Managing conflict in relationships for a happy healthy life
Marriage, Friendship and Employee Relationships
This topic is near and dear to me because I think so many relationships can be saved if we would only try and work out our differences. I have been married for twenty-six years to my spouse, and I am sure he will tell you the same. In this article the emphasis will be placed on marital relationships, but other relationships will be discussed also.
I will discuss: Marriage Relations, Friendship Relations, and Employee Relations. They are three key relationships in our lives. Marriage is the closest relationship we should have. Friendship is an essential relationship we should have, and Employee relationships with your Manager/Supervisor is crucial.
Life is full of excitement and surprises if you allow yourself. It is through people that we find joy and happiness. Life without loving people to share it with is meaningless and useless. We need close relationships to enjoy everyday situations. I read in a survey that, the happiest people have a friend who lives within a two-mile radius. I want to share some ways to improve these relationships and experience the best that these relationships have to offer.
Let’s dive into this very challenging topic by starting in the reverse order
Employee relationships. I will focus on employee and supervisor relationship. You and I both have some horrible things about bosses and supervisor. Employees have been known to hate their supervisor. It is common for employee and supervisor not to get along. In my work experience, I have only had one supervisor that I would not desire to work with again – that is the one I will discuss here.
When you feel challenged in your work and want to throw in the towel because of your supervisor, stop and think – think long-term. Here are some suggestions:
- Do not discuss with other employees (your peers) about negative feelings and thoughts about your supervisor.
- Do talk with a trusted mature management level individual about your situation.
- Contact human resources if this is your employer’s policy.
- Remain productive on your job, because it’s not about your.
- Be reminded about what your goal is on your job and do not take criticism personal.
Now that we have discussed employee relationships, let’s discuss Friendship Relationships. I believe friendship is the spice of life. Good friendships add and heighten your life’s experience. But there comes a time in each our lives that we have a friend here and there that we have to deal with. Let me make a side note here – I know that at anytime we can let go and “bye bye” to a boss, friend or a marriage. The approach I am taking here is – how to keep a relationship in tact or improve it. Well then, here are some suggestions on maintaining a friendship relationship that is in trouble:
- Step back away from the relationship – don’t give it up.
- Don’t say cruel things you will regret to each other.
- Allow time to make a way. Time and space does amazing things for a relationship.
- When you have an urge or unction to do or say something to your friend – do it.
- Think kind thoughts about your friend – want the best for them.
Last relationship to discuss is the Marriage Relationship. Marriage is probably the most difficult relationship to maintain because it is the closest physically and emotionally – you live together. You must learn some skills and strategies to maintain a happy marriage. Here are five of the best tips and suggestions to manage conflict in your marriage:
- Listen carefully to what your spouse is trying to convey.
- Make sure that you understand what your spouse needs.
- Yield to your spouse – I know this is a tough one, but you will thank me later.
- Give your spouse first place – he/she is your trophy. Be proud of him, showcase him, and build her up. Honor them more than anybody else in your life.
- Forgive and apologize to your spouse. Forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools you can have and use in a marriage. Use it, you will need it often.