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Men vs Women and Forgiveness

Updated on April 28, 2016

We all know that men and women are both emotional beings that happens to express their emotions quite different from one another. One of the major problems is that it's often stated that men are more logical while women are more emotional which then says the correspondent lacks logic or lacks emotions. This causes men to prove this lack of emotional part but also causes them to conceal what they really feel. Yea they can brush off things to an audience but deep down they are hurting. This hurt lasts longer then normal because they do not get the proper release.

Men do not forgive. They do not forgive because they try to hide that they were ever hurt in the first place. Even though they brush it off, they are angry and will have unpredictable outbursts. Sometimes they can hold a grudge so tough that it will prevent them from having a healthy relationship.

For men, you have to let them sort this out on their own. Begging them, trying to make them forgive you will only fuel the pain. You have to step away for awhile and let him deal with the issues he has with you.

Women are more compassionate. They care about how you feel. If they see that you're are also hurt from whatever mistake you made, she will work toward forgiving you if she doesn't forgive you at that moment. Women are expressive. They vent often so there's not alot of emotional build up to allow them to hold a grudge. The only thing is, women typically wants you to be there emotionally for them. If she has a sudden outburst of tears, she wants you to comfort her not tell her it's not that serious or walk out the room. If you do not be there emotionally for her, she may think you don't care or you are not as sorry as you said which will question her forgiveness.

This is not to say all men are unforgiving or all women forgive because that isn't always the case. This is a general observation.

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    • ife Orisha profile imageAUTHOR

      Ife Orisha 

      3 years ago from United States

      That's the point I've been trying to convey all along lol.

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      3 years ago

      In all honesty I believe forgiveness comes down to how much a person loves or cares about the person who betrayed or disappointed them.

      The less they care the less forgiving they'll be. Maybe those women who forgive more then men do so because they are more "emotionally invested" in the relationships then the men are. Very interesting topic!

    • ife Orisha profile imageAUTHOR

      Ife Orisha 

      3 years ago from United States

      Yes I agree. However I don't operate off of what society says. Another thing, it's not gender specific however, through experience and talking with men and women, it's stated that women forgive easier and more often than men. I had other men tell me this out of their own mouths. I am not making this up. This blog is based on general observation and general this is how it goes.

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      3 years ago

      "Just because a man stays doesn't mean he forgave her." Very true!

      Just because a woman stays doesn't mean she forgives a man either. And yet our society bases the "success of marriage" primarily by the number of years a couple has remained together.

      I know of couples that live in separate quarters of their household and they've been married for 40 years. Anything short of divorce is viewed a success!

      Essentially people (choose) what they consider to be their "best option" given the set of their circumstances.

      Forgiveness is based upon beliefs of the individual and not their gender.

      One man's opinion! :)

    • ife Orisha profile imageAUTHOR

      Ife Orisha 

      3 years ago from United States

      I did state that there are exceptions. I don't know if you missed that part or not but I did state that. This is just a general statement based off many MANY men and women I've talked to. Just because a man stays doesn't mean he forgave her.

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      3 years ago

      "Men do not forgive", Really? I know lots of guys who have been wronged, verbally abused, or cheated on by women and they stuck with them. Some guys have even been called "Pu**y Whipped" for being a (push over) when it comes to their women making demands on them.

      "Women are more compassionate", Try telling that to John Wayne Bobbitt whose wife Lorena Bobbitt cut his penis off and then drove away tossing it out the window. How about Travis Alexander who was stabbed 27 times, slit his throat, nearly decapitating him, and shot in the head by his ex girlfriend Jodi Arias while he took a shower because he broke up with her and dated another girl.

      My point is you can't automatically say men are one way and women are a different way. People are "individuals" and you never know what any one person might be capable of. They have a way of (surprising) you.

      In the U.S. (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorces filings! I would wager to guess a lot of these take place after a husband has been exposed as a cheater or has committed some form of transgression. Many of these women go onto seek as much money as they get or make it a goal crush him. That's not exactly what I term as being all that "forgiving". :)

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