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Modesty Quotes from Older Women
All five women quoted are excellent teachers and authors. They deserve commendation for taking the high road with presentations on issues--purity and modesty-- which many would rather not touch. Between them, there is a wealth of resources for ministry to women and for women.
The following quotations are useful as discussion ice breakers in a youth group, or in a mentoring session where other “older women” participate in guiding the younger toward a life of beauty and modesty.
Lisa Bevere is a Christian author, television program host and international conference speaker. The following quotes are from her popular book, Kissed The Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In.
- Men are not inspired to protect women who are naked, but instead to conquer and violate them; they want to protect those who are clothed.
- Men like to flirt with, and sometimes even date a wild child, but those women aren’t usually first on their lists for marriage or motherhood.
- Wearing a low-cut, cleavage-revealing top is called suggestive. What does it suggest? That there is more than what you now see, and I may let you look closer since I'm already willing to give you this much of a peek.
- Your enemy wants to strip you, make sport of you, and merchandise your body, but your heavenly Father wants to clothe you with beauty, strength, dignity and honor that will endure.
- God looks at the heart, and we shouldn’t judge by appearance . . . but we still live on the earth, and everyone here looks at the exterior, because only God sees the interior.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Nancy Leigh DeMoss is a Christian author, one of her most popular books being Lies Women Believe. The following are quoted from interviews and her radio show, Revive Our Hearts, which inspires women to godly womanhood.
- If I determine to live my life for the glory of God—that will affect why I wear what I wear. It will make me think about what I wear.
- An immodestly dressed woman is giving away something that doesn’t belong to her. This principle of ownership means that you and I are not free to dress in any way we please. We’re accountable to God.
- Starting young means dressing your daughter modestly now. Don’t put her in skimpy outfits when she’s little expecting her to change her look once she grows up.
- Modesty is really a way of thinking about God, about men, and about ourselves.
- True beauty is internal and spiritual. We ought to honor God through the way we dress, but our outward appearance should be a reflection of an inward spirit that’s pure and submissive to Christ.
For more than ten years, Elisabeth Elliot hosted a radio program Gateway To Joy, in affiliation with Back to the Bible broadcasts. She also authored several books, one of the most popular being, Passion and Purity from which some of these quotes are taken.
- Modesty means to be free from undue familiarity, from indecency, from lewdness, pure in thought and conduct. Speaking of modest apparel, it means decent, seemly. The opposite of modesty is conceit, boldness, immodesty, brazenness, lewdness.
- Prostitutes dress obviously, so as to draw attention. It’s their business, isn’t it? The last thing that a Christian woman is thinking of is being like a prostitute.
- Holiness has never been the driving force of the majority. It is, however, mandatory for anyone who wants to enter the kingdom.
- The will of God is not something you add to your life. It’s a course you choose. You either line yourself up with the Son of God…or you capitulate to the principle which governs the rest of the world.
- It seems disrespectful to me to see ladies in church in very short skirts or skimpy, sleeveless tops. I would imagine that it could be distracting to men who are trying to keep their minds on God.
Dannah Gresh is a champion for purity and modesty. Her first book And The Bride Wore White is one of her most popular. The following quotes are from Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power Of Modesty.
- You were created as a masterpiece and you are one of God’s expressions of beauty. Short, tall, thin, thick, freckles, big eyes, small ones . . . it doesn’t matter.
- Modesty is a great paradox. Though an immodest woman creates insatiable curiosity in a guy, it is the modest girl whose heart he most desires.
- A girl’s modesty is first noted by her external presentation, but if it’s not followed by the confidence of internal modesty, she still forfeits the power of her virtue.
- You cannot limit the power of your modesty to just what you wear. It is also controlled or forfeited by where you are willing to go with guys, why you go there, and how you act.
- The allure of immodesty is not in what is seen but what is not seen. Modesty issues a challenge for one man to romantically earn your virtue.
Ellen G. White
Ellen G. White is an inspirational writer who lived, most of her years, during the nineteenth century. She wrote on many varied topics, and her most popular work, Steps To Christ has been published in more than 100 languages. The following quotes are from various publications.
- It is right to love beauty and to desire it; but God desires us to love and seek first the highest beauty, that which is imperishable. No outward adorning can compare in value or loveliness with that "meek and quiet spirit. (Education)
- True beauty of dress consists in its simplicity . . . What do these devotees of fashion gain? Only the satisfaction of being admired, like a butterfly. (Health Reform March 1, 1874).
- A modest, godly woman will dress modestly. . . The one who is simple and unpretending in her dress and in her manners shows that she understands that a true woman is characterized by moral worth. (Review and Herald, November 17, 1904)
- Our clothing, while modest and simple, should be of good quality . . . It should be chosen for durability rather than display. (Ministry of Healing)
- Do not make yourself the subject of remarks either by being overdressed or by dressing in a lax, untidy manner. Act as though you knew that the eye of heaven is upon you, and that you are living under the approbation or disapprobation of God. (Manuscript 53, 1912)
© 2012 Dora Isaac Weithers