- Gender and Relationships
Love - forever blind
Falling in love, and loving someone is one of the nicest feelings ever. Love doesn't know limits. You can be 10, 36 or 67 and still feel the butterflies in your stomach. And when we love, we often don't see, or don't want to see the reality.
This is a story of my friend, whose heart was broken several times, by the same person. Despite that, she believes he is the love of her life.
10 years ago Adele was holidaying in Egypt and met a man of her dreams. He was the most caring and the most affectionate man she’s ever seen. Adele fell in love. Coming back to UK, she divorced her husband and just few months later, she married Amir, her Egyptian soulmate. He moved in with her and settled in England. People believed in fairy tales, when they saw them together. The happiest couple in the whole neighbourhood.
Until 3 years ago. Amir changed. He stopped leaving love notes on the fridge. He even stopped calling her to work and check what time she’s coming home. Adele felt left alone. That lasted for couple of weeks until Amir told her that he doesn't feel complete. He wanted children. Adele was then 47. She explained Amir how she felt, and that it can be dangerous for woman at her age to go through pregnancy. However, Amir didn’t change his mind and Adele conceived.
She was very happy that she can please her man, and hoped that their baby will make him fall in love all over again.
Unfortunately, in a 6th month of pregnancy, Adele had a miscarriage. What do you think happened after that?
A) A supportive husband Amir hold Adele in his arms that night. They were both very sad, but knew that they will overcome it.
B) A selfish husband Amir didn’t support Adele at all. He told her, that it happened because she’s too old to have kids. And it’s all her fault. Adele believed him and that night, she couldn’t stop herself crying. Alone, in the living room, while Amir slept in their comfortable bed.
If you chose scenario A, you are wrong..
After a long night, Adele was wondering where she’s done a mistake. At this point, she really thought everything is her fault.
Amir and Adele stayed together and Adele was trying to work on their relationship. Amir lived in her house, didn’t pay rent, sometimes talked to Adele about his plans and that he really wants kids. Adele cooked, did all the house work, and every day, she hoped that Amir will come home, kiss her and ask her:,,How was your day darlin?'' That was Adele's life..
Until recently. Few weeks ago, she came home, and Amir announced her, that he divorced her. He didn’t even ask her or talk to her about it. As they are married in Egypt, not in England, he could do that. His excuse is that he’s going to Egypt, marry an Egyptian woman, have kids with her. When he has kids, he will divorce the woman and bring kids with him to England.
When little people are running around, he said, that him and Adele will be happy again.
Amir now lives with Adele, and nothing changed. The only thing that changed is they are not married.
When I ask Adele, why does she love him, her answer is I don’t know. But I really love him and we used to be SO happy together.
This whole situation is breaking her heart apart. She is now 50, and maybe is not strong enough to leave him. Maybe she’s scared of loneliness, and maybe she really loves him and hopes that he will change back to the way he was 10 years ago. And their life will be a fairy tale again.
Is that gonna happen? Or is Amir just using her and her feelings towards him?