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NPD - Narcissists are Love Frauds

Updated on July 29, 2017
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Poetry and Stories to help raise awareness, and insight, into intrusive, and dangerous, personality disorders, and to encourage healing.

Narcissist Wolf

Both, men and women, would do well to learn the Red Flags of Covert Narcissists so as not to become ensnared by these entities, not only in romantic relationships, but also in the work place, and all other types of interactions. If given any entryway, Narcissists will ruin one financially, socially, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, without any remorse, since they have, what appears to be, no conscience, or human empathy. Their abuse comes on insidiously.

Twilight Zone

Narcissists' Betrayal

Pathological Liars


I suppose his face

might have been

stunningly handsome,

And yes, his eyes were,

rather, a soft, velvety blue;


But still, his lovely lips

were full of lies,

and his every

calculated word

so deceitful, and untrue!

Deception


Perhaps, his voice

was richly deep,

And yes, perhaps

his presence made

me melt;


But still, his inner-core

was barely human,

and his abandonment

was the hand

I had been dealt!

Abandonment


Of course, it might appear

that his piano-fingers were artistic,

And yes, his strong arms

could have held me,

forever, tight;


But still, his mind

was always

ten steps ahead,

planning my final discard

to his ecstatic delight!

Ghosting


It would seem like his heart

would have been full of love,

in the way his finely

calculated words

graced the air;


But still, his actions proved

completely otherwise,

in the way he shoved me aside,

his soulmate, without

ever a care.


No one ever chooses to get into a relationship with a Covert Narcissist, nor do they choose to develop Stockholm Syndrome.

Covert Narcissists

Do you think you could be targeted by a Covert Narcissist someday?

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© 2017 Tamara Yancosky

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      Tamara Yancosky 7 weeks ago from No Idea Where

      She thought she had found her prince,

      but he turned out to be a dreadful frog;

      He told her she was his sweet princess,

      but he treated her worse than a rabid dog.

      When she told him the relationship was over,

      he became vicious and smeared her name;

      It further validated her reasons for leaving him,

      and she could finally see all of his toxic shame.

      His Red Flags had been shown to her early on,

      and viewed by her very clearly in this dance.

      But, she chose to hide from every one of them,

      because being in-love put her in such a gratifying trance.

      But, now she is so much stronger;

      She is cloaked with the armor of self-love and self-respect.

      She figuratively boils every new frog she meets,

      and makes sure the past ones do not return to reinfect.

      © 2017 Tamara Yancosky Moore

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      Tamara Yancosky 3 months ago from No Idea Where

      Like...WOW! Why didn't I think of that? All I have to do is stick to my "must have" or "wants" list, and from now on, i shall never have another problem with a Covert ...let me emphasize that...COVERT...Narcissist, ever again. Seriously Dashing, you're gonna put Narcissist Abuse Victim Professionals and Counselors way out of business via your magnificent advice. No one knew it could be so easy! I really think you ought to stick to your day job. Thanks, anyway.

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      Tamara Yancosky 3 months ago from No Idea Where

      Huh?

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      dashingscorpio 3 months ago

      Ok I see you're not just talking about being in a romantic relationship with a Narcissists but rather dealing with them in all walks of life. Ultimately it still comes down to each of us having a "screening process" or way in which determine who we will spend time with or not.

      It's up to us to stick to our "must have" or "wants" list it comes choosing friends, lovers, or a spouse.

      Needless to say Covert Narcissists may be in family as well such as a mother/father, uncle/aunt, cousins, or siblings.

      In those instances oftentimes we're too young to identify their behavior or we feel obligated to "overlook" it because they're family. We shouldn't give anyone a free pass to mistreat us.

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      Tamara Yancosky 3 months ago from No Idea Where

      Thank you very much, Dashingscorpio, for your informative comment! There is much more to the above relationship that what this Poem portrays. This is just a very small portion of so much more... Covert Narcissists are very abusive, yet it is usually done "behind closed doors". This poem is more about Covert Narcissists than it is about a relationship. Below is an excerpt from: Spartan Life Coach

      Below I have added a bit about Covert Narcissists from SPARTAN LIFE COACH http://spartanlifecoach.com/covert-narcissistic-ab...

      Covert Narcissists Are Dangerous!

      You will never see them coming, they will flaunt their vulnerability in front of you to capitalise on your compassion, they will flatter and charm you with their "shyness" to get close enough to you that they can get their fangs deep into you.

