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Loving Yourself - Sexually
Throw a Party for One
When someone has been alone without a partner for long time, what should that person do when there is that feeling for sex? There are many lonely persons out there without a partner, who do not believe in ‘buying’ sexual gratification or getting it from any available person. Like me, they believe that the sexual act is sacred and so personal, that it should only be done with a special person - someone who you have a deep connection with, who you love and respect and who loves and respects you too. But what happens when such person does not exist? Does it mean that, that lonely person should suffer sexual anguish until he or she finds a mate? What if it takes years to find a mate, should that person ‘suffer’ and take cold showers when there is ‘an itch’?
I think that if you are faced with that dilemma, then you should take action. No, I am not telling you to go out there and ‘buy ‘ sexual favours, but instead learn to love yourself – sexually. Loving yourself sexually can be great and it is a great way to release the ‘pent up’ feelings. For those of you who have tried it, will agree. The good thing about it, is that you do not need a partner and it can be done without anyone knowing – in the privacy of your bedroom, or wherever you get “the itch”. Self love teaches you about your personal sexual response. It makes you feel desirable, it helps you to explore your sexuality and what feels good to you. It prepares you for great sexual experiences, since you know what you like and what will bring you pleasure. Loving yourself is not a sin, so there is no need for guilt.
If a woman has trouble reaching an orgasm, it will help her to learn about her body by self exploration. If a man has problems with premature ejaculation, then there are techniques that can help him to gain ejaculatory control. It is also great for persons who have partners, as each partner can do the act while the other watches. This will be a great prelude to great romance and it will serve to heat things up in the bedroom. Also one partner can teach the other how to give him/her pleasure.
Do not let your lack of partner prevent you from having a great time sexually. Stop crying yourself to sleep and taking cold showers. Instead, take a warn shower or a bubble bath, put on your favorite love song, light a few scented candles and throw a party for one. If you do not get it right the first time, practice makes perfect.
I welcome your comments.