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Marrying An Older Man- What Advantages

Updated on May 1, 2012

Should I Marry an older Man ?

Are you thinking about marrying an older man ? Are you being given a hard time over your choice of man ?

While you are still young you want to be with someone with the same goals such as having children, setting up house

As you get older age between a man and a woman seems to shrink and make no diference .

If you are already in love with an older man this is not to put you off as I am happily married to a lovely man 19 years older than me .

We have both been married before & I have 3 daughters & he has 3 sons like The Brady Bunch ! Ecxept all of our children have left home !

We have a lot in common so age diference doesn't matter to us like it might for an 18- 20 year old wanting to have children .

Advantages of marrying an older man

There can be many advantages to marrying an older man .

He most likely will be more settled in his ways and responsible in everyday life .

He will more than likely be able to please you sexually so you can enjoy a pleasurable love life as he will want to please and care for you.

Your man will want to spend time with you trying & sharing new activities together. This will bring you closer together giving him no reason to want to stray.

As he has been around longer there are many things in life that he can teach you .

They can be good at cooking !
They can be good at cooking !

Questions to ask & what to expect from others

Expect to have nearly everyone feel they need to advise you on age diferences.

Don't be surprised if every now & then people look at you a bit funny as they are not sure if you are his partner or daughter !

Ask yourself

Do we like the same music ?

If he has a major health problem is it something I can handle ?

Are we on the same wave lengh as far as having children ?

Where we will live ?

Do we enjoy the same activities ?

Am I a party animal while he enjoys staying in playing card games ?

Are you marrying for money ? Just because a man has money doesn't mean he is a keen spender & just because he is older doesn't mean he has money .

On our honeymoon !
On our honeymoon !

Disadvantages of Marrying An Older Man

There can be disadvantages to marrying an older man.

You might be used to going out with boys that let you walk all over them/ get your own way all the time while an older man is usually used to being the head of the house and won't put up with temper tantrums and so on.

Usually there is a lot of baggage that comes along with an older guy such as

An ex wife who can be out to cause problems

Children from a previous marriage

Support for the ex family leaving him broke.

Stress from a bad marriage that can take a long time to disapear.

Diferences in taste of music/clothes/ activities/ and more that comes along as time goes by.

Be Happy !

Learn to not worry about what everyone else thinks in life . If the 2 of you have everything you need in common & truly love each other then be happy together.

Remember that your children - parents - well meaning friends have their life - Don't give up on true love for them if he has the right qualities to be your partner in life.

If he is Loving




Hard working

With a sense of humour mixed with adventure be happy !


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    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from Southern Spain

      Hi Jai, Thanks for the visit ....I think it is really nice for people to marry from different cultures as long as they are 100% in love and very sure of each other and have talked thru everything like having children, travel desires etc . Some men are keen to settle fast so they have someone to do all the work as well someone in bed and can be very bossy when married. Do research first about him especially as he has been divorced before . Dont rush into anything if not ready. Kris

    • lafamillia profile image


      5 years ago from Soutcentral Europe

      Nothing against...

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      5 years ago

      Hi..I met this man 12 years older than me in a matrimony side. We are yet meet as a person, but soon will do it. He claimed that he has feelings towards me and wish to settle down. We have lots of obstacles in between since we are from different culture, nationality. Ultimately I've started liking him but I'm not sure how genuine is he. I need a simple advice check list that I need to do before I say my yes. He is divorcee and has no kids. I'm 35 asian and he is 47 mix parentage of Asian and Europe

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      5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      It's like any May and December marriage, or indeed ANY marriage, there has to be considerable thought on both sides and you have highlighted the pros and cons of a difference in ages. Very often, when we are younger, we do not think through all the possible problems, no matter the age of the other person and I think very often, we marry in lust and not in love!

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      John Paolo B.Magdaluyo 

      5 years ago from Philippine

      I think its on how your heart reacts on such relationships. Interesting hub.

