- Gender and Relationships
Marrying An Older Man- What Advantages
Should I Marry an older Man ?
Are you thinking about marrying an older man ? Are you being given a hard time over your choice of man ?
While you are still young you want to be with someone with the same goals such as having children, setting up house
As you get older age between a man and a woman seems to shrink and make no diference .
If you are already in love with an older man this is not to put you off as I am happily married to a lovely man 19 years older than me .
We have both been married before & I have 3 daughters & he has 3 sons like The Brady Bunch ! Ecxept all of our children have left home !
We have a lot in common so age diference doesn't matter to us like it might for an 18- 20 year old wanting to have children .
Advantages of marrying an older man
There can be many advantages to marrying an older man .
He most likely will be more settled in his ways and responsible in everyday life .
He will more than likely be able to please you sexually so you can enjoy a pleasurable love life as he will want to please and care for you.
Your man will want to spend time with you trying & sharing new activities together. This will bring you closer together giving him no reason to want to stray.
As he has been around longer there are many things in life that he can teach you .
Questions to ask & what to expect from others
Expect to have nearly everyone feel they need to advise you on age diferences.
Don't be surprised if every now & then people look at you a bit funny as they are not sure if you are his partner or daughter !
Do we like the same music ?
If he has a major health problem is it something I can handle ?
Are we on the same wave lengh as far as having children ?
Where we will live ?
Do we enjoy the same activities ?
Am I a party animal while he enjoys staying in playing card games ?
Are you marrying for money ? Just because a man has money doesn't mean he is a keen spender & just because he is older doesn't mean he has money .
Disadvantages of Marrying An Older Man
There can be disadvantages to marrying an older man.
You might be used to going out with boys that let you walk all over them/ get your own way all the time while an older man is usually used to being the head of the house and won't put up with temper tantrums and so on.
Usually there is a lot of baggage that comes along with an older guy such as
An ex wife who can be out to cause problems
Children from a previous marriage
Support for the ex family leaving him broke.
Stress from a bad marriage that can take a long time to disapear.
Diferences in taste of music/clothes/ activities/ and more that comes along as time goes by.
Be Happy !
Learn to not worry about what everyone else thinks in life . If the 2 of you have everything you need in common & truly love each other then be happy together.
Remember that your children - parents - well meaning friends have their life - Don't give up on true love for them if he has the right qualities to be your partner in life.
If he is Loving
With a sense of humour mixed with adventure be happy !