- Gender and Relationships
Mistakes that Held me back from Moving on
Any obstacle can hold you back in your life
It has been a while now and I have moved on from past issues.
Though times can be incredible on certain occasions, I don't allow the negative thoughts get into my positive thoughts.
· I laugh, smile and enjoy each day.
Whether, alone, or with my family I remain the same from inside and from the outside.
I have been right about almost everything I had a gut feeling of my experiences, but my mistakes held me back.
I tried to be friendly with the false types of individuals. I learned from that mistake, and that showed me not to stoop down to their level.
I am trying to be that Hollywood actress when in the presence with certain people, but it is just not working out for me.
Instead, I prefer to show my feelings to everyone and that is my way of showing my true self.
I learned after meeting people, especially of those who I respected but had lost that respect when I saw their true behaviors.
The feeling when you enter a room with people you know that instant discomfort. I often sensed that feeling when I visited a family. I stopped going there because I don’t need those feelings in me.
It was one of my mistakes to think those people are loving and warm-hearted.
I learned more about people around me. I found out more from myself.
I made a mistake in thinking that I can be part of a family that did not show me their true feelings of warmth.
I did not think it would be a problem if I just popped by for coffee. Soon I realized they pretended to be nice, and friendly.
Deep down that is not what they truly felt for me.
· The little mistakes held me back from moving on with my life.
I was held back from moving on when I worked as a Chambermaid. The many rooms for one person and could not manage the daily timetable.
I did not see any progress from the pittance of a pay that got me from month to month.
A poorly managed hotel and not many employees to help out with the hard work made me feel disillusioned.
I learned that it was time for me to quit. Another mistake that taught me to figure out what I need to do for myself.
I have accepted my mistakes and time had given me more opportunities. I opened my mind to different thoughts.
Life made me see many events with more strength and pride.
I have pride and joy in my life.
· I trusted her and she chose to gossip about me a mistake that I learned from very quickly.
Mistakes are meant to be made and are meant to be corrected for the future. You shouldn't make the same mistake twice. I tried and I make sure not to repeat my mistakes.
· I don't want to go backwards in life.
I tried to talk to people and felt they did not need my conversations. I ignored those who felt that way. It is not necessary for me to talk to those who don't accept me in their group.
· The false people surely know how to smile and talk to you when they are in need of something.
I have experienced a lot of that sort of behavior and finally decided to not have them on my list. In the beginning I did have a list of people, I don't have that list anymore..
My mistakes allowed me to know the people much better, and to be with people who care for me from the heart.
· I don't need a people pleaser and I am not a people pleaser!
I have tried to be friendly with everyone; I noticed that it is not possible to be friendly with everyone.
There are only a few people that I can truly talk to and laugh with to find that sense of humor as I have from the heart.
Different mentalities and a different culture have got me interested in the way people live here.
Most of the people live off their land and have been doing that for most of their lives. I am in no place to compare their life to mine. I know what it is like to have everything in my life and they don't know much of that.
I am from the African continent, Republic of South Africa and now living in Europe has been a challenging lifestyle for me.
I know that the local people and I are as chalk and cheese.
I am in my level of life, and prefer to be that way. Life has changed me here, and all my mistakes improved me in many ways.
I don't hold a grudge and forgive people easily.
I avoid talking about happened weeks ago that is in the past and should stay there.
I don't pick on what happened years ago that don't matter to me.
· Now is my priority.
I enjoy being with happy people.
I don't like to dwell.
Too much has happened in my life and dwelling is not the way to go.
I can't change the way people think but I can change the way I see life.
I am capable of taking risks and don't ignore how I got to a better stage.
I have not forgotten my roots I know where I came from and treasure that part of my life.
· For example:
I know of many people who left Croatia to seek a better life in the United States of America, and after the many years of living away they have forgotten their roots.
They come annually to experience the good of Croatia but don’t pay attention to what was in Croatia. Often they would talk negative about their country and their people.
· What is the sense of what you have if you don’t appreciate your country of birth?
People who behave this way don't know the difficult life of Croatia. It is only about having the good holidays in this country.
I haven't forgotten my life back in South Africa I don't look at life as most people do.
I have seen my years from all sides not just from the good side.
I made mistakes that kept me in one place for a while but now I have to get on with what I enjoy best and apart from writing my summer job is great.
It is a great feeling to work for myself and look at how life has treated me thus far or how I have treated me.
It has been hard for me take in all the different thoughts of people, and to cope with the lifestyle.
I know that my life will never be the same again.
At least I have my loved ones close to me and I am happy with what goes on in my daily events.
My biggest mistake of all I did not know the language from day one. I don't regret anything in my life that I know had changed me into a better person.
People are the same everywhere you go. It all depends on how you understand each other and listening is a great way to make that improvement.
I often like taking in the fresh air to feel good and stress-free.
My life is going well and I chose to be the way I enjoy best. I chose to be open-minded, happy, loving and strong for my daily thoughts.
I have enlightened you on my true side of life. I hope you found this hub as an entertaining read.
A side of me that you now more of than from before.
In all the mistakes made I learned from each one and corrected my steps as I moved along.
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© 2014 Devika Primić