- Gender and Relationships
Make Your Wife Love You More – Discover Four Ways to Have a Better Relationship
Doesn't matter what you do, how educated and knowledgeable you are, you need to constantly work on having a better relationship with your spouse (if you have one of course). This is one area almost every one can improve upon because it needs to be continuously worked on. No body teaches us on how to have better relationship with our spouse. We don’t have any formal education on it. Like money, this is some thing every body has to be good at, but every body has to figure out on their own. If you don't have good example while growing up, it would be difficult for you to learn to value your spouse or the importance of having a great relationship.
Constantly strive to improve your relationship
I don't think anybody can honestly say that they understand their spouse one hundred percent. Like it is mentioned in the book 'Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus' by John Gray, men and women are wired differently. Women always tend to feel about the things and be more emotional beings. When they start talking about a problem or a particular situation, we men immediately offer a solution. But what they really want is to vent out their frustration to you so that they feel better. You may not be able understand your spouse one hundred percent, but you will be able to predict her behavior in certain situations and what she really likes and dislikes.
Observe for dissatisfaction signs
Men seem to be more stable than women when it comes to mood changes. Can you recollect a situation where a casual conversation lead to an argument and spoiled the whole day? You need to constantly observe how your spouse feels by observing her facial expressions and body language. When you sense something is wrong, the sooner you catch it the better it is. Ask her, she will be happy to tell you and appreciates you for asking. She will be grateful that, you are paying attention to her and want to keep her happy. One thing is for sure. It is much better not to get in to an argument with your spouse or girl friend than correcting the broken relationship or intimacy.
Getting along with each other
Life is beautiful. When you share it with someone you love, it is even more beautiful. But the problem is that when we live with somebody 24 hours day and 7 days a week, we know everything about them including their weaknesses and flaws, we tend look down on them. Give your spouse some space based on the understanding that you are different individuals and most probably think differently.
Appreciate the things she does
Doesn’t matter how independent you want to be, you have to sacrifice some things when you have a spouse you love and start a family. This is equally applicable to your spouse. In fact, if you have a toddler or a small kid, women do more caring for them than we dads do. Can’t we do the same things they do? Of course we can (except breast feeding), but not like them. There is special love and caring only moms can give. Dads love is not a substitute for it. That reminds me the proverb, ‘God cannot be everywhere, that’s why he created mothers’. Even with regular tasks like, fixing the dinner, washing dishes or clothes, women seem to do more work than men, even when both are working day time jobs. So when your spouse upsets you next time, keep these things in mind before replying to her or thinking of retaliation.
Having better relationship with your spouse pays better rewards than individualism or egoistic behavior. When you take the initiative and are considerate to her needs, she will love you more and you will have more fulfilled relationship.