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How to Keep Love Alive in a Long-Distance Relationship and Make It Work
How Do You Make a Long-Distance Relationship Work?
When circumstances force you into a long-distance relationship, don't despair. It is very possible to keep love alive even if you are separated by many miles. If you are serious about staying together and are willing to work at your relationship, you'll be able to make long distance work.
Set Clear Expectations
If the two of you start with different expectations for your long-distance relationship, you'll be setting yourself up for disaster. Spend some time talking about what you expect of the other before moving away. How often will you talk to each other? How often will you see each other? How long will you be apart? Is it an exclusive relationship? How serious is it?
For long-distance to work, you need to put the relationship and your partner first. Understand that the relationship is going to take a lot of effort. You need to promise each other that you will be emotionally there for each other even though you are separated. Trust is key in a long-distance relationship.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
No relationship is perfect. Problems come up. In a long-distance relationship, however, it’s harder to make-up since communication is from afar. Choose your battles wisely and be willing to forgive and forget. To make a long-distance relationship work, you need to be mature and reasonable.
It's important to have things to look forward to in order to keep your love alive. Plan visits far in advance. Distance and finances can make frequent trips difficult, but try to make them as often as you can. Maybe you can meet halfway if that makes it easier. Also consider going on vacations together and meeting at your destination.
Keep a Routine
It's important to stay in touch in a long-distance relationship. Calling at the same time each day (or whatever schedule you agree upon) will give you some stability. Video chats and texting will also help you feel closer. If you have a regular time set up, you'll be able to look forward to it. Scheduling time together also makes sure you prioritize the relationship.
Do Things Together
Make sure you still feel like you do things together even though you are apart. Pursue common interests. This will give you things to talk about keep you connected. You can also do things simultaneously like watching the same TV show.
Sweet Nothings and Unexpected Surprises
You'll need to mix things up to keep the relationship from going stale. Try new things and surprise your partner. Send love letters, homemade cookies, thoughtful gifts, or flowers for no particular reason other than to say "I love you." If you mostly communicate by phone, maybe send a sweet email to your love.