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      Brenda Thornlow 

      5 years ago from New York

      I would definitely advise a woman who plan on getting involved with an older man to ask herself all of those questions (that is, if she asked for my advice). I was married to a man 14 years older than me who had kids from a previous marriage; and his divorce was not amicable. I thought I was "in love" at the time and really didn't date him long enough to actually see how the baggage he came with would affect our lives. Needless to say, it didn't work out between us. Great advice! Voted up!

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      Steven Escareno 

      5 years ago

      interesting hub

    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Southern Spain

      Thanks Grand old lady ! Was good to hear about your friend .Just shows age does not matter .I am loving visiting Caves as well as Thermal Spas with my husband lol! We loved an underground river in Greece

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      6 years ago from Philippines

      I have a friend who married an older man. He is her second husband as well, and she has never been happier in her life. Like you, she and her husband spend a lot of time travelling. Her husband loves caves so they try to visit every single cave they can find, anywhere in the world. Very nice hub. I'm so glad I get to read one of your articles for the forum:)

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      6 years ago from Lost...In Video Games and Stories

      This was a very interesting hub. I actually did a short story about this kind of thing. I must say, just looking at your hub, I might add on to said hub later. This was also very useful to me. Thumbs up!

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      Shelley Watson 

      7 years ago

      The only things that are important here is listed in your last paragraph! Up and interesting.

    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Southern Spain

      Thanks for the visit Eve . Age is just a number !

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    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Southern Spain

      Hi Brenda, Thanks for the visit . Being with an older guy is great if you have plenty in common and enjoy the same things . It is good to hear you are happy.

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      7 years ago

      It is not bad to date a man older than me.am18 but seeing a man 13 years older than me. am with him.he is responsible and caring.for that case i cant slope to my age mates. as time goes by we are becoming happier and peaceful.

    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Southern Spain

      Thanks for visiting . That is true , a lot of the time they are calmer. I love the fact of experience especially in love making !

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      Ruchi Urvashi 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      My husband is 5 years older than me. One of the advantages is he tends to be calm if there is small outburst from my side and good in cooking too. I think very young man might tend to have a higher tendency of anger. Over the years, I have seen both of us becoming more and more peaceful and enjoy our journey.

    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Southern Spain

      Thank you ! Some people talk about beinng worried about them dying well before you but you could marry someone your own age & lose them in a car/fishing or other accident .

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      Beth Perry 

      8 years ago from Tennesee

      Great hub! As a fan of older men I really am glad to see this kind of info written about.

    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Southern Spain

      thanks for your comment Gypsy, sorry to hear of your friends loss . I personally if looking for someone wouldn't seek out someone a lot older . In my case I had known him for a long time &fell in love and preferrred to have what time I could with him even if it wasnt as long as I hope for . So far we have been married almost 2 years !

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      Gypsy Willow 

      8 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

      A friend of mine married a man 20 yrs older, sadly he died last year and she is left alone at 6o. Just something to think about. Sensible hub.

    • lafamillia profile image


      8 years ago from Soutcentral Europe

      Love doesn't know for THE years.

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      Jonathon Flyn 

      8 years ago

      Good one.I really like this topic.Quite relevant as well.According to me,If you can give love and happiness to your partner,It doesn't matter whether he/she is older than you.Thanks for sharing :)


    • lafamillia profile image


      8 years ago from Soutcentral Europe

      Love and happiness are things that are not connected to age or anything. Love and happiness theirs self are the only two factors that ARE actually connected. Love doesn't know for barriers and it shouldn't. Happiness is something that can't be bought or rented... Happiness is something that every man has an different kind of view and way of reaction and it's way to express it. Love and be loved. Stay positive, and be happy - happiness will return to You and Your closest. Mine motto.

    • freecampingaussie profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Southern Spain

      Thanks , My husband had a major heart attack before we were married , however I was & still am in love with him so I wanted to still get married.

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      Dora Weithers 

      8 years ago from The Caribbean

      Altogether good advice. Seems you really thought this through, although I thought that health problems would be a disadvantage.


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