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Dating these days
I grew up being told by my father that I should never take dating seriously until I have to. Sounds so simple yet i didn't realize the significance of it until I was 25, out of an 8 year volatile relationship and had to figure out what dating really meant. I thought my life was over. My high school sweetheart had abandoned me and left me for a much younger, less educated, less poised version of myself. How was I ever going to "date again"? Back to what my father told me, " don't take dating seriously, until you have to" ... So, that is exactly what I had decided to do. I reluctantly decided to sign up on a few Internet dating websites.
At first, it was exciting and intriguing. My friends all asked me questions like " aren't you scared?" "How do you know he won't kill you?" Etc, I had this feeling that I would simply be fine and I was. I went on date after date after date. In my mind I knew I was being perceived as acting improperly or with little value for myself. However, what they didn't understand is what my father told me. I wasn't taking it seriously.
Our society has programed us to claim exclusivity after the first text message is sent. Young men and women these days are so quick to take claim, take ownership of one another to make sure no one else can "have" that guy or girl. How silly this is but how hard it is to break without being judged or talked about. I wasn't being trashy I was simply dating. The true form of dating as it should be. Going on dates with different guys to see with whom I clicked best.
Everyone needs to calm down and breathe and enjoy being young. Exclusivity too soon leads to marriage too soon. Divorce is so easily provided that no one takes a hard look at their relationships before fully committing. So love, laugh, repeat