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Love and Romance For Vegans and Non-Vegans: Can 'Mixed' Marriage Work?

Updated on August 7, 2012

Veganism: Is Meat Murder?

Are you vegan? Are you vegan-friendly? Would you not touch a real meaty sausage that’s seen the business end of a pig with, well, a fork? Or maybe you’d like to swear off the carnivorous life, but those bacon sandwiches just smell so good…

Either way, if you’re vegan and your partner isn’t, or vice versa, it can lead to its own set of tensions and difficulties. Do you shop together? How do you eat together? Do you need a rota to use the kitchen? Are mealtimes a little lonely? (Can your bookshelves take the weight of two sets of cookery books?)

Of course if both you and your partner had made your respective commitments to a meaty or otherwise diet prior to your meeting, then that simplified things quite a bit. No expectations have been subject to upheaval, there’s no feeling of , “Crikey, I didn’t sign up for this!” You both knew what you were getting and signed on the dotted line.

You Say Potato, I Say Steak 'n' Onions...

It doesn’t always work that way, though. People change. Sometimes they have road to Damascus moments that lead to crises in the meat aisle at Tesco’s, and suddenly abandoned shopping carts. (Sometimes they have crises that lead to guilty bacon sandwiches in the middle of the night. Aaah, the late night fry-up, you can’t beat it.)

As with most differences in a partnership, differing decisions regarding the “Meat: to eat or not to eat?” issue can often be worked out with a little tolerance and respect. Fewer cries of “Ee-ew. Are you eating THAT?” – on both sides – and more willingness to search and find vegan dishes a meat-eater can stomach, will lead to more shared mealtimes and resulting good cheer. The couple that scoffs together, er, puts a stone and a half on together!

A carnivore, it should be borne in mind by the veggie half of a partnership, isn’t ever necessarily going to be converted. And that’s however gracefully and pleasantly they co-operate in cooking and shared mealtimes. Perhaps she did enjoy that Greek chickpea and mint salad with soy mayo dip and flatbread last night. It doesn’t mean that the sausage rolls in the baker’s window will call to her any less powerfully tomorrow lunchtime.

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10:10 - Veganism Isn't Just Good For Animals

However, bear in mind that every vegan meal consumed by a meat eater makes a difference to some animal somewhere. And animal welfare isn’t the only issue at stake: both health and the environment may benefit from an increased proportion of animal-free meals in our diets. Jenna Torres, in her book “Vegan freak: being vegan in a non-vegan world,” reviews the literature and suggests that a vegan diet is in fact actively beneficial for health including in relation to cancer risk and bowel health.

And the suggestions of the 10:10 challenge – a campaign led by the Guardian newspaper for all individuals to reduce their environmental impact by 10% by 2010 – include the surprising information that switching to vegan food for just under half the week would constitute 33% of your 10% target. Personally I’m thinking of aiming for one vegan grocery shopping trip in three – or maybe even one in two. Veganism: the planet will love you for it.


Torres, J. "Vegan freak: being vegan in a non-vegan world." New York: Tofu Hound Press, 2005.

"Your top ten tips for a greener, happier life." 10/10/2009. (11/11/2009). <>


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