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Men Who Respect Their Mothers
Men Who Respect Their Mothers
When a woman chooses a mate, she doesn't intend on choosing one who will disrespect her or abuse her in any way. Although, 7% of women find themselves in a physically abusive relationship and 37% is verbally or emotionally abused.
No one knows who they will end up with until they are surprised one day with either a good mate or a bad mate. most abusive men are on their best behavior in the beginning and don't show their stripes until one day he goes off on his wife or girlfriend because she forgot to cook dinner or clean the house, anything can set an abusive man off, leaving their mates becoming doormats or walking on eggshells around them.
I was always told by my mother that if you choose a mate, choose one who respects his mother or who did not come from a household where he witnessed his mother being abused by his father. That was a tall order coming from my mother, that is a slimn chance in the dating world, but luckily I found a good man by taking her advice. I've known some men who was very disrespectful to their mothers and they ended up abusing their wives and the abuse even spilled over to the children in some cases.
History usually repeats itself and those children may grow up and become abusers themselves. I'm a Christian who believes what the bible says: "Honor thy father and thy mother: that they days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee," Exodus 20:12. and "Children, obey your parents in all things:for this well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged," Colossians 3:20-21.
So, when I see a child being disrespectful to his or her parents I shake my head in disgust, knowing that this child will grow up and also be disrespectful to his or her spouse's and children. And any parent who does not nip it in the bud will be in for some disappointments later on. For a family to stay strong they have to have plenty of love and respect for one another, and this will carry over into your childs adult life and be passed down through generations. Wouldn't society be better with a world of respectable people in it.
Girls, Just don't settle for any man who comes strolling up to your hearts door, be wary of anyone until you get to know them well. Respect will keep you happy, it will keep you safe and from an abundance of it you'll know that you're loved. If a man doesn't honor his mother, he will not honor his girlfriend or wife.
Now, don't get it twisted and confused with a man whose 40 years old and he still asks his mother permission to go out on a date. You will be put on the back burner 9 out of 10 times when it comes to his mother. In life there is a such thing as balance, a man can still respect his mother and not be a mama's boy, which in return will make him a good husband for you.
This bible verse says it all: "For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh." Genesis 2:24.
If a man does not treat you like a delicate flower, opening up doors for you, pulling out chairs or watching what he says, so he doesn't offend you, he should not be given a second glance. This is only my opinion not a command. Sure, you're a strong independent woman whose rough and tough on the police force or active in the military and don't look for those qaulities and mannerism in a man. Needless to say, even you need to expect someone to respect you.
"Don't think my article is telling you to chain yourself to the kitchen stove or become barefoot and pregnant, this article is meant for women to seek men who will do anything in within their power to make sure he shows TLC "tender love and care, all the time to the women they claim to love."