on the other side - dating someone who is 19 going on 20, but has the maturity of a 50 year old (in some ways...). I think I'm attracted to maturity, I've always been called mature beyond my years in excess (still in my twenties). If you're on the same level... I guess it just works! Interestingly, with the much older one's the breakup in case A was caused by her divorce issues and in case B by his alcoholism - not anything age related.

Feels good to talk about it now, as I've had a lot of criticism and nasty comments come my way (even being called a golddigger when actually in case A we were financially completely independent each and in case B I had more money.)

Nice to see there's more of 'us' out there, lol. Not that we're any different...

Just a short note to let you know that your spell really works. My husband has came back to me. I truly thank you for this. he has don it again email he for help at churchofproblemsolvedchurch@yahoo.com

I am dating a man who's 51 and I'm 19 he's the most amazing man I've ever met everything I could ever ask for in a man, age never crossed my mind

I mean if he happens to have issues in the future, now everything is just perfect!

I have a blog where i share all my experience in big age gap relationships, if anybody has questions stop by!

me23him56.blogspot.com

i am 23 and he is 56...and Peter, he is a wonderful and powerful lover. Definetely the best sex life i've ever had, and i sure had a couple. Plus, it's not only obout sex. And if he happens to have some issues, we can still try blue pills!

I got a little problem here.Consider Celine Dion and her husband.Actually he's 70 years old and Celine Dion 44.Do you think he can sexually satisfy her at this age?We have to think about that.I don't think someone should engage in a relationship when there's a big difference in age.

Thanks Lady_E for this inspiring hub. Im i a relationship with a man i met in Facebook who is 20 yrs older than i am. im at my 20's and he's on 40's now. I know im just a young adult but still, we both love each other..

Thank you. I am a very lucky lady!! I have taken your advice and am ignoring those looks!

I hope you continue to get more comments on this very interesting hub x

A couple more advantage of marrying an older man, especially:

1. wisdom - smart and learned enough to not make

mistakes that younger guys make

2. careful, gentle, and loving

Hey! An old guy may be all right! I am married to one,

but he is slightly younger than I. :D

Absolutely love this article.

I am currently in a relationship with a guy 19 years older than me, I am 36, he is 55. We have known each other for 5 years and he has recently helped me through some very difficult times.

I have never felt so loved and cared for. He has opened my eyes to a different type of partner for the first time in my life.

We are best friends ultimately which is a big help.

I don't think there should be any hard and fast rules dictated to us by society regarding who we choose to spend our lives with. People are too quick to judge and draw conclusions based on their own preferences.

The most annoying thing for me is the sometimes not so subtle looks and remarks people make when we are out and about together. I do look a little younger than 36, my partner is greying, so it makes the gap look more than it is.

I would have never imagined I could be so happy and hope that I can continue to be so for at least the next 20 years of my life!!

There is not anything wrong with marrying a younger or older person if it is based on mutual love. What happens, for example, if an older man is experiencing a mid-life crisis and wakes up one day to realize that he has married his granddaughter's school mate? What happens when he is too old to be what that young girl wants and needs? What happens if she gets bored and wants them to spend more time with younger people and he may not feel up to it or comfortable? Many of the old people are experiencing a crisis and feel that they can recapture their youth by dating or marrying a young person. Love is love, but a young person needs to make sure that he or she is not about to inherit the job of a sitter, a pile of attends, or a geriatric chair. This is not to be disrespectful, but some of these age differences are not fair to many of these unsuspecting young people who could posibly be widowed in a few years.

There are certainly advantages (written above) and disadvantages of marrying someone who is significantly older or younger.

a few possible advantages that may be seen in an older person:

maturity

experience

settled

financial comfort

debt-free home

less likely to cheat, maybe

Im 29 going to 30 I been dating my boyfriend for 4years, he is 48 for some reason I been having second thoughts of being with him, I'm not sure if I truly love him like I did before, I know that I'm concern of his age and I'm scared that he is getting older that I wonder if I'm going to make it with him I am really confuse I want to let go but at the same time im scared that I won't find wonderful loving man like him, for some reason it is really painful for me I been feeling sad and deppress for the pass month just to know what to do, I'm scared to lose him and at the end to realize that it was just a face that I was going trough, i donot want to cause him more pain , like I told him, he deserves to be happy, but he is still waiting to see what happens between us. What should I do? I need an advice

Aw thanks , ,

yeah he so gorgeous we connect so much , , i think maybe it might be my insecurity sometimes but it thank god everyday that i met someone who i love deeply.

