- Gender and Relationships
Love the Living Emotion
Love Keeps Life Alive with Happiness in a Relationship
A tremendous number of people are asking the same questions about love:
- What is love?
- Is there love out there for me?
- Where do I look for Mr. Right?
- Should I join an online dating site to find love?
- How do I know he loves me?
- How do I know it when I find my true love?
- Does loving make you sad and feeling lonely?
- Has he stopped loving me?
Passionate Romantics---are what you are seeking to fulfill your life with happiness so it is alive with excitement. These men are not extinct; they are still alive and waiting for Miss Right to come into their view.
So You Truly Love Him?
I am answering with questions---no I am not a Jewish grandmother---but they are such wonderful grandmothers who answer a question with a question.
So only to immolate this practice I will begin: Do you feel happiest when you are with him? Does he make you feel loved when he cannot take his eyes off you; and wants to hold your hand as you walk and talk together?
Does he kiss your fingers when he holds your hand? Does his look worship you as you walk into a room? And, when you walk out of the room does he touch you as you walk by him? Do you just want him to hold you for the rest of your life? Are you feeling you cannot get enough of being with him and he feels the same way about you? Do you blush and your heart palpitates when you see him? Have you lost your appetite?
Do You Demand Romance in Your Dating or do You Just Hook-Up? These are two examples.
He called and asked you out on a dinner date and you accepted the invitation. And, he picked you up at your door on time with a bouquet of wildflowers. He helped you with your wrap or coat and then guided you out the door with his hand placed gently in the small of your back.
He opens doors for you and helped you take off your coat and seats you at the table. He told you what an excellent choice on the menu is. He asks if you want him to order for you.
And, you said, “Yes, Please.” He asks about your life, work and maybe your aspirations. He wants to know about you because he is interested in knowing you beyond the dinner date.
Since it is a weeknight and you both work; he paid the bill and left a generous tip. He takes you home after dinner. He asked you for another date at your door, then kisses your cheek and says goodnight, but does not leave until you are inside with your door locked.
At work a cute guy asked you at the water-cooler if you wanted to meet him at Joe’s Bar and Grill after work. And, since you wanted this cute guy to ask you out for some time you actually accepted.
When you arrive at Joe’s Bar-- you look for him. And, he motions for you to come to the very back table in a dark corner. He remains in his chair and you pull your own chair out and sit down. Then, he orders drinks and a plate of appetizers, while you are trying to relax and enjoy your drink before you sample one of the finger foods.
He talks excessively about himself. It is me-me-me and how great I am. He has ordered another round and inhaled the appetizers. If his behavior was not bad enough he now asks you to meet him at his apartment for more drinks.
It’s your decision if you enjoy being treated this way---then you meet him. Before you leave Joe’s he hands you the bill. And, since you are going to meet him---you pay it.
Which Did You Choose #1 or #2?
The word number 2 is not showing is---Respect. The door of love and romance does not open to disrespect. A man who respects you will not ask you to meet him---I don’t care who he is or how well-connected he is in your career or social group. If you do not demand respect in dating---you will end up like the girl in #2.
Demand respect with your actions and attitude---then you will receive the regard you deserve. And, if a man is disrespectful---put him in his place with a sharp remark.
Still Looking for Love? Love is waiting.
Well, maybe you need to reevaluate your location and employment. Do you live in a city? Or, maybe you live in a small town? Check your local paper for social events where and when and, then you and your friends or a girlfriend start going to the functions in your area. Being savvy is your guide to meeting available men in cities and small towns.
Do not act needy or overjoyed because a man looks your way; this is a big turn off for the right men. Many people meet someone at their jobs; however, this may prove an unwise decision. If you break up with him it could be bad for your career---because I am here to tell you men are as vindictive as women.
Think twice before dating at work---the end results might not be as sweet as the beginning.
Are you still looking for Mr. Right?
Online dating turns out well for some if you join a service that requires members to consent to background checks. Then, you still need to do your due-diligence in investigating a person before you trust them on a date.
- Men sometimes join when just separated from their wives. (Always ask are you married, separated, divorced, in a relationship or single.) Don’t waste your time on scoundrels. Put on your thinking cap and ask away.
- Background checks administered by experts on:
1.) Places lived.
3.) Local Police Records where they had residents and employment.
4.) Do they have the FBI do Background Searches for them?
Ask the online site you registered with how far back they go on background checks. You need this information before registering with any dating site.
- This is the only time I would suggest meeting a man on a first date because until you feel secure---do not give out your address. I know he might Google it or not. Check the Internet and see if they have your address. Meet in a public place and take a cab home---shut the cab door before you give the address to the driver.
Don’t let me scare you with my suggestions---I want you to practice carefulness and safety.
Sometimes love will find you when you are not looking---it is funny how this happens. Maybe Cupid’s arrows are landing in two hearts at the same time---love is waiting.
Does He Still Love Me?
What has he done or not done to make you ask this question? Is he not calling as often? (Please do not call him when he is being inattentive.) If you are dating regularly and have an ongoing relationship---there is no excuse he did not call and tell you if something else is taking up his time at the moment.
Maybe he decided commitment did not appeal to him at this time. Most men take the easy way out thinking ---not calling states a message loud and clear. Why? Because men shy away from confrontations in telling a woman they feel their relationship is going too fast and he needs some space to think. Or, he is no longer interested.
However, some women do not get the message because he was so sweet the last time they were together. A needy or possessive woman can destroy a beginning relationship with excessive phone call during his work day. Always wanting to know where he is and what he is doing.
Love does not bloom with this type of behavior---it slowly wilts and dies.
Do Not Fast Forward Your Relationship---Take it Slow and Easy
When some women begin dating a guy and he seems interested because he wants a second date. So, now the woman feels they are a couple, but he feels they need to take it slow and get to know each other better.
That is what dating is about---time spent together to see if both want to go forward and have a relationship.
She is making her bridal shower list in her mind---and in his mind are work issues and getting the next promotion. She needs to slow it down and he needs to disconnect his work life from his social life. If they want a relationship to bloom into love they need to communicate more and spend social time together.
Love will not live unless fed with attention, devotion, passion, understanding, caring, considerations, and affections with thoughtfulness. Love is a living emotion that needs nourishment daily.
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