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Are you a Type "A" personality? Then listen close!
If your reading this then it's probably because you or someone you know exhibits signs of having type "A' personality or TAB which is type "A" behavior. Chances are you want to try to understand it better, I know I did, I had to because someone very dear to me has it and for their health both physically and mentally and of course emotionally I needed to get more information on this subject. After researching this fervently I was amazed at how many people suffer from this and how it has adversely affected the lives of so many and the quality of their lives to boot.
Not many people know there is a name tagged to this certain type of personality, not many believe it's even a problem yet it is very real and has become a real health risk not to mention has altered many relationships and not in a positive way!
A little about Type "A" behavior or TAB : Type A behavior was termed 40 years ago by 2 cardiologist who noticed that the majority of their heart attack patients shared similar if not exact traits in their behavior, personality and habits.
They noted that these very similar traits were: impatience, a sense of time urgency, an unrelenting urge for power and recognition, an unusual preoccupation with work and unusual competition and aggressiveness. Other signs noted were: extreme ambition, aggression, preoccupation with his or her status in life, very tightly wound personalities, workaholics hating delays and any kind of ambivalence and free floating hostility.
We have seen it everywhere... in grocery store lines, in traffic, on hold while they are on the phone and we seem to dismiss it as he or she has "a short fuse" however it is much more serious than that, it is called TAB and it is affecting millions of people to the point where they are getting seriously ill and some actually having coronary disease and actual heart attacks!
It goes without saying but I'm going to say it anyway, Our minds affect our bodies, it is not just a theory anymore it is an actual fact that stress causes the body to produce certain chemicals that affect our immune system and actual internal organs like the heart! I guess what I'm trying to say here is that if you think you are a type A personality or know of someone that is then I hope your intentions are to change things a bit and begin to see TAB for what it truly is! You have to understand and internalize first and foremost that it is not a notch in your belt nor is it a high attribute or compliment. This is a very real and potentially harmful way of being and I want you to listen close for your own sake and those who love you.
Take this as the start of an early intervention and do what you need to do to begin to change the way you see things. Ask yourself if being a type A person brings you joy, it might diffuse some types of anxiety that you may be going through at that moment like getting to an appointment early so you wont be late or pushing yourself to the extreme so whatever your doing is not only 100% but 150%. This type of relief only lasts for a moment until you begin to think what else you have to do next while your still not finished with the last task at hand & you find yourself doing the same things over and over again in the same ways. In the mean time you are under such an amount of stress & pressure that any type of distraction leaves you spitting fire! Nothing else matters at that moment but to reach the goal you had set for yourself and if there is a distraction like your spouse calls or the kids need your help with homework or your Dad needs to ask you a question then that's when all Hell breaks loose & you become angry & frustrated & the people you love become inconveniences and burdens! You are constantly experiencing the fight or flight reaction which releases the chemicals in your body that affects your immune system and your heart and other internal organs and this becomes a way of life which means you will be living in constant anguish, anxiety, resentment, anger and utter chaos and that's when your body goes through so much that one day it just starts falling apart!
Ask yourself if you are truly happy, have you had a moment where your mind isn't racing or figuring out what your going to be doing in the next half hour. Ask yourself if you are truly present when you are talking to your spouse or playing with your kids or listening to your favorite music or reading a book. Or are you once again just physically there while your mind is going a hundred miles an hour thinking about 20 other things you need to accomplish?
It just doesn't affect you either. Unfortunately TAB affects those closest to you like your spouse and your children. The worse thing is when someone with TAB begins to micro-manage his or her own family! It becomes a living nightmare! People with TAB usually begin to judge the way their family members act or react to certain things, they don't understand why the rest of the family isn't taking care of things the way they do, they interpret this by thinking they are too lazy or just don't care so nothing ever gets done right in their eyes... too much is never enough. People that are closest to people with TAB begin to try to keep up with the unrealistic pace never really pleasing the person with TAB. This brings on a whole new slew of problems that eventually ends up affecting the relationship itself.
Bottom line is that it's time to stop and really see what's going on inside of you and around you. we weren't made to act like robots. No one has ever said on their death beds that they regretted not doing more for the Corporation or that they failed their Boss or that they wished they made more money! What they have realized is how much they missed and how life just flew right by them like a blur. If you see yourself in some of these words and see that unintentionally you have hurt the ones you loved the most by your actions and reactions by your anger and resentment and hostility and by your absence of mind , body and emotions then it's time to be pro-active with your life, your real life and not the superficial on the surface life that usually TABs are so well known to have created. You have more than you think you have so get out of that Rat Race and start enjoying your self and your family and most of all your life! And when that little voice inside starts nagging at you and trying to make you feel guilty for watching a movie or taking a walk or laying on the grass and watching the clouds float by instead of WORKING, WORKIN, WORKING...go ahead and punch it right in the nose!
How to cope with type A personality
- Type A Personality Traits: How To Deal With Type A Personality Characteristics and Behavior
Type A personality traits can put you at risk for greater amounts of stress, as well as health issues and unhappiness. Here are some basic ways you can deal with Type A characteristics in yourself and others, so you can enjoy more peace and health.