The mistakes Lindsay Lohan has learned from
The right decisions aren't always the hardest.
The world around us is completely undiscovered from the time we are born until somewhere into our mid-twenties (studies have shown).
Sights, sounds, tastes but mostly personalities and intentions drive our learning to it's fullest potential. Or to it's worst conclusions.
Rebellion strikes a large percentage of young people. Is it due to strict parental oversight. Or a lack of any attention being paid to the children at all?
I'd hate to be the one to answer this question but based on my personal experience the real answer is a combination of uneven parenting. Attention to what the child/teenager is doing afforded on an uneven schedule, punishments dismissed by the punished and no follow-up by the parent to enforce the rules.
I may have a certain bias being raised in a single parent (mother) household with a brother only one year younger that I was. To say that my mother decided it was easier for us to co-exist rather than following the parental/child roles otherwise accepted as normal would be very accurate.
The major rule we had was don't bring the police to the front door, not that there were incidents that helped mom come up with that rule but based on my brother and my activities at the time it was certainly prudent.
As my brother and I grew older, into our late teens, he went one way and I went the other.
I did find the strength to help me make better choices in my life not from my over-worked and supportive mother but from my grandfather.
This man could take any problem you had and without being judgmental speak plainly about the choices that were offered in any circumstance and get to the heart of the matter in only a few words.
He helped me to understand that life is full of positive and rewarding experiences as long as you could understand all of the choices and options available. And see the positives and the negatives of every choice to make.
He told me that often the best rewards come from the hardest options of what to do and sometimes you need to wait a day or two to see if a better option comes along.
If Lindsay Lohan had listened to her "mentors" as she revealed in her Playboy interview (and centerfold spread in the January/February 2012 issue) her young life would not have been so trouble filled.
She said "Looking back, I probably would have listened to and taken more advice from the people whom I admire and would have followed through with it more."
When I look back I realize that many times I did not take what would have been my grandfather's advice and for that there was usually an unexpected price due at the end of the "happening" that could have been avoided with myself using the common sense I had been taught.
I miss my grandfather dearly but as I get older his wisdom is not lost on me and I try my best to share it with all that ask.
And my life has become so much more stable, with shallower waves that used to be so much larger causing much more of my life's troubles.
I hope that you have someone in your life that is a positive influence and has the wisdom to help you make the right decisions, even as the power to turn right or left at a crossroad in your life is ultimately yours and understanding that the consequences of your actions will always be yours.