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Feminist Hypocrisy And Bigotry. We Men Are Fed Up!
Prof. Janice Fiamengo Explains Her Motivations For Being An Anti-Feminist
Feminism Silences Discussion Of Men's Issues
Feminists Threatening The First International Conference On Men's Issues
Feminist Hypocrisy Is Institutionalised
An Overview Of The History Of Feminist Hypocrisy
Why I Write What I Write:
I am a feminist (please read on to understand what I mean by that) and I am a man. That is to say I believe women are of equal value to men and that women should have equal rights and opportunities to that of men. I am for the advocacy of women's rights without treading on the rights of men or disrespecting them in the process. I call that authentic feminism. I want to reclaim the word feminist, from the bigots and hypocrites calling themselves feminists and no I don't believe in patriarchy theory. Like most men, I have been constantly bombarded as a man by the hypocrisy of elements of the media, society and the feminist movement itself, on an almost daily basis for the majority of my life (especially being a generation Y male). I am writing this article and setting up this Hub profile, because frankly I am sick and tired of the hypocritical diatribes inflicted on men over what feels like every second of our existence. In addition, I am becoming increasingly frustrated by the omission of the acknowledgment of sexism against men and men’s problems and the associated societal inaction to tackle them.
Of course there will be some that say, “Quit your whinging”. From my perspective, I find such remarks baseless and highly manipulative. Why is it that as a man I don’t have the right to complain about blatant forms of discrimination and sexism against me? Why should I agree not to stand up for my rights as a man or even as a human being? To me such comments are designed to punish men into conforming to their own subjugation. It is shameless manipulation and I will have none of it. This tactic is highly prevalent and it needs to be called out for what it is-manipulation. Women famously claimed back the word slut. Well, I am claiming back the freedom to protect my rights as a man, live with it!
Men’s Rights And The Feminist Movement:
So as can be clearly inferred from above, whilst I am a feminist, I am also a masculist (or masculinist, whichever you prefer). That is, I believe that men are of equal value to women and should have equal rights and opportunities to that of women. I do get rather irritated at the notion put forward by a substantial number of feminists, that men’s rights issues are non-issues and that the men’s rights movement is anti-women. How exactly does the equality of women become undermined by action taken to seek to equality for men and address the sexism against them? The men’s rights movement is seeking equality for men, not supremacy. Therefore I fail to see the connection on how that threatens women’s equality.
Unfortunately it has been my experience that the feminist movement contains a substantial number of hypocrites and bigots. Of course not all feminists belong to this group, but a fair chunk of them do. It’s as if some of them are afraid of recognising the duality of sexism because it might undermine the progress of the feminist movement. What I mean by the duality of sexism, is that sexism against both men and women exists. However I don’t think fear explains most of it. Frankly I think most of these feminists are simply incredibly narcissistic and machiavellian individuals. Feminism for them is about maximising self interest rather than advocating fairness and justice. They do not want equality and whilst they will not dare admit it in public, it is plainly clear that they want gender supremacy and hide behind a false banner of egalitarianism when it suits them. They manipulate, deceive and distort people’s perceptions for their own twisted sense of entitlement.
The Fallacy Of The Us Against Them Mentality:
For some reason many feminists (but not all) seem to ignore or be unaware of the reality that sexism against men and against women are not mutually exclusive phenomena. If I have a daughter, I have the right to see that my daughter has the all the opportunities my son has. If my potential future wife has a son, she has the right to see that her son has all the opportunities her daughter has. As a potential future husband, I want the right to have an environment where my wife can find equal employment to my own and walk around at night safely. If I have a potential future wife, she has the right to see that I have as much support from our legal, health and education systems as women do.
Clearly women and men care about each others wellbeing. Ergo the rights of men and women are not mutually exclusive. The simple fact is, there are no women’s’ rights or men’s rights, there are just human rights. Yet a substantial number of feminists seem ignorant or choose to ignore this inconvenient reality and instead engage in this us against them trench warfare. It’s counterproductive and it undermines the legitimacy of feminism. Men and women do not live on islands. Our lives are interconnected and what affects one, will inevitably affect the other. I love the women in my life and it is part of men’s’ rights to see that women are given equality because we as men care for them. Likewise true feminism recognises that women have a right to see the men they love in their lives given equality because women deeply care for men.
I promise this is just the opening salvo and I am but one of an exponentially growing number of men that have had enough. I am 29 years old and belong to the group of generation Y men that have known nothing other than hostility against our masculinity since birth. As boys we grew up in an environment constantly attacking our male identity. The damage that the radical forms of the feminist movement which have been prevalent in our society over last 25 or so years (and I say prevalent because yes they are commonplace), have done to boys and are continuing to inflict on them is literally indescribable. Rest assured there will be many articles to come. There is so much misandric garbage out there you could probably do a doctorate on the subject.
If feminists and women in general want true equality, then you must make it your mission to call out those in your ranks for the bigots and hypocrites that they are. There are some admirable women such as Karen Straughan and Alison Tieman on YouTube that have done exactly that. However they are a small few and are just a drop in the ocean. Society needs more women like them, indeed its survival depends on it. We need collective action by women and feminist bodies to address the bigotry and hypocrisy within their ranks. By staying silent on blatant misandry by these so called feminists, you are passively confirming what they say represents what you stand for. By failing to recognise and support action to address men’s problems, you are partly responsible for perpetuating those problems and also their eventual devastating consequences. Let me modify the words of Edmund Burke, “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good women to do nothing”.
I guess there will be some women that will spin what I say so that I come off as some misogynist. Apparently to these women if I am not blindly agreeing with everything they say I am a misogynist and therefore not a feminist. Apparently to these women standing up for my rights as a man makes me anti-women. Apparently to these women acknowledging the rampant misandry in our society is anti-feminist. Hence I thought I would call myself the "MasculistFeminist". The machiavellians of this world love to label people and I thought I would beat them to it. Labelling allows them to ostracise those that think for themselves, reinforce group conformity and strengthen their control over others. Alternatively perhaps they will play the old card of downplaying what I say. That is suggesting that men’s problems and misandry are some myth. Or possibly they will claim it is the sole responsibility of men to address men’s issues. They have certainly become experts at drawing people’s attention away from the reality that problems that affect men will eventually negatively affect women and the reality that men are shamed from standing up for themselves on gender issues. To these women I say this, you can only hold a cork underwater for so long….
For further discussion on feminism, please consult my articles on why so many people are against feminism, why feminism is hate, why feminist patriarchy theory is wrong, why feminist ideology is dangerous, how feminism is a business and how feminism could contribute to social collapse. For discussion on men's human rights issues, please read my Hubs on why men's issues are ignored and on gynocentrism first and then consult my Hub profile for other articles on men's human rights.