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Love and Respect Diary

Updated on May 6, 2016

Love and Respect Diary

Love and Respect Diary

Love and Respect Diary

When it comes to love and relationships most of us fall apart on the journey. Very few people hit a mellifluous at first, second, or third time with their romantic love life at a tender age.

If this weren't so we'd be married to our high school sweetheart’s mate! But is not always like that. Truth be told our "first love" is often during a period where we have yet to figure out who we are let alone what we want out of life. We are naïve and have "unrealistic expectations". As a result of these act so many had falling victim by losing their virginity to a guy whom they have probably tag to be the love of their life.

Statistics for Virginity among Young People

According to statistics in the U.S. the average person loses their virginity at age 17, Virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males aged 20 to 24. The average age of a first time married woman is 27 and it's 29 for men. This essentially means the average person will have 10 or more years of sexual experience before getting married.

In short what this means is; that special someone you had sex with at age 17 is not likely going to become your spouse. At age 30 you'll look at yourself and laugh about the idea of you believing you have found your "soul-mate" at age 16 or 17.

Another example of being unrealistic is when two high school sweethearts go away to separate colleges. They honestly believed they would maintain a long distance relationship for the next 4 to 6 years.

However it was unrealistic to believe they were simply going to go to classes, the library, cafeteria, and the dorm room to sleep. At some point everyone takes part in a social life on campus. They make new friends, maybe join a fraternity or sorority, attend parties/dances, and sporting events with people who are (actually on campus) with them. Eventually a fondness for someone develops and most high school sweethearts breakup usually after a semester or two.

Another example of how people set themselves for heartache involves young women in their teens and 20s dating men of their same age. These girls don't realize guys in that age range primarily are looking to party with their friends, play video games, watch sports, and get laid.

The very thought of settling down for marriage, and starting a family is like watching their life flash before their eyes! Most American guys don't start to consider marriage until they're in their early 30s.

As you noted over the years most of us (learn and grow) after each breakup. Essentially we figure out what we want in a mate. We learn to love "smarter" and choose our mates more wisely.

The Value for Relationship

The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you want, love and respect your opinion and naturally agrees with you, last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.

Instead of trying to "change someone" from what he or she (already is) the kind of person you want to be with, be that change!

There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have, lot of laugh! Sound funny but that is the true.... Accept them or move on with them. The choice is up to us! You either choose to be happy or you allow people choose for you.

Never Agree to Want You Don’t Want

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary." That you are not special.

Never marry anyone who thinks he or she is doing you a favor

Never marry anyone who can’t be proud of you

Go for those people who will love and respect you

Never take the F**k from anyone about your dream

Never look down on yourself, because you are a master pieces of your life. You are much valuable than you think. Click to Learn 5 Love Language


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