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Love the One you Hate

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Love Someone and Hate them at the Same Time


Love and Hate

  • Why do people love each other?

Close friendships, and the intense love and hate affect individuals in many ways.

  • Ever found yourself hating he person you so deeply love?

How can one love their close partner and still hate them to a contradiction indeed.

  • What does love entail?

Look at love from a broader perspective there are many features to take notice of when you see love with an open mind.

There are mixed emotions in love, the very good side of love and the most beautiful side too.

Love has many kinds of emotions and each one is not the same as of all other mixed emotions.

When you focus on love and hate you will see the some aspects with similarities but not much different in other aspects.

In relationships there are different descriptions of love and hate.

Overtime you do feel love and hate for someone in your life. It is not easy to cope with the profound emotions.

When showing love and hate toward your partner it is part of psychologically incompatible problem.

You can still love your partner for cheating on you and you can love your partner for the best they do for you.

  • You can love and hate at the same time.

To be with someone you love, you also hate that person for your own personal reasons and yet you choose to maintain the bond with that person.

You are unable to free yourself from this love you have for your partner a love that is not reciprocated.

  • Hate shows your negative side. Love shows your greatness.

The love and hate situations happens to everyone.

It is possible to love and hate your partner for many reasons.

In one moment you feel like pushing your partner over the cliff, and in another you just want to cuddle and lay down.

You can get angry with each other and forget about that moment.

When channels of love are blocked off in your mind hate takes over.

If you have love from the start it is possible for it to change into hate due to the not reciprocated love.

When you hate from the start changing the hate to love is not possible for many people.

  • Does love have a scent of love in it?

  • No, hate does not have a scent of love in it.

It sounds stupid or crazy but you have to live this one through to know it.

  • Why is this so for some couples they feel the need to change their partners in every way possible?

If one thing is fixed then something else would be bad. It is about trying to fix the other all the time because they are stupid or imperfect.

The kind of pleasing game for both males and females.

You can be that someone who loves everyone and being that way you give everything of yourself and despite knowing better, you expect to be valued in return.

Sometimes childhood experiences destroy your adulthood, like betrayal or misuse and over time you forgive those who hurt you and still your feelings remain loving and true.

When you get older you realize more and start to hate those who hurt you this has something to do with physical chemistry.

You don't like feeling hatred. Somehow you can't let go of how the people you knew and were close to hurt you the most in your life.

You remember more as you get older that takes you back to the bad experiences.

The physical problem is what you feel deep down which makes you feel such a kind of emotion.

You can love your spouse but also hate them for their broken promises.

For example, she fell in love with her husband the first time she saw him, they courted for seven years and are now married for five years.

In all those years together he has shown her more hate than love.

Whatever she does angers him. Communication is their major problem and when she tries to solves issues with direct communication he becomes angry and also he hates her for that behavior.

You can love and hate your father for what he did to you, whether he disowned you, or did not allow you to explore your different avenues,

You can feel hate toward your dad for not allowing you to go forward with your future plans.

The choices made are tough when it comes to family or friends love and hate exists momentarily.

It is like you are caught between a rock and a hard place.

Boy meets girl from two completely different lifestyles.

They have tried numerous ways to work their relationship out but it is always the same.

When with him she hates it and looks for a way out. When she is away from him she misses him terribly it actually hurts her when she is not with him

The couples have broken up with each other many times yet they always get back together. Whenever she sleeps over at his place she feels like running out of there the feeling of hate sets in she loves him and hates him.

  • It sounds crazy and but they hate each other and love each other.

Hurt the ones you love and hate the ones you love.

  • Why are you in such a dilemma?

When the individual is vulnerable toward their partner they want more love and their feelings become uncontrollable.

Loving someone can create an atmosphere of anger, fear and insecurity.

  • Love and hate go together.

Rejection and disappointment from childhood plays with the minds of many individuals leading them to love and hate.

People feel love and want to be loved they want to feel secure and less fearful.

Their choices of partners are often with psychological issues.

  • In the process they grow to hate that person they once loved or still love.

They grow dissatisfied with each other as years fly by.

  • What is the Independence-dependence Conflict?

Even when you want to be taken care of but you don't like the idea of being taken care of by others. You want to be on your own and do stuff for yourself but you are angry for not being able to do for yourself.

