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Mistakes that Held me back from Moving on

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Something can hold you back from reaching your goals

Any obstacle can hold you back in your life

It has been a while now and I have moved on from past issues.

Though times can be incredible on certain occasions, I don't allow the negative thoughts get into my positive thoughts.

· I laugh, smile and enjoy each day.

Whether, alone, or with my family I remain the same from inside and from the outside.

I have been right about almost everything I had a gut feeling of my experiences, but my mistakes held me back.

I tried to be friendly with the false types of individuals. I learned from that mistake, and that showed me not to stoop down to their level.

I am trying to be that Hollywood actress when in the presence with certain people, but it is just not working out for me.

Instead, I prefer to show my feelings to everyone and that is my way of showing my true self.

I learned after meeting people, especially of those who I respected but had lost that respect when I saw their true behaviors.

The feeling when you enter a room with people you know that instant discomfort. I often sensed that feeling when I visited a family. I stopped going there because I don’t need those feelings in me.

It was one of my mistakes to think those people are loving and warm-hearted.

I learned more about people around me. I found out more from myself.

I made a mistake in thinking that I can be part of a family that did not show me their true feelings of warmth.

I did not think it would be a problem if I just popped by for coffee. Soon I realized they pretended to be nice, and friendly.

Deep down that is not what they truly felt for me.

· The little mistakes held me back from moving on with my life.

I was held back from moving on when I worked as a Chambermaid. The many rooms for one person and could not manage the daily timetable.

I did not see any progress from the pittance of a pay that got me from month to month. A poorly managed hotel and not many employees to help out with the hard work made me feel disillusioned.

I learned that it was time for me to quit. Another mistake that taught me to figure out what I need to do for myself.

I have accepted my mistakes and time had given me more opportunities. I opened my mind to different thoughts.

Life made me see many events with more strength and pride.

I have pride and joy in my life.

· I trusted her and she chose to gossip about me a mistake that I learned from very quickly.

Mistakes are meant to be made and are meant to be corrected for the future. You shouldn't make the same mistake twice. I tried and I make sure not to repeat my mistakes.

· I don't want to go backwards in life.

I tried to talk to people and felt they did not need my conversations. I ignored those who felt that way. It is not necessary for me to talk to those who don't accept me in their group.

· The false people surely know how to smile and talk to you when they are in need of something.

I have experienced a lot of that sort of behavior and finally decided to not have them on my list. In the beginning I did have a list of people, I don't have that list anymore..

My mistakes allowed me to know the people much better, and to be with people who care for me from the heart.

· I don't need a people pleaser and I am not a people pleaser!

I have tried to be friendly with everyone; I noticed that it is not possible to be friendly with everyone.

There are only a few people that I can truly talk to and laugh with to find that sense of humor as I have from the heart.

Different mentalities and a different culture have got me interested in the way people live here.

Most of the people live off their land and have been doing that for most of their lives. I am in no place to compare their life to mine. I know what it is like to have everything in my life and they don't know much of that.

I am from the African continent, Republic of South Africa and now living in Europe has been a challenging lifestyle for me.

I know that the local people and I are as chalk and cheese.

I am in my level of life, and prefer to be that way. Life has changed me here, and all my mistakes improved me in many ways.

I don't hold a grudge and forgive people easily.

I avoid talking about happened weeks ago that is in the past and should stay there.

I don't pick on what happened years ago that don't matter to me.

· Now is my priority.

I enjoy being with happy people.

I don't like to dwell.

Too much has happened in my life and dwelling is not the way to go.

I can't change the way people think but I can change the way I see life.

I am capable of taking risks and don't ignore how I got to a better stage.

I have not forgotten my roots I know where I came from and treasure that part of my life.

· For example:

I know of many people who left Croatia to seek a better life in the United States of America, and after the many years of living away they have forgotten their roots.

They come annually to experience the good of Croatia but don’t pay attention to what was in Croatia. Often they would talk negative about their country and their people.

· What is the sense of what you have if you don’t appreciate your country of birth?

People who behave this way don't know the difficult life of Croatia. It is only about having the good holidays in this country.

I haven't forgotten my life back in South Africa I don't look at life as most people do.

I have seen my years from all sides not just from the good side.

I made mistakes that kept me in one place for a while but now I have to get on with what I enjoy best and apart from writing my summer job is great.

It is a great feeling to work for myself and look at how life has treated me thus far or how I have treated me.

It has been hard for me take in all the different thoughts of people, and to cope with the lifestyle.

I know that my life will never be the same again. At least I have my loved ones close to me and I am happy with what goes on in my daily events.

My biggest mistake of all I did not know the language from day one. I don't regret anything in my life that I know had changed me into a better person.

People are the same everywhere you go. It all depends on how you understand each other and listening is a great way to make that improvement.

