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Love Is Blind: Myth or Reality?

Updated on January 26, 2018
Is love blind?
Is love blind?

Do you believe that love is blind? Is it myth or reality? Do you know the difference between love and infatuation? We will reveal an unexpected truth about it.

What is Infatuation?

Infatuation is usually short-lived and doesn't always turn into love. When you are in love, you will have intense feelings for a partner, and be attracted and connected to him on the level of mind, body, and soul.

Infatuation is delusional and usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship when we can’t see a realistic image of our partners. We want to be always close to our partner. Lovers prefer falling in love with their idealized vision than with the actual reality of their partners. We overestimate our partner's virtues and ignore their faults. We image our future with them. Our world becomes an imaginary world. It is a powerful mixture of idealization and infatuation.

Is Love Blind?

When more information about our partners becomes available, this evaluation must take into account negative aspects, too. Now we can see a realistic image of our partners. We might ask ourselves how we could have been so blind. But this knowledge does not necessarily lead to separation. We should accept our partner with all his virtues and flaws. Acceptance is the first step to real love, isn’t it? As long as we are not capable of seeing the realistic image of our partner, we don't love him or her. In conclusion, love is not blind. Only infatuation can blind us.

"Love is not blind. It simply enables one to see things others fail to see."

— Johnny Depp

The Definition of True Love

Love is not blind. Love sees what is worth. True love doesn't care about physical appearance, what is important is what is inside. When we love someone, we don't have expectations, because true love is acceptance. We understand and support our partner. We put our partner's needs equal to our own. His happiness is our happiness, too.
But if you want to love somebody, you should love yourself first. Self-love is a base for every type of love. If you don't know to love yourself, you won't know to love the others.

True love is caring about another person without expecting anything back.

Who is Ready for True Love?

According to psychologists, only people who haven't built their integrity based on reality can fall in love. In other words, if you are mature, you won't fall in love. Romantic crushes often occur in the early teenage years. The brain chemicals associated with crushes can wreak havoc on a person for up to two years.

Mature people become self-conscious. They can perceive a world around them. They are ready for true love.

We can't force our blindness to disappear. Everything comes to you at the right time. Only if you are emotionally prepared for marriage, you will meet your future wife or husband.

Don't forget that sometimes disappointment is good for us. Every experience is a new lesson which teaches us about life. If we learn these lessons, we will truly love someone.

"Mature love is not caught up in a fantasy. It is willing to see someone for who they are and choosing to love them fully."

— Thema Davis

Conclusion

A common saying "love is blind" is a myth only. True love is not blind, only infatuation is.

Unknown, "Infatuation is when you find someone perfect. Love is when you realize they aren’t perfect and it doesn’t matter."

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