  • It is about the need to want for yourself and you don't need that for you.

  • It frustrates you to be taken care of.

Situations make you feel dependent on like in a relationship you feel suffocated the air being drawn out of you but you are still with your partner.

The one who controls the relationship is the one who does not care much for the relationship. Boredom arises and you want out.

The independence-dependence conflict is expected, it exists so be prepared and be communicative.

There are inconveniences about your friends or families that can make you hate them for it. The manipulative minds, selfishness, and their ugly actions behind the closed curtains are not always revealed.

If you want your relationship to work you got to sacrifice, compromise, and fulfill the needs of your partner with great lengths.

Remember people don't like everything they see or do.

There can be bitterness between two people and over time the fire can fade.

Overall it is about showing your true emotions know that what you want you may never have Andy should value what you have and the most important of all is what is right in front from you.

You can love someone intensely and hate them too.

Sometimes children can love their parents also parents can hate their children and wish they were never born, especially, when their children get older.

You don't enjoy hate but enjoy loving someone.

People have something to talk about be it good, bad, inconsiderate or harsh and hate is just part of what you say or do.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. Thank you for the vote up so kind of you to come by all my best to you

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      Dave 4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Hi Devika,

      Welcome back after your short break. Love and hate can both occur in various degrees, and may be felt intensely or just temporarily depending on the situation and circumstances. Hate is a strong word which is to often expressed flippantly rather than meaning it literally . Another excellent article which as usual attracted many comments. Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron Love the One you Hate got me thinking lots about of how individuals experience their lives from the daily routine to major stuff not everyone will hate the one they love it is all momentarily thank you for commenting.

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      DDE, very good and interesting hub. I don't believe that Hate is the opposite of Love, I think it is indifference.

      I may get angry with my hubby, but I don't hate him, ever.

      He is my world, I realized that when I almost lost him.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CraftytotheCore don't dwell on negativity well said and you always have thoughtful comment. I appreciate you sharing what is on your mind.

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      CraftytotheCore 4 years ago

      This is such a great Hub. There aren't many people I can honestly say I feel hatred toward, with exception of a few. I feel hate toward behavior of certain people. But I try to forgive the person. There are only a couple of people that bring me to this point, and they are in my past. They surface every now and then, but I try not to dwell on their negativity.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway hate is a strong word and we all feel different emotions at different times thank you for commenting.

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      FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

      I don't hate anyone but there are people I am not fond of so I ignore them. Apathy is a better option for me; hate takes too much energy. Sometimes I need a break from people I love or I become frustrated with them but I don't hate them.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kidscrafts you are so right ''We don't have to be friend with everybody'' thank you Happy Holidays!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you for the constant support so glad you came by have a good day.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Day Harishprasad your comments are among the best I am very pleased to have you as one of my faithful supporters your comments are so uplifting and thorough. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on Love the One you Hate.

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      kidscrafts 4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I don't like the word "hate" It's quite a strong word. If I have an incompatibility with someone, I prefer not to meet that person. We don't have to be friend with everybody :-)

      Have a good day, Devika!

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Your hubs are certainly thought provoking, Devika! Thanks for sharing the interesting ideas about the love and hate that can be present in a relationship.

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      Harish Mamgain 4 years ago from India

      When we are under the influence of our mind, all emotions play with us, this moment love, that moment hate, today angry, tomorrow happy. You are right that the way our family members behave with us creates hate and love in us. If they are supportive, we love them,otherwise hate creeps in. However, once we master our mind, we play with the emotions. In fact, when we are compelled to hate someone, we are aware of this sentiment and simultaneously we are also aware that we actually want to love him/her. Even if we are angry with somebody, we are deeply aware of it and we know for certain that given a chance , we can love him/her immensely. The difference is that if we hate or love someone without being aware of that emotion, we are just reckless. However, when we are awake and aware of our emotions, there is understanding and such emotions cannot impact us adversely. You have elaborated everything very clearly about these two great emotions that we get entangled into most of our life.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you billybuc for sharing here what is so important about hate and love.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you billybuc for sharing here what is so important about hate and love.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hate is just too strong an emotion; at this point in my life I can honestly say I do not hate anyone. Loved your reflections on this.