Marry Your Sweetheart From Any Race; It Is the Panacea to Racism in the World
In getting into the field of marriage, one very important decision, you must make is who, exactly, will be your spouse. To know where to look for a partner, you must know what kind of person you want. Some young people are enlightened and some of them are free from cultural bias but the uncompromising peremptory stands of their parents and relations usually discourage them from marrying outside their country. Even when they are in love with someone from a different race, they are discouraged from marrying their lovers. I quite appreciate the parents’ desire to protect their children from the consequences of rash decisions but when there is proof of conjugal love and emotional stoicism the young men and women should be allowed to marry.
Though I believe that some older people may be more experienced, it is not every one of them. The rate the personality of an individual matures is not directly proportional to the physical maturity. The degree of exposure of some of them is very low, therefore limiting their experiences in matters outside the scope of their exposure. Parents will not be able to appreciate the extent of emotional involvement of their child. Denial of the opportunity to marry their choice, may affect them all their lives.
The fulsome denunciation of interracial marriages by some people on the claim that a woman from another country will find ways of killing their husbands so that they could usurp their wealth is baseless. A woman who defied protests from her parents and relations to marry a man out of love cannot kill him on flimsy reasons.
For the case of language, it can be surmounted also. There are many individuals who can speak languages other than their own with ease. This proves that these languages could be learned if one is interested. English Language which most of us speaks and writes today in Anglophone countries and French in Francophone countries are not the mother’s tongue of those countries. When you understand what the other person is saying there is less likelihood of looking at him/her with suspicion. The mere attempt of trying to learn your partner’s language will get him/her more endeared to you.
Cultural difference is another reason always given. Even partners from the race may not be from the same tribe or ethnic group, so there will still be need of cultural adjustment. Marriage is a part of normal life. Life, fully lived, includes marriage. In dealing with marriage we are dealing with life., for marriage consists of the blending of the lives of two individuals. Success and happiness in marriage do not come by happenstance.
The price of marital happiness consists of discipline, attitude, loyalties, and insights of such nature that husbands and wife are able to blend their personalities harmoniously so that the bond of friendship thus established transcends the consideration of natural differences and material possessions. It is perfectly feasible for interracial couples to enjoy a richness of experience which far exceeds anything that couples from the same race can experience.
Ignorance of some of people has played a leading role in inhibiting interracial marriages. Most of our traditional way of choosing a partner does not give room for harmonious pre-marital blending of personalities which is the root cause of maladjustment and disillusionment that overtake married couples during their early married life. In some cases, a girl could be sent from Africa to a young African man in New York –the marriage being contracted mainly by recommendations from relations. Must these men marry from their countries? Can’t they marry from the part of the world where they live? I don’t believe the claim that couples from the same country, enjoy stable marriage. I am aware of many men who married from their countries, only to be abandoned by their wives in overseas.
In extreme cases, the marriage is contracted through pictures, taken sometimes with borrowed clothes. The young men send home the picture they took in borrowed suits and in their friends’ lavishly furnished living-rooms. When the pictures are shown to some girls who are ignorant but love the good things of life, they easily get seduced only to discover on arrival to their husbands that they live in tiny apartments. They become chagrined at this discovery. Their hope of living in splendor becomes a chimera and discontent set in.
But if anything will promote and foster universal peace in this world where wars and terrorism is rampant, it is interracial marriages; because interracial marriages will create interwoven relationships that bring people of different countries closer. Barack Obama no matter what will have some emotional attachment to Africans being a product of interracial marriage. Think of a situation where the president of Russian is a product of interracial marriage between an American mother and Russian father. Therefore marry from any country of the world where you find love. Don’t be discouraged. Love is not respecter of color. Nor stable marriage is only possible between partners from the same race.
To my mind, the most important function of interracial marriage is the happy co-existence of a couple from different race –the ability to surmount certain cultural differences which threaten their marrying each other because of their love. This has been proved all over the years. The articles, “10 Fascinating Interracial Marriages in History” and “8 Interracial Relationships That changed History” by Paul Holtum are very enlightening. It showed that even when interracial marriages were frowned at in some countries in the world, love made young men and women to defy the restrictions. Below are some of these marriages from Paul Holtum educative articles:
In the early years of the 18th century, European scholars made huge advances in their understanding of Chinese language and culture. Much of this work rested on the efforts of a remarkable young man named Arcadio Huang. Born in a small town in China’s Fujian province, Huang’s Catholic parents were set on him becoming a priest. He was adopted by a French priest and later traveled to France with Bishop Artus de Lionne. In France, he soon joined with a number of promising young French scholars to develop a Chinese-French dictionary.
