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Men's Boxes and Women's Crossing Lines: The Way We Think!
Men Vs Women
I am sitting here looking at the computer checking my morning sites when I come across a couple of things that spark my interest and my attention all at once. I see Sunshine625’s hub on a slim waistline. I notice RealHouseWife published a hub called Do You Speak Manguage, which instantly reminds me of a video I had once seen about the difference between men’s brains and women’s brains. I am also watching the clock because I know I have a strict schedule to keep and thinking about when I will fit in a workout today as well as eating. I am remembering the conversation I had with my boyfriend last night about his business and trying to think of a way to make it as successful as possible so that I can stop worrying about money, start planning for a wedding and a family and focus on school all while pondering some fan mail I received.
While all of this is crossing my mind I start thinking about what I am going to write today. My conclusion… write about what I am thinking! Now if you have so far managed to keep up with me and you are a woman, I am not surprised, but if you are a man I am impressed! You see this seemingly random string of thoughts all connect to various parts of my life and to a man they probably do not make a lot of sense. After all how does a hub about manguage remind me of my fan mail? Well okay so that one is pretty easy to understand. You see the fan mail was left by a man who was telling me that I am not the same person everyday even though I seem to know who I am, which in truth means to me that I do not know who I am. Now being a bit unusual I greatly enjoyed this fan mail, but it did make me think. Was this supposed to be a compliment or perhaps it was supposed to help me find myself better. I am not really sure, but the point is that I would never have said something like that and the reason being is because I am a woman!
So what is the difference between everything that crossed my woman’s brain in such a short time and the way a man might think about it? There are two differences. The first deals with a conversation I had that discussed how men and women think in different terms. Men think in more solid terms such as ‘I can’ or ‘this is true’ or ‘that was a great play’ etc. Women think with more emotion such as, ‘Well I can understand how that would be true if that were all to be true, but what if…’ or ‘well the play was successful and so it seemed to be a good play, but they almost got flagged and that would have been disastrous to the rest of the game!’ etc. Women expect to vent frustrations, cry into shoulders when needed, and above all see and feel the love of family and friends. Men will just ‘rub some dirt on it’ and get through with their personal strengths and if they care about somebody they show it through compliments and facts instead of by saying ‘I love you.’
The second main difference between men and women is related to this video. Go ahead and take a few minutes to watch it.
Now that you are better informed I will continue as to what the second main difference is. This difference is in the way our brains process things. To me all of my thoughts, beliefs, values, etc seem to be connected and they make sense. They do not contradict each other and although they say different things when read or told individually, the truth is I understand them. To a man they have one specific way of thinking about all the important things in their life. The way to deal with money sits with one ideal while the way to deal with a job makes sense in a totally different way. For me, and other women I am sure, the way to deal with money might be this way, but it depends on my job, my family, my house, and what else needs to be done in my life. Therefore there might be a slight variation in my beliefs because it is dependent on so much else in the world!
Now this is only a taste of the difference between men and women and although a lot of people seem to fit the stereotype of their gender that does not mean that you have to match! From my opinion the truth depends on the person! (If that isn’t a woman’s answer I do not know what is!) Still it is a good thing to understand the opposite sex and maybe now you will understand all about the boxes and the criss-crossing lines of emotion!