Physical and Sexual Compatibility in Marriage.
when considering who to marry,some people think spiritual compatibility is all that matters. This view is not true.Sexual compatibility is also very important because failure in the sexual life will cause trouble in many other areas in the marriage. For example the unhappy wife will complain about other things and an unhappy husband will find many things unsatisfying. He will certainly stress on small faults which he would have otherwise ignored.
Naturally,some people are hot; others are warm and some cold sexually. If a hot woman marries a cold man, the woman will not be satisfied and the man will feel inadequate because of his failure to satisfy her. The same thing happens if the man is hot and the woman is cold. It is clear that different people respond differently to different touches. Some want light touches, others want heavy touches .some want sexual intercourse several times in one night, others want it once a week. Some people reach orgasm very fast and others hardly reach climax.
For those who are lost in sin, experimentation with many people may lead to increased knowledge about the sexual capacities of possible partners.What of those who have decided to say no to premarrital sex?,how will they know if they are sexually compatible?
The answer lies in a closer walk with God. Tell Him you cannot do anything in this area. Ask Him to give you the woman or man who is compatible to you sexually. The next thing you should do is to go ahead and look carefully into the other areas you can do something about and God will take care of the future.
I strongly recommend that no man should accept any woman he does not consider beautiful to become his wife and no woman should accept a man she does not consider handsome to become her husband.In the Bible we are told that Sarah was so beautiful that even in her old age she was desirable .we are also told that Rebecca “was very fair to look upon ”Genesis 24:16.Between Leah and Rachel ,the bible says Leah’s eyes were weak ,but Rachel was beautiful and lovely and Jacob loved Rachel Genesis 29:17-18.
Physical looks play a great role in marriage than most people want to admit. Believers must face it. If you do not like her looks, do not marry her because of her good character for some day, you will come face to face with her ugliness. If you do not like short people, do not say yes to a short person. There is someone out there who may consider him totally handsome and you must leave him alone. If you do not like fat people, find out what the girl will look like after she has given birth to two children. By studying the physical size of her mother and elder sisters, you can have an idea of what the girl you intend to marry will look like in the future. If a man refuses this, over time he may find the wife less and less attractive and will spend less and less time with her.
- Spiritual and Intellectual Compatibility in marriage
Before choosing a marriage partner, ask yourself these questions? -What is my intellectual level? What certificates do I have? -How much formal education do I have? -What intellectual group of people can I fit into and communicate without...
It is also important to investigate whether or not your physical looks are pleasing to the person you are interested in. Ask her to describe the physical appearance of her dream partner. If you do not resemble the person in any real way, do not press her to accept you .she may accept to become your wife but all her life, she will be looking for her ideal man.
A man or woman who is careless with his or her physical looks is an indication of a deeper problem. Looks have deeper meaning. In marriage you will confront in the person’s character, that which careless looks warned you of.Generally,beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. What Mr John considers beautiful might not be what Peter considers to be beautiful. Be yourself and make your decision based on your convictions.