      All the flattery of the initial meeting is a phase in which they are sizing you up, quite possibly full to the brim with boiling envy and narcissistic rage that you have something that they "deserve" to be given the purpose of which is to learn your weaknesses and vulnerabilities so they can drain you dry.

      Narcissism on Steroids

      Overt narcissists are a walk in the park compared to the covert, and they genuinely are a nastier breed. There is research that indicates that coverts (usually referred to as "vulnerable" or "stealth" narcissists in the academic literature) are MORE likely than overt (or "grandiose") to engage in domestic violence in the early phases of a relationship and to abuse children. They are also shown to be more likely to engage in incest than overts.

      Truly unpleasant.

      Add to this that Covert Narcissists vector in with the worst forms of malignant narcissistic...you have a hellish rollercoaster ride of emotional dysregulation in store during contact with a covert.

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      dashingscorpio 3 months ago

      I'm not sure about the term "Covert Narcissists" but I am aware of both men and women playing some "bait & switch" in order to win over the object of their affection early on.

      During the "infatuation phase" of most new relationships people bend over backwards to put their best foot forward in order to avoid "blowing it" with someone they want to get close to.

      Long conversations and laughter flows easily, romantic gestures, giving cards, balloons, and token gifts "just because" are seen by many as being "normal courtship" standards.

      I believe there are two basic groups of people.

      Natural Romantics and Practical Cynics.

      Romantics cling to the fairytale of finding a "soul-mate" and being "happy ever after", becoming "one" with a relationship that is filled with emotional and physical intimacy, passion, and romance for the rest of their lives together.

      They remember who wore what on their first date, where they went, what they did, and celebrate that day as an anniversary.

      Cynics on the other hand believe it's "normal" to start off as "romantic" but feel it's unrealistic to expect things to remain that way. They barely remember anything about their first date.

      Not long ago a woman on HP said:

      "I hate the whole {dating thing} where you have to watch what you say and do, what you wear, and how you behave."

      "When you're married you get to be yourself!"

      Trust me there are a lot of folks who feel exactly like she does!

      They'll do whatever it takes to generate an "emotional investment" from someone and once that is done they feel safe to reveal their "authentic selves" without fear of you leaving.

      The sad thing is many of these people assume that's normal and believe (you) are doing the same thing as them!

      They're shocked to learn you expected them to stay the same.

      Life would be wonderful if two natural romantics got together!

      However the reason it rarely happens is because cynics behave just like romantics at the start of all their new relationships!

      Everyone has seen Hollywood romance movies or read books and articles. They emulate what they learned from them.

      By the same token if two cynics got together they would be happy because they're getting what they "expected"!

      Whenever a "romantic" gets with a "cynic" the romantic usually ends up feeling hurt and betrayed. While the cynic labels them as being "unrealistic", "high maintenance" or "needy"

      The truth of the matter is the "romantic" is wondering what became of the person they fell in love with!

      However I'm not sure I would call them a "covert narcissist".

      To some extent it's human nature to treat "the new" better than the "tried and true". We see people do it all the time with new jobs, new cars, and new relationships.

      After being out of work for several months a person finally gets a new job. The first day they show up early and work their tail off. Two years later they come into work 20 minutes late and when a co-worker mentions it to them their reply is:

      "They're LUCKY I showed up!"

      Someone gets a new car and the first thing they tell everyone is "No eating, drinking, or smoking in my car!". They have it washed and waxed every weekend and detailed every 6 months. Five years later it looks like a grenade went off inside and the outside has an inch of dirt on it.

      A guy just started dating a new girl and when he arrives at her place she asks: "Are you hungry? Want me to make you something?" One year later the same guy comes over and asks:

      "Baby, Will you make me a grilled ham and cheese?"

      Her reply:

      "What do I look like? You got two hands fix it yourself!" LOL!

      Ultimately it's not about the "Narcissist" but rather our attraction to them and becoming emotionally invested too soon.

      With life/dating experience we learn to hold back during the "infatuation phase" of all new relationships.

      Those first few months are "magical" because (both people) make the happiness of each other their top priority. Only time will tell if they're a natural "romantic" or a practical "cynic".

      Just know and accept the fact everyone who is attracted to you is going to put their "best foot" forward in order to be with you.