Men and Sex. Where Did you Learn That?

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Romantic love reaches out in little ways, showing attention and admiration. Romantic love remembers what pleases a woman, what excites her, and what surprises her. Its actions whisper: you are the most special person in my life.
~ by Charles Stanley ( A Man's Touch) ~

Women are like ovens. We need 5 to 15 minutes to heat up.
~by Sandra Bullock~

Women are made to be loved, not understood.

~by Oscar Wilde~

Guys…before reading any further let me preface by saying this….if you have learned all your tricks and moves from watching porn; this article is especially for YOU! One of the worst things a man can do is mimic what is shown on today’s porn movies. All that rough and highly acrobatic maneuvering is not really what a woman wants. I know, I know…on the movies she seems so enthralled. The ecstasy is simply (literally) oooozing but seriously…it’s a movie. It’s not real, it’s not real life and it’s not even what a woman needs in order to be satisfied. Now I certainly do not speak for all women. I only speak from personal experience and those girlfriends who have openly discussed these ideas with me. The majority of women out there are constantly tolerating and the majority of men are blinded by mass media with ideas of how to have sex which are just not accurately portraying what a girl wants. If you want to please a girl; show her you can take it slow. Tenderness, sensitivity (innocence), gentleness and showing her you enjoy her body are the best ways to enrich a sexual experience.

Here is my top five list of things we really don’t like (I am trying to keep it as PG as I can):

1. Kissing 101: What are you doing with your tongue? There is nothing more annoying than having your guy exploring your mouth with his tongue as if he is drilling for oil. We are not ice cream cones or lollipops and we definitely would prefer you didn’t clean our teeth please! Stop trying to be interesting and just kiss me damn it! Don’t get so caught up in what you think we want you to do and just enjoy the kiss…it will be better with that simple thought.

French Kiss - The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss".

2. Moving in for the Kill: Already? Wait…I am not ready for this yet!! Okay, I will preface by saying that yes…there are times for quickies. In which case my pointers are out the window for the most part but if you are not in it for a quickie and would like long and satisfying sex; than do that. Have LONG and satisfying sex. Long is the key word as in prolong. Don’t do the whole kissy kissy and go straight for 3^rd base without warming up the engine. Men need to understand that women don’t have a rocket launching button…we are more like starting a fire with flint and it takes a little time and coercion. Yes, I know it sounds complicated but honestly, you will enjoy your girl much more if she is hot and ready for the race!

3. Digging for Gold: Okay I don’t want to get X rated on this one but please use your imagination to surmise what I am referring to. Guys…just because we like how you feel inside of us doesn’t mean we like anything in us! Get the picture. Why men think it is a turn on to be in there fishing or something is beyond me. Tenderness, guys…tenderness.

4. Acrobatics: As I mentioned above, we really don’t enjoy when you throw our legs over our heads or suggest we do squats for an hour. Honestly, we will probably do it if that is what you really like but it is more painful than it is pleasurable for us. That is not to say we don't enjoy new things and certainly new positions. Make a game of it...get one of those fun kama sutra decks and pick out an interesting position together. That is much more of an intimate and fun experience than just tossing her around like a rag doll because you think she likes it.

5. Playing the jackhammer game: We are not a board that you need to nail down or a piece of meat needing pounding. Take it easy will ya! Yeah, there is a moment when we are ready for you to move quickly but don’t start off so speedy. Slow it down there cowboy! Allow us to find our rythm and in turn our happy spot.

This is not a set in stone framework for sex as not every woman is the same but based on plenty of conversations with a variety of women...the consensus is if you keep in mind some of these standard habits you will find your time in the sack to be enjoyable and much more fulfilling!