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Men, Are Panties Worth Dying Over?

Updated on October 21, 2009

I recently received a comment to one of my hubs from a rather hysterical young chap ranting at women in general and blaming them for the fact that he felt held back in fashion (and presumably in life by,) these close minded women. Fair enough, I suppose, but he then went on to threaten suicide over the issue saying that he would be dead within the year and it was all because of bigoted women.

To him I say, grow up, grow some testicles and stop letting a perceived majority of women (because you can't possibly know what all women think about any issue,) spoil your life. Suicide is always an option, but personally I think it is best saved for when you're 80 and dying of painful terminal cancer, or perhaps if you've been caught behind enemy lines with information which could bring down the free world and you know you'll give it up under torture, or perhaps in the case of staying behind to plug a hole in a boat which is going down with your body, giving your fellow passengers time to escape.

Suicide is not the course of action to take because you think the world is against your dress choices. There are several proactive steps you can take before you go ahead and top yourself because they keep making lace trimmed bikinis in women's sizes.

Here's two of them.

  • Wear lingerie as much as you want. Go ahead and do it. Believe it or not, there are plenty of happily married and otherwise partnered men who do so. If a woman rejects you because of it (and you know it is definitely because of the lingerie, not because you were whiny and passive aggressive,) then guess what, its her loss! There really are plenty of women in the sea.
  • Consider that like attracts like. What sort of women are you associating with? Are you associating with immature, desperate to be fashionable, desperate to be liked young ladies (or older women.) If yes, time you grow yourself a new social circle. Mindy Mandykins might be nice enough when planning a pool party, but she's not going to be a fashion leader. She's an eternal follower and you, friend, are not. Go find your kin on the fashion fringe.

Finally, to address the writer specifically, if you're really going to kill yourself because you feel so bad about the world, then please seek help. Its not just about the panties and the bitchy women. Depression is a bigger bitch than any woman could be.

If, on the other hand, you're threatening the Internet women who I have to say, on average aren't the main readers of these articles, then not only are you wasting your time, but you're kind of a jerk. Suicide is serious, it rips apart families, destroys lives and is nearly always pointless. A permanent solution to a temporary problem, as my TV guru Dog the Bounty Hunter would say. Pretending to leverage your life for a bit of tolerance is not only pointless, but likely to inspire scorn from those you seek to persuade.

Live your life for you, not for the faceless masses who don't even know you exist.


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    • Hope Alexander profile imageAUTHOR

      Hope Alexander 

      9 years ago

      I agree, newbie, though I have to say, suicide being illegal is one of the most retarded pieces of legislation on the books. How arrogant, unfeeling and unworkable is that?

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      9 years ago

      Wearing lingerie doesn't break any laws, suicide does, and it solves nothing - it's the cowards cop out.

      As usual Hope is dead on with her suggestions, and I urge you to take them onboard.

      Best Success


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      9 years ago

      Suicide, like divorce - a long term solution to a short term problem!


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      9 years ago

      As I have dealt with unsuccessful suicide attempts by two members of my family, I think I can speak with some level of experience on the topic.

      I see two possible threads here: one is real, the other is dramatic.

      The first, or real issue, is that this is actually a threat by someone with too many emotional issue for them to handle at this point in time. By threatening suicide the reader is already at stage 4 of 6... I fear that little we say or do in this forum is going to have much of an impact on the possibility of an attempt that will either be successful or not. Whoever you are, please know that suicide is a selfish act, one that you may feel will release you - and you would be arguably correct, but one that leaves all your pain on the shoulders of those who care most about you. The person who discovers your body, the person who must tell your parents or loved ones, those who must attend your services, those who will miss your companionship and those who you love and who love you... these are the victims such an act leaves behind. It will be years before the scars inflicted by this will leave if you are successful. If you are not successful, it will be years before they stop having moments of panic when the phone rings late at night or you don't repsond to messages or calls right away. I could go on, but I'm not sure it would help.

      If, on the other hand, this is simply a queen being dramatic - shame on you! Who are you to interrupt our sweet little group who loves to open our mind (only virtually here) to others and express our love and admiration for feminine attire? This is a light hearted and fun group as a whole who must have a good sense of humor and insight to deal with what we understand others think of us... yes, I believe men look sexy and attractive in clothes designed for women... and most people think I am either crazy or perverted... so what? For you to come in here and make a huge drama scene and provoke Hope to use her time to write about you is just a shame, a sin and a crime. Quit being a big baby and take your needy comments elsewhere.

      That said, I sincerely wish for your sake that the second scenario is the correct one and wish you well. Dress how you wish for the day, it does not really reflect your soul to the world.


    • SatinJenni profile image


      9 years ago from Burlington Ontario Canada

      Suicide is a pathetic response... deal with reality, you'll be amazed how easily you can overcome lifes obstacles. Hindsight really is 20/20 and you'll see her for what she is...selfish.

      Dude, honestly....If you want to wear panties do it, I have been doing it since I was a teen. Married with teens of my own these days. It only seems like a big problem if you let it be one. As you age, you realize the opinions of others are only empowered by your response. If some woman is belittling you, challenge her. Do not allow her to determine your life path or worse yet ...its ending. Most importantly, don't blame women in general for the actions of one person.

      Wearing lingerie is fun and you have every right to do so. If this is what you want to do, don't be controlled by anyone who would see you in another direction. Your not alone, many other guys wear lingerie too, join us for discussion, but leave the anger diffused.

      Best Wishes


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