Love will always find a way.

Omnia Vincit Amor

my partner is 20yrs older than me , me being 25 and him 45yrs i love him so deeply , the only thing i find hard is when we are out and about i can see people looking at us and it hurts me to think they stare as if we just escaped some freak show , , people can be so judgemental in this day and age x x hope it gets easier x

For my ripe ole age of 36 I would certainly consider a rendezvous of sorts with a younger man. Hopefully by the time I hit my mid forties I may even have a few under the belt lol, hell why not-but to marry a younger man well idk boutdat..seems an older woman keeping a younger man as a husband despite love is harder and even more devastating if he was of close age. EX Whitney & Bobby (devastating), Eva Longoria & Tony Parker, poor Demi & Ashton, I'd rather be like Madonna play with them and then send them all home.

Hi Ma'am Lady_E

I just read everything about the some successful marriages between having a big age differences.... and I am happy and very proud to say that I am very much in love with my partner Rudy, even we have 36 years of age difference, we both can feel that we are feel true love.... and we are both happy just being together...

Its amazing that even we have different cultures we still see that we are very much compatible to each other.

In my part as a woman... I know I can't let everybody believe that I really love this man and I am not after on any material of financial benefits that he may give... and even my family at first they disapprove on it but later on they accept it, knowing and seeing me very much happy with him...

all I want and need from him is his loving touch and wonderful heart...

I love him so very very much, actually there is no words can fit or defined how much I love him... and same with him.... everyday is like a first time we been together... always excited to be with each others arms... and share everything with him....

and I am very much proud to say, I love this man, he is my soul mate, my best friend, my partner, my lover, he is the most wonderful man this world....he is My RUDY.

thank you ma'am Lady_E for letting other people share their stories or comments here in Hub.... by the way if you are curious about my age and my partners age, I am 29 and he is 64 going to 65.

I like this hub. Thanks =D

had to come back for a re-read - good info :-)

Hi Lady_E,

My husband and I are 8 years almost 9 apart and its unbelievably fantastic and I never thought it could ever be so! With going on 11 years of marriage, everyday gets happier and as you said, truly blessed. We are the two people who both of us never saw ourselves with and which we could not imagine being without. 7 days a week working together, never been apart since the day we met. So true of a story it is. Thanks for an inspiring hub. Its inspiring to me because I so much relate to it. Cheers!

All I can say is that age ain't nothing but a number. Love is where you find it. Some people are more mature at different stages in their lives. When I was 16, I found myself being in love with someone who was 12 years older than me. To this day, I still think of him. I learned a lot from that relationship and I carry so many wonderful memories of him. I say that if you find yourself in a relationship where there is a age gap; only you and that person will know if it will work out. Don't throw away a chance at love because of an age difference; you never know how things may work out. You have to have an open mind about the situation.

Very enjoyable read.

marta just turned 20 and i am 44. we love eachother and have the best sex ever.

i love u, cintaku

I am a 42 years lady and I met my 23 years old boy friend through my ex boy friend. it is a beautiful story and I feel the true love. But seems that all the family and friends around me are worried about how long can this relationship last. Until now we are together already 3 years.. .and we are very much in love. I don't know the future, but I know that God bless the true love. I wish all the people that are in love don't care too much about the age difference. Age is just a number, and love can over write the number.

Yay! *Jumping in excitement*

I'm waiting for your visit.

Yeah! Sure. Hmm! A drink and a plate of jollof rice each in Mr. Biggs

I pray your homecoming coincides with my book launch (Bank of Deposits).

Lol... That's actually what I've been praying for you

(to get lots of comments so that you'll get busy). Can I help out? *winking*

Yeah! Sure. Why not? I do understand and thanks for deeming it fit to share it with me.

Thanks for your advice. I'll do that and I actually do pray about it everyday.

Thanks thanks. When you go come Nigeria? i.e. before the wedding (lol).

I want us to meet.

I've sent you that mail, so, check it out when you are chanced please.

Hi! Lady Elena,

Hmmm! Seriously, I'm dumbfounded but can I share this with you?

I'm in love with a girl who is a year and three weeks older than me but I'm one year ahead of her in class but we were mates back then in secondary school and we've been friends for almost 7 years now.

Told her I love her 4 years back but guess we were young then and she was also shy so it didn't work out then. I gave her space and time to think about it and now I'm back but I guess I was 2 months late because she now has a boyfriend.

