ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Marriage, Or Something Like It

Updated on July 3, 2017

Okay - if you have one failed marriage, then you can write it off to "we were young, inexperienced and in love"...aka "Starter Marriage".

So, you move on - marry again. This is sometimes known as the "marriage for money". You're tired of being poor, living paycheck to paycheck. You decide to go for the money. Now when THIS marriage fails, you think "I've married for love and I've married for money - and I'd rather marry for love." So you have 2 failed marriages.

Then you go to your Reunion - college, high school or family - and meet spouse number 3. The old feelings come back and you just KNOW this one will last - so you marry again. After a while, you realize there was a reason you two didn't get along the first time and so you head for the door again, with your attorney's number on speeddial.

As you are back to living from paycheck to're only available "dating pool" is the local bar, you befriend the waitress, bartender, regulars and hope for some change. You've grown wiser, more weary and hopefully, cautious when it comes to relationships. If, by chance, you marry again - you decide "This is it! I'm sticking with them until one of us dies." If the marriage starts to crash and burn, you take up a hobby that keeps you out of the house most evenings and weekends, hoping that the other person will too.

But with all that said - the real truth is this - you can only write off one marriage to "we were young and stupid". Once you've got 2 or 3 under your belt, it's time to look in the mirror, take some serious personal assessment and realize that the problem isn't with the people you marry, but maybe, the person they are marrying.

So, my advice to you, dear friend, is to stop and think. Make a list (I'm a big fan of lists) of the pro's and con's in your relationship. Think about what you bring to the relationship, what your partner does as well. Then ask yourself, "Have I done everything in my power to make this relationship work?" If the answer is "no", then are you willing to make that effort? If not, then you have to be honest enough with yourself to know it and to do something about it.

One thing I tell my friends is this: "If you're child or sibling was in the same situation you are in, what would your advice be to them? If that is the advice you would give to someone you love, then why on Earth won't you take that advice for yourself?"

I wish you well.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)