In 1713, Huang married a middle-class Parisian woman named Marie-Claude Regnier. There are very few records of marriages between Europeans and non-Europeans during this time period and many considered such relationships unthinkable. Nevertheless, Marie-Claude’s parents reportedly gave their blessing for the union.
Seretse Khama was born in 1921, and is the son of the Chief of the Bangwato Tribe and ruler of the Bechuanaland (a protectorate by Great Britain) later known as Botswana. When his father died in 1925, Seretse’s uncle, assumed the role as Seretse’s guardian and Acting Chief. His uncle sent Seretse to England so he could continue his education. It was while he was in London, when studying for his bar examinations, that he met Ruth Williams. They shared their enthusiasm for jazz and eventually romance ensued and they were married a year later, in 1948. Interesting Fact: Botswana was among the world’s poorest countries but during Seretse Khama’s tenure as president, Botswana had the fastest growing economy in the world. Khama instituted strong measures against corruption and reinvested money into infrastructure, health and education. In 2009, Seretse and Ruth’s fist son, Ian, won a landslide victory and became the fourth President of Botswana. Their younger son, Tshekedi , was elected as a parliamentarian.
Richard Loving and Mildred Jeter
Married in 1958
This is at the number one spot because this couple’s marriage overturned state laws in the United States that prohibited interracial marriages. Richard and Mildred were from Virginia and met when he was 17 years old and she was 11. As they grew older, their friendship blossomed into romance. When Mildred was 18 she became pregnant so the couple decided to travel to Washington, D.C. to be married. Five weeks after their wedding, they were awakened at 2 a.m. by police and arrested for being married to one another. In 1959, they pleaded guilty to the charge against them and were sentenced to one year in jail. The sentence was suspended on the condition that the Lovings leave Virginia and not return for 25 years. The Lovings moved to Washington, D.C., and faced housing discrimination, compounded by deep unhappiness about not living close to their families. Mildred wrote a letter to Attorney General, Robert F. Kennedy. Kennedy then forwarded the letter to the American Civil Liberties Union. After many setbacks throughout a nine-year period, their case was heard before the U.S. Supreme Court. In 1967, The Supreme Court decided unanimously in their favor. Richard later said “For the first time, I could put my arm around Mildred and publicly call her my wife.”
Barack Obama, Sr. and Ann Dunham
Married in 1961
In 1960, after Ann Dunham graduated from high school in Mercer Island, Washington, her family moved to Honolulu. Dunham then enrolled at the University of Hawaii. Obama Sr. was 23 years old and had come to Hawaii to pursue his education, and was the university’s first African foreign student, leaving behind a pregnant wife and infant son in Kenya. Dunham met Obama Sr. at the University while attending a Russian language class. When Dunham became pregnant they were married on the Hawaiian island of Maui. Obama Sr.’s wife in Kenya later said she had granted her consent for him to marry a second wife, in keeping with their countries customs. On August 4, 1961, at the age of 18, Dunham gave birth to her first child, Barack Obama II. Dunham took one month old Barack to Washington State where she took classes at the University of Washington from September 1961 to June 1962. Barack Sr. continued his studies in Hawaii until he graduated in 1962, and then left for Cambridge, Massachusetts, where he would begin graduate study at Harvard. Dunham returned to Honolulu to resume her education with her parents helping to raise Barack. Dunham then filed for a divorce in 1964, which was uncontested. In 1971, Obama Sr. came to Hawaii to visit his 10 year old son, Barack. This would be the last time he would see him.
In spite of the increased acceptance of interracial marriage across the United States, it turns out that Bill de Blasio, elected Mayor of New York in 2013, is the first white official to be elected into a major office with a black spouse by his side. McCray is expected to play a major role in de Blasio’s administration.
While it is very obvious that interracial marriages across the world are increasingly accepted, some disapproval is still overt. The purpose of this hub is to help combat racism that still exists in some parts of the world.