She still maintains she loves me and I do love her too and I know she is telling the truth but she told me if I can wait for the right time, i should do that because she doesn't want to hurt anyone by breaking up.

What's your advice?

I frankly care.. and maybe it's not RIGHT. But consider that is Michael Douglas.. would she have married him if she wasn't?

Age is mind over matter,if you don't mind,it doesn't matter.

If you're happy,it doesn't matter.

Great hub!

Nice Hubpage!

I am a 25 yrs old italian guy and I love a 41 yrs old norwegian woman. I still live in Italy and she lives in Norway. She loves me, she thinks and says me I am perfect but now she decided to come back with her ex, she would love to be with me, but for age difference she thinks I would make her feel old and she doesn't want that... I love her more than myself, more than everything I have, more than my life, I have never found a woman like her and now I don't know what to do.. I have been knowing her for 9 months, I went to her one week in December and.. it was wonderful. And now I can't cancel her from my heart since she is my heart. I think when there is True Love age doesn't count.. I will always love her.. I don't know what to do..

Many thanks in advance from my heart,

Davide

Oh my - here I have been pushing away ladies 20 years younger than me..... True!

Thanks the hub - I will endeavor to let my walls down should another find me.

Big Hug

Hi Lady_E,

I've been exploring every resource I have in regard to advice on my current relationship. Reading your hub really has given me some hope and I'm hoping you can help me out where others have simply laughed or dismissed my problems.

I've recently entered a relationship with a 25yr old girl. I'm 19 years old. She really is the most amazing girl I've ever met in my life. I can'y get my head around that there is actually a girl out there who ticks all the boxes. She's beautiful and means so much to me. Everyday I feel myself caring more and more for her. My problem is that she thinks I'm 21. This is because when we first met she wouldn't agree to go out with someone younger than her, and after much convicing (and that little lie) I got her out for a drink and the rest is history. Now I know she cares about me, she told me the other night she sees herself falling for me. But I need to tell her the truth about my age, explain to her I lied because i needed her to give me a chance, and that staying with me would make both of us happy.

I relaise my predicament is my own fault, and it tears me up inside. The confrontation is going to kill me. Can you give me any advice,

Many Thanks,

Markus

Im 14 but i like this 20 year old, i understand age difference is a lot different when you're as young as me but ive been thinking about how it wouldn't be a big deal if i was 18 and he was 24 ya kno. I guess ill have to wait but he liked me but now hes lookin at the age difference but he says he still really likes me...well see how this turns out i guess. Cant wait till im 18!

im starting to like a guy older too im 14 hes like 18 who cares about age diffrence is the love that counts

Dearest Lady_E

I have written to you 3 -4 months earlier about the love of my life(or so it appeared to me).Well,I think the dream is coming to an end.It's not Ok but I'll be fine!I wanted to STRESS that it wasn't the age.On the contrary,the age was wonderful,provided ofcourse that we understood eachother pretty well.and yes at points he loved me and it was beautiful.Sometimes we were friends,sometimes he pampered me like a spoiled girl:)sometimes I'd pamper him like my kid...sometimes I look up to him like a wow a mature man,my hero I can count own...it was beautiful.He was waiting to take the next step in the relationship when he's financially secures when I'm telling you I don't give a damn.I make good money myself and I was willing to work and help him out.I guess the problem was he was never emotionally ready,and he will never be...sad,I know!Maybe he enjoyed my company..like the company of many other ex girl friends I found out he still contacts.Maybe this satisfied his ego.He knew we had something special but that was that.He just played me I guess...and his loss!I don't think I'll ever hate him.I never felt connected to someone that much.and the funny thing is..he always worried about the age difference!on my end,I was praying to god if we ever got married,I would be the one who dies first.See E...I made hi the axis of my universe.I really loved him and I know what I felt was true,so I don't regret it.It hurts like hell,I'm having nonstop migraines now..nothing makes sense;can't find anything interesting or take joy in anything..but the mockery couldn't last longer.I can't keep lying to myself that he wants me as much as I do.and I'm telling you,if he ever felt how I feel for him,he wouldn't have left me for the world.I'm sure his sweet words will find away with another girl.Anyways,wanted to share this with everyone and to confirm that no rules regarding relationships.Any relation can work out(not) and all that matters is that 2 people want like REALLY want to be with each other,simple as that..

Well, age difference does not matter. I am happily married to a man who is 22 years older than me! :-)

That's right. Age shouldn't be a factor, when two people are in love, age is not a hindrance to be together. Great formed hub as always.:)

Lady E what a nice hub. In a time where people marry for the wrong reasons its refreshing to see a arcticle such as this! Thanks for sharing.

