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For Love or For Money?

Updated on June 28, 2011

The Beatles tried to get the message across, but they were a widely popular "rock" band with loads of money and millions of fans. I don't think they ever had to worry if anyone would judge them as they do ordinary people. The messages in most of their songs were positive, down to earth and appealed to common people everywhere. And somewhere along the line, we believed that love conquered everything if it was true love - how romantic!

For Richer or Poorer...

Citing a recent survey conducted on YourTango and ForbesWoman - this is not the entire truth. With more highly educated and accomplished women in the workforce, who are being paid competitive wages with their male counterparts, priorities have shifted. Most women would still marry for love, but money is playing a bigger part in their decision making; if they come to the table at all.

According to the survey, 75% of women would marry for love over money -- unless the man is unemployed. But on the other side of the coin, 65% of women would not marry if they were not employed. According to Andrea Miller, founder and CEO of YourTango, "From money woes to resentment, joblessness can create great strain on relationships. Before women enter into a lifetime commitment, they want to feel secure in what their partner can bring to the table."

All the finances aside, 91% of single women still say they would marry for love over money.

Survey Tidbits

Interestingly enough, according to the survey, 32% of single women in a relationship make more money then their partners; 50% would marry someone who earned significantly less than them while 41% would not.

When it came to children and careers, 55% of women would give up their career to take care of children if their partner asked them to, while only 28 percent would ask their partner to do the same.

Seventy-seven percent of women believe women can simultaneously have a successful career, a fulfilling relationship and a wonderful family life.

Single or Married?

Would you give up your career to run a household? Survey says...59% of married women would while only 19% of single women would. (or is that could?)

Sixty-nine percent of married women would give up their career to support a partner's while 59% of single women would. (wow, that one surprised me!)

While 77% of women believe it is possible to live the dream of a work/life balance only 43% say that their work/life balance is about where they want it to be. Forty-seven percent would like to devote less time to work and 10% would like to spend more time at work. Single women are more likely to think that their work interferes with their love life.

Women over 35 vs Women under 35

Older women are less likely to marry someone who makes less money than them, but the results were close...45% of older women will hold out for someone who makes the same or more than them, 40% of younger women don't mind if he makes less. Although, 36% of younger women are concerned with the prestige of their partner's career while only 18% of older women make that an issue.

Your Opinions?

I was surprised at some of the results of this survery, but then again - its a survey in a magazine...I found it interesting. You can follow the link below to read the whole article, I just wrote about some of the highlights. What are your thoughts on the results?


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      Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

      thank you!

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      Dallas W Thompson 6 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      Great article!

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      Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

      Acaetnna, how wonderful to see you and hear the "Lady of Love" offer her expert opinion!! Yes, I agree, true love always wins - but I heard somewhere that its easier to love someone who offers you security - or maybe that's just age talking. Thanks for visiting, my friend!

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      acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

      Well of course money isn't everything, but I guess it does really help. I would rather experience the true love of a man than have his money any time! What a great hub Erin.

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      Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

      Hi Ruby!

      It was a fun read, huh? Not my usual style, but I couldn't resist sharing these statistics, they surprised me...well, not really. I don't think I was told really what to "look" for really but now I know what not to look for from experience! :) Its fun to read statistics to know what society seems to be thinking!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Hello Erin, Great article. I know when i was growing into adulthood, i was taught that you needed a husband and family to be whole, of course you looked for love, but you also looked at their financial status. I was told that it was just as easy to fall in love with a man with money vs a poor man. I think today women are much more secure, better educated, and are not likely to settle. I was not surprised about the older women not wanting to marry someone with less. You read about younger men dating older women for money, then again you see some who are very happy with a younger husband, so to each his own. Fun discussion. Thank's

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      Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

      Hello break up books! and thanks for coming by and commenting! I agree! I think these surveys usually target, of course, their readers, but these times have changed. I know I'm living proof. Thanks so much for visiting!

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      break up books 6 years ago

      Oh i love these kinds of hubs! Research and surveys can be real eye openers! The research proves that times have changed. Women have different priorities now, they are focusing on their careers, not relying on men and leaving childbirth until their thirties. I think there is a long way to go before women usurp the male role, but i do understand why men start to feel threatened with today's women as it makes them feel less manly and powerful.