- Gender and Relationships
Love at First Site
Ahh, yes. I remember it well. The year was 1980. I was going on 14 years old. The movie was Little Darlings. It was love at first site. His name: Matt Dillon.
The love affair was long lasting. To this day, I get a little weak in the knees when I see him on the big screen. He's never disappointed me. He's never lied to me. He's never killed anyone while drunk driving, never knocked over a liquor store, never found Scientology, never left a 20 year marriage for the 20 year old nanny, never broken my heart.
Matt and I have shared 3 wonderful decades together.
There are many kinds of love. Puppy love, love at first site, first love, addictive love. There's Florence Nightingale Syndrome, lust, crushes, hero worship and the list goes on and on.
And then there is Real Love.
Real love is mature and long lasting. I always say you can tell love is real when you put the other person first. And I don't mean for the easy things like watching his TV shows instead of yours. I'm talking about when you put him first when it comes to the big things. The real things, like missing Christmas with your family to spend it with his, or living in the city close to his work when you'd really rather live in the country. I've talked about this before in other blogs and hubs about compromise. It is the flagship of real love.
Real love stands the test of time. It empowers you, and makes you feel strong and beautiful. Real love is healthy, fortifying, and mutual.
Real love can start as love at first site, or first love, or puppy love, or even lust. Real love can start in many ways: that initial lust, that inexplicable pull of cosmic attraction. And I can understand people who fall into "real love" with a "love at first site" mate, and have never made the distinction between the two. But don't be confused: real love is something separate, no matter how it started.
But that in no way diminishes my long standing love affair with Mat Dillon. It is as strong as ever. He doesn't call, he doesn't write. But *sigh* he still makes me all warm inside just like he did in 1980. He will always be my long standing love at first site.
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