Nice to read... although sadly I am in a position of over a 25 year age gap and the man will probably never look at me that way, we are best friends and I am head-over-heels in love with him. Past infatuated and moved on to unconditional love, actually... I've known him 2 years and ever time I get to talk to him my day is so much better!

SuSu's story sounds almost exactly like mine, except for it's all one sided right now :-( Sometimes I get hope and I will keep waiting, but at least if we only have each other's friendship I will be happy. Thanks for this hub - it was nice to read and gives me hope that I'm not the only one out there who thinks that love is blind to age!!

Dear Lady_E

I was googling marriages and relationships with"age gap"as the call it...when I got myself her.I went thru the whole hub...I think it's awesome.Age is just a number...as long as the two partners can compromise,this will push the relationship forwards.I happen to be with a guy 18 years old older than myself...it never worried me,except regarding what if he just goes after younger girls?that's why I buried my infatuation inside...till I got to know him better.He's such a kind heart...who happened to always be running into abusive people.and to my amusement we share many things together...music,movies,opinions...even when conflicting..it goes peacefully...look,all I know is that by just having a 10 minutes conversation with him(this is how it started off)this made my day.we understand eachother so much...we are both ambitious..we are supposed to get married next year.Pray for us.Whatever happens...this man changed my life...helped me get out the best of me,and for a reason I want to takecare of him for the rest of my life,have babies with him..I love you G :-) AGAIN THUMBS UP FOR THE HUB

i like a guy 5years younger than me and neither parents agree on our relationship. what do you suggest i should do thank you.

Thanks, E. :)

I realize I'm young and completely inexperienced when it comes to love and intimate relationships. I guess I'm holding out hope that like you said, she might reciprocate my feelings one day if she can find it within herself to let down her walls and not let her past rule the rest of her life. I'm trying not to let it get to me, but she's acting completely opposite of what she said her beliefs were when we first met and got close. I'm not judging her in any way--I've had my own demons to battle in the past. I just wish she could see that she doesn't guard her emotions with me. I know I've hurt her by not telling her sooner that I fell for her, or that her pulling away hurt me as well.

It also hasn't been easy since she said we should cease the displays of affection, yet she's still more open with others and acting like nothing happened between us--particularly in this other chat room she introduced me to where a lot of the other members are actually older than she is, and most don't know she's bisexual and often times ends up in younger crowds because of her usual disposition where she doesn't always "act her age."

I've talked with my mother too, I know it's not the homosexuality that bothers her, but she's concerned about the age gap as well as my nonexistent track record with dating or relationships.

Apologies in advance if this post is on the longer side. :) But I hope this is okay to get this off my chest here.

A few months ago, I met an older woman on an online chat program. I'll be turning 24 in October, while she just turned 52 in May. From the beginning we'd hit it off great. So much so that we've exchanged photos to put a face to the name and have each other's phone number--and had practically been inseparable on there since. Nearly from the beginning, we'd had an understanding that neither of us cared about our age difference or what people thought about us when they saw us flirting in chat rooms--namely that they thought that we were in a relationship or dating, though technically we weren't.

However recently, for me, it changed and although I knew we agreed it was nothing more than fun and flirting...I fell in love with her, in spite of everything I knew about her past--a few failed marriages (one in which lasted 10 years and was highly abusive on all counts) and engagements.

Because of this, she has closed her heart off to serious relationships and ends up pushing people away when they get too close, like she did with me not too long ago. We have both said we loved each other, but while I meant it romantically, she said she meant it more in a friendly way when I talked with her after she'd been distancing herself from me the last few days.

I'm hesitant to try and pursue this any further since she just wants to be friends, while I still love her. I don't know if it could be anything long term, but I know how I feel. I know she doesn't want to be hurt again, which is why I think she said she doesn't love me the same way (and now all of a sudden let someone's comment about her being old enough to be my mother influence her when she said she doesn't care what people think about us), but I think we could have something really special if she allowed herself to love and be loved.

I've said I could just be her friend like how we've always been and move past these feelings I have for her, but I'm having second thoughts. How do I know for sure she isn't just saying she only loves me as a friend as a means of protecting herself?

Lady E-Another great Hub dear...... Some wise man rightly said that love is blind..... when you are in love you don't see any differences.....you know only one thing that that person is the one who you were searching for all your life......

Hello Lady-some may take it seriously. Love is like that,but sounds good.Thanks.