I often like taking in the fresh air to feel good and stress-free.

My life is going well and I chose to be the way I enjoy best. I chose to be open-minded, happy, loving and strong for my daily thoughts.

I have enlightened you on my true side of life. I hope you found this hub as an entertaining read.

A side of me that you now more of than from before.

In all the mistakes made I learned from each one and corrected my steps as I moved along.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Au fait thank you and you are right dwelling is not worth anyone's time.

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      It is a waste of time to dwell on the past. It can't be changed. Learn what you can from your mistakes and move on. Mainly, one must try not to let the past sabotage the future. Thought provoking hub as usual.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ubanichijioke thank you for stopping by so glad you came by.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 3 years ago from Lagos

      "Mistakes are meant to be made and are meant to be corrected for the future" apologies to you DDE for stealing that phrase. I quite agree with you that mistakes must be made but how we grow out of it should always be our priority. I have learnt never to allow people dictate my life for me and as it is, I am still bouncing in optimism. Living to learn from other people's mistakes have kept me going.

      A wonderfully written piece with sheer honest. keep up the good work.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CMHypno thank you for stopping by. Sometimes we just don't see the behaviors of others as harmful unless we get hurt.

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      CMHypno 3 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

      It seems to be a strange trait of us humans that rather than hang out and make friends with good people on our wavelength we prefer to bang our head against brick walls trying to change or improve people who will never treat us well.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Janellegems thank you and I am glad you let go and moved on.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Denise Handlon thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MG Singh thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you very much for sharing such great thoughts I appreciate all votes

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you for being one of my great supporters.

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      Great Hub. I encountered similar experiences with people as you described and learned many lessons about people, myself and life. There were times I had to let go and move on. Thanks for sharing your experiences and perspective.

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      Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

      DDE I think there is much to be learned about the decisions we make and our mistakes. Good self reflection.

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      MG Singh 3 years ago from Singapore

      Nice post and perspective.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      " I have pride and joy in my life" if you have both these emotions you are doing fine despite the hurt you may have encountered on the way to achieving them. as always your article deals with the subject in a no-nonsense way which I admire. Voted up,useful and interesting.

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      Lots of good lessons here. Sometimes it is time to move on and yet, we can treasure what we learned from each experience.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      brakel2 thank you very much for stopping by I appreciate your kind thoughts.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you very much for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you very much for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      cecileportilla thank you and very true.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi RachaelOhalloran I am glad you get my point in all of this. ''It is very hard to get to know people, learn the language, ways of life, what is acceptable etiquette and not, different foods (that was hard for us!), and try to get along with certain people for the sake of getting along. I don't do that any more. If I don't get along, I steer clear. I refuse to put up with anyone for "sake" - if we click, we click, if we don't, we move on to someone who cares and we can care about them.'' We are a team and understand our decisions made. Thank you for sharing your experience here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi word55 thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CyberShelley thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker, thank you

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      Audrey Selig 3 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      DDE. The photos are filled with splendor. Your choice of topic interested me, as we all make mistakes and must forgive ourselves and move on. Some people live in many places which may be good experience. The points you made were very well organized and created interest. Sharing hub. Blessings. Audrey

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      The transition from life in South Africa to life in Croatia must have been very difficult for you. I admire your determination to learn from past mistakes and to lead a happy life, Devika. As always, I enjoyed looking at your photos of Croatia.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      I am glad that you have the strength to continue to move forward instead of letting others trap you with negativity.

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      Cecile Portilla 3 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

      Yes we all make mistakes DDE! However, learning from them and moving forward is the key.

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      Rachael O'Halloran 3 years ago from United States

      For personal reasons, my husband and I move every five to eight years. New state, new friends, new church, new ways of living. It was very difficult when my children were younger to pick up and move so often and for a while we actually did live in one place for 15 years. It is very hard to get to know people, learn the language, ways of life, what is acceptable etiquette and not, different foods (that was hard for us!), and try to get along with certain people for the sake of getting along. I don't do that any more. If I don't get along, I steer clear. I refuse to put up with anyone for "sake" - if we click, we click, if we don't, we move on to someone who cares and we can care about them.

      You don't know who your friends are until something happens and that's when they prove or disprove themselves. I sympathize with you leaving your roots to establish new roots in Croatia. It's always hard to leave behind the familiar and that which we love. I feel as long as you have a loving spouse who is going the same road with you, it makes it all that much easier. At least it does for us.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Always move forward....I grew up with that mantra....and I have tried to do so.

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Very good ideas DDE, We hold ourselves back too due to lack of confidence and faith. Thank you for sharing.

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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      It is such a huge move from South Africa to Croatia. Well done on the transition Devika.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very interesting. Now is the only moment.