Men leaving wives for Asian Women
Asia, especially Japan can be a dangerous place for married couples from western countries. Many couples arrive here happy, but in many unfortunate situations the wife has been known to go home alone. The reason for this is that the husband/boyfriend in many cases has found an interest in something or somebody else, something new, something he finds attractive and willing to take a chance with. Being in Japan for over a decade it is very easy to observe this unfortunate pattern, although this is not the case for every body. The reason I say Japan is because of the large number of expats coming over here with families on their 1-3 year assignments. As part of my job I handle the air/sea shipment logistics of their removals so I know who is who. E.g. Mr. Smith comes to Japan in 2008 with his family and then we move his family back out to the US with separate containers for him and his wife in 2011. We will probably be moving him an his new Japanese wife back out to the US a few years down the line.
Why Japanese Women?
Even after being here for over a decade, I can still say the Asian women are a very attractive race. Asian Women are not all westerners' cup of tea however the majority of foreign men I know who live in Japan do find a high percentage of Japanese attractive. Not to say that western and women of other races are not attractive but foreign men do often comment on the percentage of attractive women here in Japan.
A second reason is that the majority of Japanese women really do make a big effort to look their best on all occasions. Woman back in my country although just as attractive many not feel the need to look their absolute best every single day of the week, whereas many Japanese women do. I must admit I have seen some awesome transformations on the trains seeing the before and after make up. In many case the after make-up looks like a completely different person, sometimes bad, sometimes good.
The third reason is due to the cultural background. Although recently changing, Japan is and has always been a very male dominated country, and women grow up with these principles understanding what their role is in society. When a foreigner dates a Japanese women he immediately notices the traditional housewife type of service he gets from day one. The feeling of being treated with importance, the feeling of being served upon with a constant smile. Not that this is anything better than being with a western woman however most western men in Japan fall weak at the knees for this. However, a few years down the line married with kids and western men realize that there is actually no difference at all.
How do Japanese men feel?
Most Asian men, Japanese in this case feel no way threatened at all. They say that many foreigners have a strange taste in women and tend to date the ones that Japanese men have no interest in.
I have heard this a number of times and I must admit there is some truth in it. Japanese women who are too ugly to date Japanese men, and go to foreigners is very incorrect, however there are many Japanese women who have physical attributes which Japanese men do not find attractive and they are dating foreigners e.g. Japanese women on the larger or curvier side or have a darker complexion. In many cases I am able to point out the type of Japanese women who would date foreigners, and can even advise my friends "What about her?". These certain type of women although attractive would have difficultly having relationships with local Japanese men and tend to turn to foreigners.
I know very few foreigners who have dated/married your typical "gyaru" type Japanese women, with the ridiculously high heels, multiple brand bags, caked on make-up, 4-5cm false eyelashes, blond hair and weird color contacts lenses. These types seem to be reserved for the Japanese men however they will usually have no problem in becoming friends with foreigners.
Recently there have actually been a lot of marriages between Japanese man and foreign women. Not just women in the entertainment business looking to get a Visa,but professional western women are interested in Japanese men nowadays.
Expats in Japan
A very large number of expats have relocated to Japan this year, much higher then the previous years. After their projects are over I am wondering how many will still be with their partners from back home or with new Japanese partners.