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Love Is Blind: Myth or Reality?

Updated on December 24, 2017

We all were infatuated with someone, but we thought we were in love. It can be confusing! You should learn how to identify your feelings.

What is infatuation?

Infatuation is usually short-lived and doesn't always tend to turn into love. When you are in love, you will have intense feelings for a partner, and be attracted and connected to him or her on the level of mind, body, and soul. Infatuation is delusional and usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship when we can’t see a realistic image of our partners. We have desire to be always close to our partner. Lovers prefer falling in love with their idealized vision than with the actual reality of their partners. We tend to overestimate our partner's virtues and ignore their faults. We can see only good things about our partners. We image our future with them. Our world becomes an imaginary world. It is a powerful mixture of idealization and infatuation.

Is love blind?

When more information about our partners becomes available, this evaluation must take into account negative aspects, too. Now we can see a realistic image of our partners. We might ask ourselves how we could have been so blind. But this knowledge does not necessarily lead to separation. We should accept our partner with all his virtues and flaws. Acceptance is the first step to real love, isn’t it? As long as we are not capable of seeing the realistic image of our partner, we don't love him or her. In conclusion, love is not blind!

"Love is not blind. It simply enables one to see things others fail to see."

— Johnny Depp

The meaning of real love

Love is not blind. Love sees what is worth. It doesn't care about physical appearance, what is important is what is inside. When we love someone, we don't have expectations, because love is acceptance. We understand and support our partner. We put our partner's needs equal to our own. We care about his or her happiness. His or her happiness is our happiness, too.
If you want to love somebody, you should love yourself first. Self-love is a base for every type of love.

Real love is caring about another person without wanting anything in return.

Who is ready for real love?

According to psychologists, only people who haven't built their integrity based on reality can fall in love. In other words, if you are mature, you won't fall in love. Romantic crushes often occur in the early teenage years. The brain chemicals associated with crushes can wreak havoc on a person for up to two years.

Mature people become self-conscious. They can perceive a world around them. They are ready for real love.

What’s more, we can't force our blindness to disappear. Everything comes on right time. Disappointments can be good for us. Every experience is a new lesson which teaches us about life. If we learn our lessons, we will be capable of loving.

As a conclusion, wisdom says: Infatuation is when you find someone perfect. Love is when you realize they aren’t perfect and it doesn’t matter.

"Mature love is not caught up in a fantasy. It is willing to see someone for who they are and choosing to love them fully."

— Thema Davis

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