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Love or In Love?

Updated on April 24, 2015
I love u sparky. I'm so in love with you baby.
I love u sparky. I'm so in love with you baby. | Source

Loving someone or something is completely different than being IN LOVE with someone. A lot of people don’t really understand the difference. Many are quick to judge & respond with the statements that “It’s the same thing.” Is it?

You can love someone or something from the day that you first experience that emotion. It can come from the moment you’re a child and love your first pet. When you reach the age of dating you just may perhaps feel in love with your first sweetheart. You can see & feel the difference between love & in love.

When you love someone/thing it can be as strong as the love you feel for your parents or siblings. You can love your pet, best friend it’s in our nature to simply love. (Not to say that some people are just filled with hate & don’t or won’t allow themselves to love) Love is an emotion that either you’re filled with & respond with or don’t feel at all. In reality who doesn’t feel love? Even the most evil people in the world feel love (some of them just choose not accept it). Those are their issues; never make them yours.

The people who fall in love with someone are entirely different. Despite when many say that “It is all the same.” Some will agree & those who haven’t been in love will disagree. When you have met someone that you just can’t imagine yourself without is overwhelming. Every little thing about them just fills your entire mind & body with joy. You can’t stop thinking about them, you share mutual interests & the physical connection is dominated by emotion. It is without a doubt; unconditional.

When you love someone, yes you feel an overpowering emotion; yet lack all the other sentiments when “in love” with another. There are certain ways you can express yourself when you love someone & most definitely other ways when you’re in love with someone.

Understanding the difference isn’t a huge issue. The ABILITY to love is. Love comes in all shapes, sizes, colors, creeds etc. Your heart cannot control who it loves or falls in love with; at all. Love is a grand emotion & should be appreciated, respected, reciprocated (to whom you choose) but most of all; felt.


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    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      "I love you" - means someone {cares a lot} about you.

      "I'm in love with you" - means (I feel you are "the one" for me!)

      Most people have their own definition of what it means to be told someone loves them. It's not unheard of to hear someone say to their mate;

      "If you {really} loved me you would....etc". It's about (their) expectations.

      In other words if your words and deeds does not pass (their litmus test) then it means you are a liar! Awhile back I heard a radio host state he always ask his dates; "How do (you) know when you are loved?"

      Based upon their answer he has an idea if he may not be right for them. For example some guys can be "in love" with a woman but not be into buying flowers, cards, or memorizing significant dates. However they would gladly lay their life on the line to protect her. She'll never have to worry about him lying, cheating, or not being financially responsible.

      Nevertheless none of that matters if that woman defines being loved as having someone who does the romantic things. She won't (feel) loved.

      Another guy could be a charmer, sweet talker, who showers all his women with surprise trinkets, dinners in 5 star restaurants, weekend getaways, and each of them feels "special" until they realize they're not his only one.

      Perception is reality for the most part. If someone does whatever (we) expect people to do who are "in love" then (we feel) loved.

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      Josie Ramos 

      3 years ago

      Agree there is a difference of bring in love and loving someone.


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